I am a 30 y/o male and my wife is 31 - we have a 16 month old child together and haven't had sex in 2 months - in fact, we've only had sex 5 times this year - how concerned should I be and what can I do?
2007-09-05 14:58:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you for your responses - we have a ton of stress - we own 2 restaurants which is a lot but I'm still concerned that no matter what I do - backrubs, take her out to dinner alone, candlelight baths together, we still are not intimate at all - what else can I do?
2007-09-05 15:18:42 · update #1
if it was me, I would probly land in a mental hospital or something
2007-09-05 15:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
16 month old children are incredibly taxing, on both of you.
Have you guys gone out without the squid yet? Sounds like it's time to find a good babysitter, or let grandma have an overnight. If you "date" regularly, and still no sex, then maybe you're all a bit more stressed than usual and should talk with your doctor. Or could there be other problems?
2007-09-05 22:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CAN live without it for longer, ya know? But in all fairness, she may not be in the mood when you are. She may be in the mood, and you are not there. Find a way to ask her if there is a physical ailment preventing her from wanting intimacy.( Itch, yeast infection, period, spotting, pain?) She may just have a reason! Perhaps subconsciously she doesn't want to get pregnant again right now. If you are 30, then you should be old enough to get the questions out without being embarrassed. If she always leaves the child with you and goes out with her friends, and doesn't get home til morning, then worry about where she is getting it.
2007-09-05 22:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by Red Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are concerned and probably miserable and frustrated. Get to a counselor, the longer you let this go on--the harder it will be to get back to "normal." She does have a lot of pressure and responsibility with the new baby, so have you tried helping her out so she has some extra time in the evening? Rubbing her back to help relax her? Give her some x-tra attention and let her know that you still desire her. Good luck.
2007-09-05 22:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, I would be most concerned. You and your wife are too young to be on the abstinence bandwagon. There has to be a reason.
Are you loving and interested in your wife. If she works outside the home, do you help with the household chores (50% - 50%)? Do you shower regularly; are you concerned with the sexual adequacy of your love making? Does your wife really climax, or is she just faking it for your sake?
If that does not work, see a counselor.
2007-09-05 22:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by ALUCARD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE U SHOULD TRY HELPING OUT WITH THE BABY GET A TRUSTED BABYSITTER ANDMAKE ARRANGEMENTS FOR A ROMANTIC EVENING WITH A NIGHT TO NEVER FORGET DONT FORGET THE RED ROSSES AND THE CHOCALATES IT BRINGS BACK ROMANCE TRY IT
2007-09-09 20:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your wife if somethings wrong. if she doesn't like it or maybe shes just tired from keeping up w/ the kid.
2007-09-05 22:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by pennypoolblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋