What do I do? my husbands son is my age basically and last Christmas I took home movie tapes of his (when I had been drinking etc - and i normally dont drink) none the less its wrong. I have said sorry few times etc.. but I guess he just really cant stand me I guess. My husband doesnt thinks he said to him when it happen that he didnt want me in his house.. which i can understand i did take precious something.. But im not like this really.. Im such a good person, i dont take things .. dont know why i did it.. I really dont.. But I am thinkin of just clarifing and sending him a text seeing if it would be a problem if I did come for Christmas? OR is it too early to even worry? I guess I jsut want to know if Im not welcomed or if its ok.. its buggin me thats all. I dont have family here they live overseas.. its bad situation...
2007-09-05 13:05:13 · 9 answers · asked by RAIN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know its my fault and yeah When I said sorry I didnt say anything about my drinkin.. I flat out said sorry. What I meant as I have NEVER taken anything of anyones before... We all do make mistakes ya know. He hasnt been very nice to me prior to that either though.. But I understand. He got the tapes back not to long after it happened. I know he would of been upset. And duh I know that he has a right to say I cant come into his house.. uh thats like why I am asking should I ask him if it will be a problem so I know... But I think at the same time hes 31 years old a man with his own family. I dont want to spend Christmas day all alone. Thats not why i got married...
2007-09-05 13:23:15 · update #1
These were home movie tapes and had his 5 year old son on them.. I felt so bad and I already appologized.. I cant do no more. But I so agree if someones not going to forgive me then dont expect me to forgive..
But I am sincerely sorry.. i thought i could put them back before he knew.. but didnt work that way...
2007-09-05 13:34:55 · update #2
First of all, write a sincere note of apology and mention that you hope this will not cause any problems with holidays when you normally spend time together, and how much you enjoy being with him on holidays. Promise him that you have refrained from drinking because of your actions (and I hope you have). Personally, I have alwalys felt if someone cannot forgive me, they'd better not ask for forgiveness themselves. We all make mistakes. Do NOT text...use a handwritten note to show sincerity.
2007-09-05 13:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by red 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One, return the tapes. Now.
Two, get a few more tapes as an "I'm sorry" token or gift.
Third, write a note apologizing.
Fourth, if there is Christmas and your husband goes, you go.
By then you will have done everything to make up for your mistake. No more apologizing, no more discussing, just drop it from here. Put it behind you.
Your relationship is with your husband--if there is a problem, let him work it out with them. This is not for you to do.
And I would strongly suggest that when you go to their home, don't drink and probably be on your best (quiet, reserved, nicest) behavior.
Everyone makes mistakes. They'll live, and so will you.
2007-09-05 20:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by chris_at_lucas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you destroyed the trust that he once had in you. Stealing from anyone is not acceptable and to do it from your stepson is disgusting. It doesn't matter whether or not you were drinking; that is a poor excuse. Saying you are sorry means nothing. You need to return the tapes, apologize and honor his request that you not return to his home. He doesn't trust you and that is your own fault. You say you aren't like this but you are because you stole from him. He may decide to forgive you if he thinks you are sincere but, if he doesn't you need to respect his wishes. You made a mess and it might not be able to be corrected. The choice is up to the victim and that is it. I hope you never do anything like this again. When you destroy trust that someone has for you, you have to suffer the consequences, and as you can see, it is painful.
2007-09-05 20:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why waste your valuable time bother with the past that things already done, apologized and clarified? Tape was just an excuse. He may be irritate that you're about his age and is his step mom. He may actually jealous of his dad but no way to express it but transfer it to you with opportunity arise.
If you love your husband, just ignore the immature son with 'accept it or take a hide' attitude toward him and he will eventually get it.
2007-09-05 20:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by jean l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its never too early to apologize, do what you have to do to make things right again, i mean you are marry to his dad and you do not want to have that attention between you 2, when the 3 of you are together
2007-09-05 22:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your asking if you should ask for permission to go to your husbands house. I guess you mean to go to your stepson's house. Since it's been a whole year, your stepson should be over it already, If you are anxious about it, get your husband to ask him.
2007-09-05 20:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well here's the thing......if you really get to know your husband's son a little better....perhaps maybe go trick or treaying with him on halloween, (perhaps eat together on thanksgiving, maybe even just going to an amusement park or movies), and if he seems to like you better than last year, i say spending chistmas time with him sounds like a good idea! just to get to know him and be extremely nice!!!!!!!!
2007-09-05 20:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by mochastarbucks 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're dating the man not his son. he'll find anything to complain about if he just doesn't like you. ignore him, but in a nice way
2007-09-05 20:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by lady leo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call him don't text, he'll think you are a wuss.
2007-09-05 20:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋