15. and im pregnant. ugh?

Question

yes you got it right
im only 15
What do i do..
Im pregnant
and.about 7 weeks in...

4 weeks late for my period.
What do I do. How do i tell my parents or my boyfriend.
ugh
he and i have been together for about a year
a year in 4 days..

help me

Answer 1

Im 18 yrs old, and just found out 3days ago i was pregnant. Granted, im a few yrs older than you, but im still scared. You just have to tell them. There is no way to candy-coat this kind of thing. Be straight forward and honest. They will be upset at first. But, give them time. hope everything works out for the best and i hope you have a healthy baby :) Goodluck!

Answer 2

Oh no. I really feel for you. I could write you a huge long letter right now, but I won't. I've been in your shoes. I was 16 when I got pregnant (first time I had ever had sex). My mom was a devout Christian and I was so scared to tell her. I told my boyfriend but he didn't care.

I reached out for a family member (my aunt) and she helped me. I ended up getting an abortion. My aunt signed for me because my mom didn't know about it. I was 3 months pregnant to the day.

At the time, I thought it was the best thing. This guy I was with (and had NO business being around) was abusive and mean. I carried on many years always standing by my decision to have an abortion.

I am 26 years old now and I got married when I was 24. Soon after that, I got pregnant on purpose with my beautiful baby boy.

There's not a day that goes by that I don't regret having the abortion. It wasn't until that I held my baby that I truly and deeply greived the loss of the baby that I aborted. I feel very guilty and almost frantic at times because I want to go back so bad and change my mind. I feel terrible that I did that and I am just SO SO SO SORRY. It's almost like a bad dream, I can't believe I did something like that.

I guess your rationale when you are 16 is much different than when you are 26. I just want you to know that I really regret it. I'm sorry you got pregnant, you are going to have some rough times no matter what. If there are any other teens out there reading this, please, don't have sex or if you do, use a condom! Don't be too embarrassed to put one on! Girls, insist on it! It can ruin your life.

Even though my life looks perfect from the outside, I hold great sorrow in my soul for what I've done.

Just so you know, I'm not a crazy anti-abortion person. I am pro-CHOICE and I vote to keep other womens' rights available. I want every woman to make their own decision, just like I did, regrets or no regrets. I personally regretted it....10 years later...but nevertheless, I regret it, very much so.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell your parents!!!!!No matter how upset they may be most parents will understand and stand by you. Wait to tell your boyfriend until your parents can be there with his parents. If he won't stand up and be counted hold on to your family.
You have many resources. Look into keeping the child yourself(the best answer even though it will be hard).You'll be glad you did later in life.
Also there is adoption of course and by asking your local Social Service or Religious advisor they can start the ball rolling for you.
You really shouldn't be discussing this on the internet as there are many unscrupulous and dangerous people that will try to take advantage of you who watch for these postings
on the Internet.
And told say ugh!! A baby is not an ugh!!!!

Answer 4

WHATEVER YOU DO DONT GET AN ABORTION!!!!!!!! That should not even be on your mind, anyways i would let your boyfriend know first only because it is the right thing to do because he is the father, If he really loves you then he will get through this with you i know that it may be hard because you are so young but life isen't hopeless i know you can get through it, Just whatever you do dont let your boyfriend talk you into having an abortion because that baby is a living breathing human just like you and deserves to have a life just like anyone else no matter what he tells you or anyone else listen to your instinces hon, there is so many people out here that can't have babys and would love to have a baby but i know you can get through it, It just takes patience and love and time but after you tell your boyfriend you need to tell your parents i know they will be upset when you tell them at first but i know they love you what parent dont love there children and they know that they make mistakes so i know that it will be fine leave it up to god and he will take care of you, Girl do the right thing i belive in you, GOODLUCK!!! and Congrats on the baby hon.

Answer 5

Hey 15 wow thats young! you are in a tricky spot.

The first thing you need to do is see a dr if you havn't already and get it confirmed how far along you are.

I wrote my parents a letter when I found out I was pregnant as I was afraid of what they would say and I was surprized at how they took it.

Telling your BF you could write him a letter too it is easier to express your feelings on paper.

thats my advice write them a letter when they are both home together give it to them then leave the house so they have time to read it and calm down before you go back and dicuss it with them. if you want help on what to write email me [e-mail]

let me know how things go and don't listen to those people who are telling you to adopt or abort. it has to be your decision. Just keep in mind this may be your one and only chance of having kids. I was 18 when my son was born and i thought of adoption I am so glad I didnt as I am now having trouble planning baby number 2 :(

Answer 6

Honey you just have to tell them, maybe at the dinner table. Also you could try telling the one you're closest to first, and let them tell the other one. As for your boyfriend... if he is man enough to get you pregnant... he should be man enough to help you raise your child, that is if you want to keep it....I am NOT saying that is what I think you want. It is just I don't know you and how you feel about raising a child with you being so young. And just an FYI... I was 17 with my first....what ever you decide things WILL work out OK. If you need to talk to someone who has been in your shoes...You can IM me.
Best of Luck to you and yours!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Don't stress out because its bad for your unborn child.
I would just tell my parents after dinner when everything has calmed down. They will be upset at first, but will probably be very supportive. I would also invite you're boyfriend over as well and talk to him about it. You need to start seeing a doctor right away so you can get some blood work done. Best of luck to you, your family, your boyfriend, and your baby!

Answer 8

You are 15, and you are pregnant? Wow, you may need to reach out to your parents because I can't even imagine to offer a child advice on such a serious topic of pregnancy as I would definitely say you have dabbled in an adult acitivty )without being married) and now you have an adult situation (that should only occur when married), but you are far from an adult (sorry, but you are still growing yourself). I think you need to reach out to your parents and not the Answers community. This is soemthing you need to trust your parents with to guide you on (and not your boyfriend).

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts as I know this is a scary time for you.

Answer 9

The sooner the better that you tell them.. they are going to freak at first so be prepared for the lecture of a lifetime. But they are going to find out sooner or later, and the earlier they know the longer they have time to go over options with you.

Answer 10

Um, of course! You want to tell your parents and your boyfriend. Just say it. I had a hard time telling my mom, and im 24 years old! You need to find a doctor, and get pre-natal care.
You need to find out how you are going to deal with this new baby come'n into your life. Find a support group for teen mothers.