How do I get over my ex boyfriend of 2 years..? We just broke up yesterday..?

Question

We had been together over 2 years. The past few times we have fought it's because he lies about stuff or screws up.. and i get mad etc... then he decides he is on vacation from our relationship does not call for 3 or 4 days then when hes done calls and i wimp out and forgive him. I cant take it anymore its hurting too bad i want to move on... but like i said 2 years...feels like a lifetime exspecially since im 19. Anybody got good advice??? should i give in again or get over it...and how?

Answer 1

It has only been 2 days........ you are allowed some time to grieve....... you have lost a friend and a boyfriend...... but...........if he keeps lying he is never going to change........ move on with your life....... you deserve someone better........... you are only 19.... so have fun, enjoy yourself, and keep your eyes open for Mr. Right........and good luck..

Answer 2

If you love him to this extent of depth, you won't be able to forget him, not until you could find the new one. But to find the new one, you need to forget him first. It's a catch 22 situation. What you can do is to try to find a new activity to meet new friends. If you're busy, you'd have less time to think about him. If you're at uni, try to get more involved in some organizations. At the moment, you might lose interest in anything but him, but just try to get yourself busy doing something new. Don't go to the places where there were memories for the time being. Hope you'll find someone new. Be patient. Time will heal.

Answer 3

I'm going through a similar thing now. I split with my boyfriend after a year together and it broke my heart (he was very complicated and selfish). Just as I was getting myself together again, he got back in touch and asked if we could make another go if things - he'd missed me. he'd changed, things would be better this time - he said. So I agreed but sadly he hadn't changed at all and has broken my heart yet again! This time I have severed all contact with him, even gone as far as to change my mobile number! I'm enrolling in a couple of evening classes to occupy my mind and basically keeping myself busy. It's difficult now but it will get easier and you will be happy again - single or otherwise! You are young and have so much to look forward to. Good luck.

Answer 4

You should move on. I was in relationship before for 10 years (from high school to college). We got separated during college years. We tried to be exclusively for each other. However, being away, she start flirting and dated some guy.

It brooked my heart really bad. We have promised to each other before that no-one will break us apart. and we'll get married someday.

We tried getting back together again after a year. However, I was already heart broken. It was so hard because we still love each other then. However, I told her that I can't never be with her again.

Started dating again. After 6 mos. I met my wife.

Answer 5

please girl, have some love for yourself! if he loves you really, he would have copped on ages ago, your so young and will regret these waisted years in the future. I was in your shoes for 7 years and i would not listen to anyone, no matter who they were, and now im well away from all that im getting married next year, to my new partner of 4 years, my real sole mait! I waisted so much of my life, i missed out on my high school debs/prom, and lost all my friends. In the end I had no-one, only him, and I was misserable, I got the strenght to start thinking for myself again, I grew a backbone, and left him. Best thing I ever done, But still, I cant get them years back! When I think of old times I can only remember the bad things, makes me so angry.
Please you have so much more in life! put yourself first! If he was mr right, you wouldnt be asking this question. Dont ever allow yourself to be any mans door mat! Your better than that.
You have to love yourself before you can really love anyone else, and you dont love yourself enough, because you allow him use you like this.
Please, Forget him. I know its hard, but everyday gets better, I promise!
Good Luck & keep your head high x

Answer 6

i had to first of all accept that i would not get over him over night, and acknowledge that it would be difficult, that i would feel weak at times and want to call or speak with him. I HAD to acknowledge all of this beforehand so that when those weak moments arose, i would be prepared for them. You have spent TWO years immersed in each other's lives, so you are going to need time to familiarise yourself with life without him.

My second step was to make the decision NOT TO CALL EVER AGAIN... i had to kill the relationship dead. For me half the battle was not knowing whether to give it one more try or to leave the relationship in Gods hands. I know that not everyone is religious, so if you are not, you could call it leaving it in "fate's" or "destiny's" hands. I decided that i had done ALL i could to fix the relationship and it hadnt worked. We still had problems. SO i decided that there wasnt anything else i could do, and it wasnt worth investing any more time in it. I decided that for me, God was more powerful than i was and if the relationship was meant to be, God could fix it.

Thirdly i kept myself busy. I socialised with single friends, went to the gym, anything.. I avoided spending long periods alone to avoid creating situations were i would weaken.

I also poured out all my feelings on paper. Every day when i felt bad, instead of weakening and picking up the phone and calling him, i got everything out on paper, had a good cry,, let it all out and moved on. On paper i was frank and acknowledged all his bad points and made sure that there were good reasons why we werent together. That helped me when i was feeling weak cos i could go and read and remember!

Then i eventually started dating again - nothing like another bloke to help you forget your ex!

Answer 7

Get over it hun and never go back.........you have split up that is it........dont forgive him anymore. It will hurt for a while but you will overcome it and you will lose loads of weight without even dieting lol!! enjoy been single......it can be so much fun and you will meet someone else who turns out to be a million times better and you will wonder what you ever saw in your ex

NEVER GO BACK!!

Good Luck x

Answer 8

If pain is more than happiness, it's time to end the relationship no matter how much you are still loving him.
People (including me) always say that time can mend a broken heart, but I found that it is really very hard. The best way is to find a new lover, of course you have to choose a new one carefully, don't rush.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Don't get pregnant. Don't get pregnant. Don't get pregnant. Don't marry this guy. Don't marry this guy. Don't marry this guy. You WILL get over it. You Will get over it. Everytime you start crying over him, EXERCISE until you are out of breath. Then treat yourself to something that makes you feel YOUNG (which you are) and pretty so that you attract HEALTHY men instead of LOSERS.