Ladies: how upset would you be with the woman your husband dated a couple of times...?

Question

...but whom he lied to about being married?

If there was no sex, it was only a couple of dates, a few phone calls and emails over a couple of weeks, and the second she found out he was married she tore him a new one and dropped his sorry ***. Would you still think she was a 'ho?

Whoa, everybody. This isn't *my* husband I'm talking about. I only asked wives if they might be angry with the *completely unwitting* (I must emphasize) "other woman."

FWIW, this happened to me. I don't date married men, EVER... don't even flirt with them unless it's completely innocent. I just can't recall feeling so involved in something dirty, and I'm feeling bad for this woman I hopefully will never know.

Of course, he's a ho. We all know that.

Answer 1

How is she a ho? She had no clue that he was married and as soon as she found out she removed herself from the situation. That actually show good morals and character, qualities you want in a friend. Why make her your enemy. The blame goes to the husband in this situation.

Answer 2

Yes and no. I mean, I privately call the girl my boyfriend dated while we were broken up all sort of horrible things. That cheap tart Lauren, you know, that sort of thing. But that's just because I don't like the idea of her. I have no problem with her personally. I don't actually think she's a cheap tart. Actually, she's a lovely girl. And her boobs are bigger than mine. Sigh.

You did nothing wrong. You're probably on the receiving end of some undeserved ire. But, hopefully the wife's at least a semi-sensible human being and recognizes how unfair it is to blame you for something that's all her husband's fault. Since you don't seem to be connected with the couple beyond your dates with the husband and since you've done right by both the wife and yourself, I say it's time to let yourself off the hook. Don't worry about who's made at you. You're fine.

Answer 3

How can she be a ho? I mean he clearly lied to her about not being married and led her on. Hell she was in her rights to dump him and treat him like that. I mean she didn't even know he was married. She probably just thought he was some hot guy from where ever she had met him. I think you need to look to your hubby as the ho, and probably look at yourself and figure out why he would be trying to seek out other women.

Answer 4

I'd think your man deserved to have his man parts cut off, stuck in a blender and served to him for breakfast.
This woman didn't have ESP, she had no way of knowing he was married if he LIED. How does that make HER a *ho*? People date, that's what we do. Your man, on the other hand, should be castrated.
People only treat you badly if you allow them. It almost sounds like you're defending his behavior and placing the blame on her. That's messed up, and if he has you convinced of this, SEEK HELP because you're gullible.
Throw all of his things on the front yard and change the locks. You deserve better. If you don't treat yourself well, then WHO WILL??

Answer 5

I would be furious with her. Even though its by no fault of her own, my anger for him would be palmed off on her. Not to mention the insecurities I'd have from all this...all deflected her way.

I don't think women who willing or unwillingly date men are necessarily stank hos. You'd be surprised how human and somewhat sad a lot of these women are. The husband is the true HO!!! He can say no!!! And women don't keep coming back for rejection.

Answer 6

If this is true not really her, I'd be thinking that about your man. He is the one who willingly allowed this to come into your marriage. He is the one who should take full ownership to this situation. And no one else. Yes there are women who like to go out get drunk and put their arms/lips on any flesh they can but at the same time if your man goes out on you or when he is on his own and can not behave himself something is not right with that. If you are sticking on his side that might be cause you feel guilty of possibly neglect. You need to fix that ASAP! Men usually go out on the prowl when they are being neglected fully. The men that have HABITS of this are few and hopefully he is not one of them. Good luck!

Answer 7

Absolutely not. A girl my guy was "with" didn't know that he had me, or children for that matter, and they were sexual(but didn't have sex). I let her know and it should have ended at that. But since she's a "ho" she let it happen a few more times, at which point I ripped HER a new one ;) In your case though, you shouldn't take it out on her, especially since she ended it immediately. You can be as angry as you want to be, but her response was appropriate and you should respect her for that.

Answer 8

Hell no! A lot of women nowdays take their anger out on the woman when a man is caught cheating - and unfairly so. Be thankful this woman had some morals and left him alone when she found out he was married - I know a lot who would have just used him for money.

P.S. Get rid of that sorry sack a sh*t husband of yours.

Answer 9

Why is the blame placed on her? Your husband lied about being married and appeared to be available to him. This doesn't make her the bad guy unless she went with him anyway. Since there wasn't s.e.x involved but only phone calls I would say it was highly inappropriate.

Answer 10

The lady is not at fault in this situation. I would feel she acted like a real lady should when she dumped the married guy. And I hope the guy gets taken to the cleaners.