is it justifiable to blame one's infidelity to the other spouse?

Question

like most men say they turn to other women because their wives are ******, does not know how to run the house, not a good listener...etc etc..

Answer 1

Not entirely. I believe that if one person in the relationship cheats, that both parties are to blame. The cheater is to blame for taking the cowards way out and turning to someone else, while on the other hand, the cheated is to blame for not giving attention where it was needed. What it all boils down to is a lack of communication.

Answer 2

In a retrospect way its not so good to just place the blame because of small things as nagging. But I say being a good listener and even being open to try new things is pretty good reason. I know some women would say that no it isn't because they feel they shouldn't have to always do this or that for their guy. But I say for any marriage to work out at all both partners have to be willing to make it work. Not one always trying and the other one always saying no. No doesn't get you anything but someone going behind your back. I say if both husband and wife took the time to at least sit down and talk more and even heard each other out there wouldn't be as much cheating as there is today. So both partners need to take some blame and man and woman up to do something about it.

Answer 3

It is not justifiable to blame one's infidelity on the other spouse. Being faithful and committed is a decision not a feeling. An individual should be able to communicate the problems or issues they are having within the relationship to see if they can be resolved and worked out. If they can not be then the relationship should be terminated. Ultimately, we are only responsible for ourselves and not the actions of others. Cheating spouses blame the other person because they do not want to be accountable for their actions, responsible for hurting their spouse, or they do not want to take ownership of breaking the trust that it takes to sustain a marriage relationship.

Answer 4

No. It is NOT justifiable. Adult males take responsiblity for their own behaviour,and they do not blame others for what they do wrong. If a wife is making a man so unhappy that he feels the need to look elsewhere to be happy, he has two choices.
1. Go
2. Stay

From your picture, I think that you must be female. If your husband is blaming you for his infidelity, do not put up with it. He should be an adult by the time he gets married. Adults do not blame their wives, or their mothers, or their bosses, or anyone else for what is wrong in their lives. They act like MEN.

Answer 5

That's not a justifiable reason to turn to someone else for sex or what ever it is they think they aren't getting in the relationship/marriage they're in.

If you need to look somewhere else, you need to try and fix the problem at home first. If that doesn't work, then you need to be out of that relationship before starting a new one.

I've been there twice and I was the one who was blamed yet, I never received an explanation on why.

Answer 6

Cowards, they should raise it then, and deal with it, not sleep with another woman! I just asked a friend and he said that routine is exactly what he married for - not perfection, but a stable routine with the woman he loves, and anything else they sort out in private between themselves, not go running to others for backup with.

A cheater has a fling because they wanted to have a fling. If they really really wanted to sit in a perfect and empty house, they could have taken real-estate exams or divorced or hired help.

Then they feel guilty and want to share the blame? Well, of course. But you can't go back in time. Either agree that it's your turn for a similar quick fix, or sort it out! And that does not mean that you (whoever was cheated on) must now call the person they had the fling with and ask for their great steak recipe, or their way with furniture polish! It means the cheated person needs to be shown by the cheater that they are back, and have left the other person, and it's over! Not over there, over!

Who would care to share a life and a home with a man who makes a habit of looking for easy sympathy instead of solutions? Not the person they cheated with, that's for sure.
If they are with the person they need to be with, that person is no way going to let them away with that one!

Answer 7

No it's not justifiable. Infidelity is a CHOICE. No one forces their spouse to cheat...If the husband doesn't like a nagging wife, or the way she runs the house he has the ability to file for divorce.

Answer 8

Blaming the other is not true, it is just them rationalizing their weakness as the fault of another. They took the easy way out by cheating instead of the hard work of a real relationship and now will not accept responsibility for their further short comings. Seems typical of the lazy or weak minded. We don't all follow our peckers.


Old Guy

Answer 9

That is usually a contributing factor, but in the end it is up to the person who cheats whether to take that step or not. I rarely find men whose wives sex them up on a regular basis cheating. However, cheating shouldn't be the solution. Counseling and communication should be.

Answer 10

hell no and its not about the spouse who remained faithful its about the person with poor morals and standards so don't believe the hype about" if the spouse would pay more attention or help out " that person wouldn't have sought sexual attention else where how that cheater hire some help sit down and in a loving way express his need to have? my husband cheated and not only did he cheat he cheated with a friend and in my house. He is just an ***-hole who has no morals and lied for years about his beliefs. thank god for alimony hahaha