My Husband tells me that I don't start sex first he is always the one to enjage in it. When I do, do things I feel that I look stupid and or I look unattractive. What are some ways to turn him on and not look stupid?
2007-09-05 13:52:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See yourself in your mind as sexy, not stupid. If you can imagine what you are doing as sexy you will feel it. Start out small by wearing thinner materials that are see through because the illusion of nakedness is just as sexy as actually being butt naked. Light candles instead of burning bulbs (which are brighter and show everything). Greet your husband at the door that way. You will hardly be exposed any time before he swoops you into the bedroom.
2007-09-05 13:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you young? Because this can be learned, and in my experience it gets easier.
Try wearing something very sexy, turn the lights down, and put on music that makes you hot. A little wine couldn't hurt if drinking is okay for you, not too much, just to loosen up.
Once you get started, his reaction should be very encouraging, and you'll be over feeling stupid. Go for it, it's great! The first time I tried something like this it was very spontanous... started out almost goofy, we were in the kitchen putting groceries away and I was trying to make him laugh. I remembered I was wearing some terrific lacy black underwear and I started dancing really sexy, then just took off my top. He was totally stunned, and it was a terrific feeling of power.
2007-09-05 13:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to get confidence in yourself. Men do most of the initiation, which makes us feel like pervs or that you aren't really interested but doing it because you "have" to. So be confident, he's married to you, so he thinks you are sexy. And he initiates with you, so you KNOW he thinks you are sexy. So buck up. Get some candles and give him a massage. Get some funky music and lingerie and give him a strip/lap dance. Take him out to dinner and talk dirty to him all night.
And have you asked him what he likes you to do? You might think you look silly, but when you bust out wearing that sexy outfit he likes, you can trip over your feet, crash into the table and fall on your butt and he won't care.
2007-09-05 14:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about how it looks. Go for it. Shower with him massage him all over with lotion, play with his little friend. Talk dirty, by that I mean tell him up close and in a low voice all the things you would like to do to him. Tell him about the nasty things you think of him doing to you when he's not around. Surprise him one day by calling him at work or when he's outside the home in a public place. Once he answers start telling him about you "playing" alone until he gets there. Ask him would you like to come and finish me off? I'm just about to.....
2007-09-05 14:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A candle light dinner for two and then slowly walk a way. Then slip in to something that seeks his desire(nightgown). Bring him from the table and start giving him a lap dance and pull him in the bedroom and rest is history.
2007-09-05 14:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Garfield 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP THINKING YOU"LL LOOK STUPID. this man is your husband for god sake. don't be so insecure of your own sexuality, let it all hang out. he'll absolutely love it. in time it will all feel natural to you and you'll probably become more inventive and daring. just think of the pro's to this for you and your husband.
ways to get things started? that's up to you and how far your willing to go. i think you should get over this "feeling stupid" issue first.
be well, PEACE
2007-09-05 14:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by shygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband said the same thing. so before we go to bed i kiss him once and just start putting my hands all over him. it makes him happy that i want to have sex. so he dont even think about me being stupid. i even joke with him some times. we will be laying in bed just talking and i say stupid things in a sexy voice (like i want your body all over me now) and we laugh and it just starts after that because we are enjoying the time that we are sharing.
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doing things for your husband especially intimacy, is not stupid at all. erase that from your mind. start by kissing him passionately when he least expects it. then look him in the eye and tell him how much you love him....the rest will follow.
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