Husbands and housework...........????

Question

I just answered a previous questions about husbands and housework. I am a stay at home empty nester.I do most of the work around the home.My husbands offers to do things but with me at home all day I feel it is my job to keep our home clean and in order.I feel like our home is my job just like his career is his job.I have a great husband and I think I am very fortuate that I am able to stay at home. I held a job outside of the home for many years.I love staying home and I love my life. On the previous question someone gave me a thumbs down.I was just wondering what others thought about husbands and housework when the wife stay at home.Do you think the husband should be expected to do housework when the wife is home all day or do you think the wife should be responsible for the housework????

I am not talking about picking up after a husband,I am talking about housework,cooking,cleaning, laundry,ect....

boxofrain..... I was just wondering how other people felt about it.I don't care what others think of me.I am too old to care about that.

boxofrain..... I was just wondering how other people felt about it.I don't care what others think of me.I am too old to care about that.

Blade....We do lots of things together.Most home projects we do together.yard work (I love working in the yard).ETC.....

unforgetfull..... There are no children left at home.Oh btw he does take out the trash most of the time.

Answer 1

I feel the same way that you do. I am a stay at home wife and mom for that matter. I feel that since my husband is out working all day the least I can do is keep the house clean for him. I don't ask him to do anything at all when he comes home. I don't think the husband should be expected to do housework and that the wife should be responsible for the housework. Now when I am sick, then my daughter and my husband does the housework but that is the only time I get him to do it. You shouldn't be getting a thumb's down just because you feel this way. There are a lot of women out there that would love to be in your shoes.

Answer 2

I think if I was home all day, I would feel obligated to do all the housework...except for the fact if my hubby's messy (which he is)...then, I'd have to share the housework with him.

Why would I have to clean up after him?

Besides, getting husbands to do housework takes years of training.

Answer 3

As a retired woman whose husband still works, I agree with you. But, my husband is gone for a month at a time as a professional driver. However, even if he wasn't, I would still do everything around the house. His job would be the lawn work and keeping the cars serviced. I have taken over the lawn work, well the mowing and some trimming of bushes. If my husband were home every evening, I would like for him to help me clean up after dinner, but that's it. Just clear the table and I'd do the rest.

My husband is not a messy person, never has been, so I have no cleaning up after him at all ever in our lives.

Answer 4

I do the most of the housework here. My husband works outside of the home.

We have 2 children at home (7 and 10), so there are times that I do need him to help me with the children, but never with the housework (that is my job)>

Answer 5

I'm a fortunate person like you who no longer needs to work. I do all the housework and the only thing I expect my husband to do is clean up after himself on the weekends or when he's on vacation.
I don't feel that I should have to come behind him and clean the bread crumbs off the counter, etc.
I would like for him to spend more attention to our dogs so they don't follow me everywhere--LOL!!!!
Unless the wife is sick (cold, etc) then a husband that works shouldn't be expected to help clean a home.
When I worked we did the house work, laundry and yard work together.

Answer 6

The partner at home all day, especially without the kids, should do the bulk of the housework. however, maybe your husband want to feel close to you with a project. So come up with something you two can do together like folding the sheets and towels or cleaning the gutters or cooking dinner. Maybe he just wants to feel like he's part of the team.

Answer 7

As long as you can handle the housework, do it since you are a stay-at-home wife. Since you have worked before you should know how tiring it can be after a full day's work. (I know.) . Don't care about what others say about it. Live your life the way YOU like it

Answer 8

I'm a SAHM with 5 kids. I do most of the house work, my kids have their chores. I don't expect or ask my husband to help out. He works long hours, paying the bills is his job. Taking care of the kids and home is mine. I mean really it is not like it takes that long to clean up the house if you do it every day, or do laundry and cook. And I really don't want him to help, everything has its place and I don't want it messed with.
I wouldn't trade my life for anything, I can go and do what I want, I can pack the kids up and take off for the day, or go to the zoo. I don't have to worry about getting up and getting ready for work in the morning, I can "go to work" in my pajamas if I want.

Answer 9

Stop worrying about what other people think. That did not work in high school, what makes you think it is going to work now.

If this arrangement works for your husband and yourself, the go with it. If it is not broke, then don't fix it.

Answer 10

if i were you i would go crazy, i hate housework and if i stayed home all day i would lay around and gain some pounds (but thats just me, not u, don't worry about what other people think, just worry about if u are happy or not)