hey everyone.. i wasnt going to sit here and pour my heart out, but i need to tell someone or speak to some1 because all im doing is building it up.
Its been year and half since i broke up with my boyfriend for my parents, its because he was a different race 2 what i am. as my parents found out about it and said they would never accept it. i made a wrong desicion and broke up with him to make my parents happy. ive tryed to move on, but its not working. a big mistake that i regret but its happened. but not only that he texts me like every 4months down the line, saying the same as me, how he still wants to talk to me etc and still thinks about me. but recently he tells me, he got married but now is trying to get a divorce as its not working out :|,he tells me that he wishes he could turn bk time and do so much different to what happened then. its killing me, im fed up of coming back and 4th with him. and because i care so much i want to be there for him, let alone still be loving him?
2007-09-05 12:54:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tryed to ring him but his not picking up.. so i texted him. but nothing :(.. im so worried
2007-09-05 13:02:13 · update #1
im 20 years old..
2007-09-05 13:02:52 · update #2
sounds like he is very unhappy, if he does leave his present relationship then let that be his decision and its best if u dont get too involved, if he leaves and u still love one another and decide to try again, u would have to be prepared to cut your family out your life as they have said they will never accept him. maybe in time they would get used to it but u should do whats right for you...good luck and be happy
2007-09-05 13:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by sharon w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't state ages so its a general feeling in that have you looked at all the future outcomes of such a bond?
If you have and your adult enough to handle it it then go for it.
If you're very young still you may just need some more time still to decide. It never pays to jump into this type of situation.
Consider all options first.
2007-09-05 20:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same struggle in life as well.. i do luv my mum and family, but i know that if i let go of the one i love im gonna cry real bad.. and at that time they aint gonna b around, coz the max that they can do is provide u professional help like making u meet a phychologist n things.. im a man and im in love with a woman who was married once n my folks know bout her past and they r dead against the alliance.. and yeah she is from another part of the same country im from.. my mum is a sinle mum n is a very head strong person and she will not let me budge from my current position, she is taking the life out of me and telling me that i hav to leave this girl, im 25 by the way.my family is protective about my mum, but my mum n family has relied on info about this girl from a third person, there r a lot of lies n rumours and there is no way of making my mum see the girl coz her heart is filled with hatred for the girl, the girl i am talking about i hav known her for more than 2 and half years and we decided to get along in life together after weighing every aspect of life, yes there was a broken marriage in her past, but that does not mean it has to go wrong again.i do understand my folks's point of view, they promise me such a lot and even assure me of God's blessings n things like that if i let go of the girl.and i am subjected to a lot of conditions n restrictions in my life at the moment jus coz of this girl.but i never let go.i can very well go out n find other women n settle down in life n do things as they say and they can b happy.. but hello, where do i come in then? when do i get a chance to actually walk on the beach or hav children n live my life with the woman i chose?would i actually b happy if i follow their words now and leave the girl? i told myself "Hell NO", coz im sure i can't forget her, and i will cheat on my wife who my folks bring in.why? why go mess things up later when u can and when u hav the time to follow ur heart.. so i would not agree on following family decisions as long as i hav a head and a hart to think for myself.. it is not selfish or anything, it is jus the way i am.. best of luck to u both .. take it easy..
2007-09-06 02:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by tonal syndrome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really luv this guy u cant pick him over ur parents
but if your parents can see that u luv this man/boy person
they might except the fact that u have a man/boy u truly luv and u cant live wtihout him and its not a matter of choosing sides its a matter of wats right u dont wanna never talk 2 your parents and u dont ever wanna 4get this guy, so wat u gotta do is ask your parents and tell them that u truly love this man/boy
2007-09-05 20:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its your life you can not let your parent dictate what you do and who you spend your life with, do you really wan to be lonely at 50 with nothing but regrets??? you have already let him slip away once you might not be lucky enough to get a second chance????
this is one life not a rehearsal make the most of it
GOOD LUCK HONEY & BE STRONG!!!
2007-09-05 20:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by turtlemadlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and see if he is divorced then get him back and heck with parents its your life not theirs.
2007-09-09 00:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋