somthing bad happend to me the other night when i was with a guy friend and he was drunk and he i dont wana call it rape but he forced him self into me for a while and hurt me really bad and im only 15 and im really scared of being pregnant im scared to tell my mom and dad about this cause they will be really mad and i dont no how they will take it and ive been trowing up badly these past 2 days and its only been 3 days since it happend and i havent been eating right or havent been able to sleep good at all i wake up in the moring and get sick and stay in the bathroom and mom ask me what is wrong and i tell her im getting a cold cause im to scared to tell her what is going on can some 1 help me
2007-09-05 14:11:12 · 11 answers · asked by BABii G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you should really tell your parents. they can so help u.
2007-09-05 14:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by whateva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This "something bad" that happened to you does indeed sound like rape. You shouldn't have been forced to do anything for this guy! Probably the reason you're vomiting and not eating right is you're emotionally upset over the assault, and it's taking a toll on you physically too. That, more than anything, indicates to me that what you experienced was rape.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your mom right now, is there another adult you can go to first? Even so, your mom should know, because this wasn't your fault. If she doesn't understand or react with compassion, she should never have been a parent in the first place.
2007-09-05 14:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Quiet Rebel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were raped. Yes, your parents are going to be mad in front of you, but not at you. You did not do anything wrong. When you are older you will recognize this kind of snake before he gets a chance to take advantage of you. Your best friend in this situation is going to be your parents. The hardest thing for you is to figure out the words to tell them that minimizes the shock value. How you told us is probably the best. its"something bad that happened to you" not something that you did that was wrong.
The sooner you tell them the better!!!!
best of luck
2007-09-05 16:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by paul 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're mom can obviously tell something is wrong and it seems like she's concerned. That goes to show that she really cares about your well being. She should be the first person to know. Imagine if you had a teenager and they had been in your situation. How would you feel if you found out they hadn't come to you first?
Go to your mom. Then go to the police.
2007-09-05 15:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, i could not give you an answer because you did not even ask any question...
so, just let me comment on the whole story....
what happened was actually rape, and that is against the law. you have all the right to inform your parents with what happened because, like you said, you're only 15... the sooner you tell them, the better, because they know better on what to do in cases like that.
you should not be afraid of the reaction of your parents once you tell them, it's but normal. that's why they are parents. they are expected to be there all the time...
2007-09-05 14:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by genesis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*breathe*
i know this is a hard time to calm down.. but really you must
you should not worry because no matter how good of 'friends' you and this guy were.. the fact that he forced himself upon you is wrong, and weather or not you want to admit it it IS considered rape.
i wold highly advise you to talk to you mom or another trusted adult preferrably female. about what happened that night.. it is very important that you leave no details out. the adult will know what to do and help you sort this out... you definately do not have to go throught this alone.. someone will help you.
good luck♥
best of wishes
2007-09-05 15:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape is NOT your fault and if this boy really forced himself on you, you need to tell your mom! I know you have got to be frightened but your mom or whatever adult you feel the closest to has to know so that they can take you to get checked out and have a professional that handles this kind of this talk to you. http://www.justicewomen.com/help_special_rape.html
Good luck!
2007-09-05 14:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by lilgangan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you scared?
It is definitely NOT your fault.
Even if he was drunk, that guy was not your friend.
You are the victim here, and this unheathiness you're feeling is probably your trauma.
Do let your parents know, they'll know what to do. They can't get mad at you if they guy forced you.
You can't let something this horrible just slide past you, it'll haunt you forever. Again this is not your fault. You've got to stand up and do something about it or you'll keep getting stepped on.
Try to think about what you would want your friend to do if you found out she was raped. Wouldn't you want her to stand up for herself and get past it?
Take care. Please please do something about it.
2007-09-05 14:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by 0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey,that defiently was rape and you really need to tell your parents.It's not your fault.You also need to go get checked for STD"S.I am so sorry for what happened to you,but it's not going to help keeping it to yourself.You really need to talk to someone about this.God Bless You.Stay safe and please do get checked out.My prayers are with you.
2007-09-05 14:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell your mom or someone and report that guy that did this to you..
2007-09-05 14:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋