Taking a poll about my exboyfriend?

Question

Okay, I want everyone to voice their true opinion on this for me. My exboyfriend of 6 years left me a couple of months ago (we have been not getting along) and he was hanging out with this girl (their sons were friends). Anyways, he has been over her house on many occasions (at least 20 in his words), worked on her car, painted her bureau, gone out to eat dinner once (that I know of, he says she had a gift certificate and that's why he went), and been over her house all hours of the night (until 11pm- 1AM). He has said in anger to me that she is "very attractive, cute" (4'11) and she had definate interest in him. They also talked all the time on the phone even late at night on work nights. He says that the only thing that he did was "give her a hug, and kiss on the cheek". I think he's totally full of ****! They are boh attracted to each other, he was over there all hours of the nights, and yet nothing ever happened?! I want to hear that other people agree with me, I'm not craz

Alot of you say to let it go but he comes by and calls me all the time and it gets thrown in my face, he brings her name up to me. I have two children that he still has a relationship with so it's impossible to just move on.

Answer 1

Honey, you aren't crazy. You just need to cut this jerk out of your life. Why are you still talking to him? Let him go! Don't follow him, don't stalk him, don't think about him. Treat him like he's a bad drug and go into rehab! Leave him alone. If you need to talk to someone, call a friend or come here and talk to us, but this thing with him needs to stop. Let him have his little Twinkie. They'll get sick of each other sooner if you leave them alone.

Answer 2

I think when he said he gave her a kiss, it's likely a peck.
But not being sure, you have every right to suspect something. Are you sure they're attracted to each other?
Or are you presuming? Well, putting all that aside, I think he's cheating. You might be a tad crazy, but I still think he's cheating. And I susupect that another guy has his eye no you.
If you ever meet up with such the alleged other guy, give him a chance, and forget about your worthless ex. But here's a question for you- if he's your ex, why do you care what he's doing?

Answer 3

I've been on the other side of this. It is passive aggressive and just plain obnoxious even if the person isn't doing anything. But you only have two choices. You can split with the obnoxious boy/girlfriend or act like it doesn't bother you at all and find opposite sex friends to hang out with yourself. If you make accusations or have a problem with it you will just be accused of being jealous, untrusting and unconfidant.

Answer 4

The boy got the 7 year itch early, or maybe you made his life miserable and he decided to leave you so he and you would not have your little fights.
Think of what you might have done to send him packing to a calmer scene. I think it is over so learn from your mistake and find someone else.
PS To your added remarks I think you should treat this like a divorced husband. You still have contact with him because he was involved in the children, but you can move on to someone else.

Answer 5

Sorry girlfriend, but your ex is a sleaze. Kick the dick to the street, don't even give him a chance. He's either a clown, trying to do the jealous card, or he just loves a girl's attention. You are better than that. Stuff him, who needs that sort of crap. There are plenty of good maori men over here in New Zealand. You should try some of these ones. Guaranteed you won't look back. They cherish their mates to the end....

Answer 6

I wouldn't waste any emotions or tears on him when you know he isn't waisting any on you. Time to move on. Call up your girlfriends...and live it up. Celebrate your newfound freedom.

Just tell him to back off, get out of your life. He's probably jealous, and possibly using his new woman to make you jealous, too, so it's not worth any of your time to keep him around. I really don't think you want someone like him involved with your children either. It looks like he's just bad news. If he doesn't leave you alone, I would contact the authorities and get a restraining order.

Answer 7

Sounds like he is at least attracted to her. But I doubt if anything happened if he was hiding it from you he wouldn't have admitted to a hug and a kiss on the cheek. I think he woulda stayed away from the subject and said nothing ever happened.

Answer 8

You guys are broke up right? Then leave them alone. If he was still with you and doing this, that would be a different story. He is single now so let him be. Unless you still love him, then you need to tell him how you feel before they get too close.

Answer 9

chick i would say go with Nate. Brendan might be your first love but he won't be your last. Brendan messed up and he would have to live with that, not you. so keep him a friend if he means that much to you but my vote goes to Nate. give it a fresh start with Nate see what comes from that. always go forward never backwards you never get anywhere in the past. have fun later

Answer 10

It may have started out as a platonic relationship but now has progressed to more. He obviously has interest in her or when he was with you he would have involved you in that relationship. But more over forget about his trifiling ***. You guys are done leave it like that. When he comes begging back cuz she aint all that dis him back, girl!