It's already my second year of college and I haven't made one friend. I'm so miserable being here now that I just want to go back home and never set foot on a college campus again. Ok, so I email clubs for information, ALL of the ones I was interested in were outdated. Originally was on the XC team, only lasted a few days because of health issues, and I've only made enemies from the team because I'm not running. I spend all of my time either in my dorm, class, and 3-4 hours a day in the library. I have tried so hard in the last few months to improve my communication skills and read so many articles and books it's crazy, but nothing helped. No matter where I go or what I do, I just cannot talk to people. All through elementary school I had to take special classes for this issue as well, of course that never helped. I'm perfectly normal other than this, but it's really getting to me. Is there any room for improvement, or am I screwed for life? Thanks in advance!
2007-09-05 13:01:46 · 5 answers · asked by surftaco400 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Did that. In fact I went from dressing like total garbage a few months ago w/ really long hair to being well dressed and very clean cut looking. I walk w/ my head up and even fake smile once and awhile. Tried convincing myself that I deserve to make friends as much as anyone else, but that didn't help. My negative attitude only reflects through posts, but anyone would think I look seemingly happy if they saw me.
2007-09-05 13:16:27 · update #1
I doubt that leaving school will help -- because it sounds like it is you -- not your environment.
I really think you need to talk to a therapist. Your school probably provides counseling.
2007-09-05 13:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ranto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm advantageous that there is somebody who needs to be your buddy, and you have missed them because of the fact you're seeking to make acquaintances with a man or woman in a diverse 'clique'. it particularly is complicated to be new, so make acquaintances with somebody who has transferred from yet another college, or freshman who does not understand the college besides as you. locate somebody you could teach by telling the instructor, you're attainable to help every person falling at the back of on your classification. do no longer connect a club just to make acquaintances. connect a club cuz it particularly is something you particularly like. while you're no longer fascinated contained in the problem-be counted those there for the club will spot you as a cruiser, and avert you. Is there pupils working contained in the library? you need to get a place contained in the library? that could get you speaking and not experience such as you need to locate a topic be counted. you may additionally be in a reliable place for somebody desirous to chat to you, and not sure the thank you to start. (I cherished the quiet adult males at college...that they had greater experience than each and all the braggers available!)
2016-10-04 01:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a club in your major and volunteer to participate in those activities. That usually brings some sort of socialization since many times you have group or committee assignments to complete. Look for volunteer opportunities. You can also talk to the Counselors at the counseling center and ask for advice. They can tell you something that is geared more to the atmosphere of the college you're attending.
2007-09-05 13:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi... i totally understand you!!!!; I've been in the same school for 13 years (Kindergarten, Primary, Junior High and now in HS) and i haven't found any durable friend whatsoever!!!... Nevertheless, i have hope that i will find someone in college....
PS: however, i found my two best friends... (which are two years bigger than me and are now in college so I'm lonely again... but at lest i have them by mail)...
Don't worry, you dint find friends they will find you...
Suggestion: the world is much bigger than it seems, try meeting people from other spheres and I'M SURE you will find friends... you don't seem to be nuts or boring or anything.... in fact, you seem very trustworthy...
Anyway, this is just the opinion of an international "highshcooler".... but i hope it helps!!
GOOD LUCK!
sorry for the mistakes.. im in a rushhh!!!
2007-09-05 13:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Q&A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An attitude adjustment might do a world of wonder.
2007-09-05 13:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by qwerty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋