Have you ever?...?
Just wanted to end a friendship/relationship with someone who at point you felt a bond to, in whateve way -and it's like you never wanted to tell them it's over, you just wanted to end everything in the secrecy-like block their phone; remove pics; not answer when they call-because you felt they did you wrong, and after you gave them a chance they messed up again and again?...And, it made you feel good to have that power, because you can walk away and not care, because it;s their* fault the friendship ended in the 1st place?..
* I have a friend who I've been friends with for 3 years now. And, when it comes to messages and phone calls-she's flaky. I *even ask when it's convenient for her to talk and call at the time she says , but no aswr-when I call, nor a reply. *She apologises and I know she cares for me, she's told me- I'm one of her BFF-but this has happened 3 different times now and I'm getting sick of it.
2007-09-05 15:56:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think you need to speak with her abought your feelings and make her understand, you also need to be open to what she says to you and what reasons she gives, all in all it would be silly to let a friendship liek that go down the drain over a silly arguement wouldnt it?
2007-09-05 16:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by stratacaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have ended friendships like that before, it makes me feel like I havnt finished with the siduation though. However now that I am older I realize that somtimes life is exausting and I too dont return phone calls half the time. Sometimes after work kids or just a long drive you dont feel like doing anyhting that might stimulate the over worked brain. You have to ask your slef if you want to be in a friendship that has the potential to make you angry or feel unimportant. However, 3 times isnt very much, maybe send her a message and let her know how much this bothers you one more time. Is this a online only friendship? If it is, it is much easier to drop off the grid with them than it is in RL. But there is one more contridiction i would like to address, if you drop off, then no matter whos fault it is you ended it. If she drops off then she ended it, try not calling her and leaving the line of communication open and see how long it takes for them to call you back.
2007-09-05 23:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by wyldkisses79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, Ive wanted to.
Have I? No..
My hearts too big I guess.
Also, Im a big fan of closure..and not someoody else's closure..I need the type of closure that I have a hard time finding. I have to usually confront the person,then get mad at them, then make an *** out of myself and apologize and want to be back with them or be their friend, and then it doesnt work and SO I get mad and think of every possible reason why they are a bad person, and THEN..and only then, can I move on. geez. thats pathetic. haha.
True though,
I believe in second chances, however I give people 42 chance.s..so the fault is really on me. i'd love to pick up and dump some friends and relationships bc its unfair when its one way,..
2007-09-05 23:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by DeepTranslation09 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like removing yourself off the face of the earth is necessary to end the friendship.... She is pretty much doing that for you by ignoring you.
Sounds to me like she has already made the decision to call the friendship quits.
If you are gaining nothing by remaining in contact with her, then I suggest you just leave it alone, and stop trying to reach out to her, because she is obviously not concerned in investing any of her precious time into the freindship.
2007-09-05 23:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Gizzard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she really is busy. People call me all the time, but I don't feel like talking because I know i'll be on the phone for hours if I do answer. I usually have work to do or errands to run, so I don't have time for the phone.
2007-09-05 23:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't appreciate you like you do her, just find other Friends to hang out with and this won matter as much, but don't ever cut her out of you life cause there might be a day when she really needs you or you her. the more friends you have the better even those that you don't see as much
2007-09-05 23:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tiana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't need a brick to fall on my head to let me know that she doesn't want to bothered. I would not call, I would wait for her to call me. If she doesn't call, you are not really losing a friend. You can only be used and abused if you allow it. Oh, and talk is cheap, I could tell you the same thing, but I don't have to mean it.
2007-09-05 23:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then find you someone else...its obvious something is going on, I`m sure you can get more real friends...try and talk to her FIRST see whats going on if its something inside, she wants to be alone, or try blocking your number and see if she`ll answer...if all else fails and you`ve done everything wish her well and try to move on.I`ve been through the same, thats why I say (talk) to her
2007-09-05 23:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i been threw that position i even lost long time friend due to money and started to see other ppl.. so we ended and havent heard from her in yrs.. i know what its like to try to forgot someone that you really had fun times with and leave them aside ...
2007-09-05 23:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by smoothkiller89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk 2 her...... and if she does feel the same way take a little break from the friend ship....... and if she doesnt then u can tell her whats bothering u and mabe she will understand
2007-09-05 23:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ally M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋