I am a single mom that works full time, gets child support, and still has a hard time paying the bills. I work all day, come home and mow the lawn, fix dinner, get the kids in for a bath, read to them, then do the laundry before bed. And never get the dishes done. I just feel so tired and used up, what can I do to feel better?
2007-09-05 12:17:48 · 14 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make a little time for yourself, even if you have to combine work and play. Right now a friend and I trade cleaning time - at her house for a few hours, then mine for a few. It makes an astounding difference, and I get to visit with a buddy.
Make sure your children help with the chores. Even toddlers can put away toys and such. It might take more work in the beginning, but it is a good investment.
And - occasionally use paper plates. Sometimes that gets you a few precious extra minutes.
2007-09-05 12:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have family near, find some other single mom in your area that has the same problem. As well as having someone you can identify with, you could give each other a break by babysitting every so often. That way you'd both get time out to relax. You can't change your situation just now, so think outside the square for things that may help. It's hard to cope when you think there's no end to your problems, so make sure you have some support somewhere.
2007-09-05 19:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will suggest you to make a schedule on chores to make your life easier & if kids are old enough they can help out with shores.. What I usually do is get up( 6am) send my oldest child on the bus fixed the beds & get ready to work ten get ready my other 2 kids & take them to daycare . In the aftenoon I pick them up from daycare ( 6:30)come home do homework they take a bath while I cook dinner .. Then kids watch TV for a while I clean up the dishes & by 9:30 latest I am with them reading a story so they can go to sleep..I sweep & mop the floor & the house is clean if youe teach your kids to be organized & on SAturdays I do the laundry & clean the rest of the house with the help of my kids... SO do a little scheedule can help you out ... Good luck
2007-09-05 19:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask a relative or a close friend you can trust to watch the kids for a day. Do something that is totally just for you. Take a hot bath, rent a movie, catch up on some reading or take yourself out for a leisurely walk or drive. These things don't cost much and let's face it .......You deserve it!!!!
Take a "single mom" day!!!!
2007-09-05 19:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mr uknowwho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heather, I to was a single mom for alot of years and even while I was married I did it all and ran a business and took care of my grandmother and a child with a head injury. And I finally started having small doable jobs for my son to do everyday to help me. He earned a small amount of allowance and I had time to rest. I only did laundry every other day and asked him to hang up his towel after his bath and that lestened the laundry. I used plates that were unbreakeable and every other day we had a piicnic style dinner or breakfast and he helped clean up. If you have more than one child and they are over 5 yrs. old they are old enough to help. Yoga also helps with stress and gives you energy. YYou can get a beginners Yoga cd/dvd/vhs or book with pictures and start slow. Let your kids do it with you and it will help them. If they are over 8 yrs. old it helps them focus. And prayer helps daily. Hope this helped.
2007-09-05 19:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and take a day off, if you cant make time for yourself in some way, dont do the last wash before you go to bed one nite a week or just take one day off the cleanen and have a chill day you will catch up on you work and one day off will make u feel good if you enjoy the day off instead of fillen it with chores that need doing, you deserve a break
2007-09-05 19:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by cazstoned21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I give you alot of credit for all the work and stuff you are doing. But you definitely need help. Have you gone to church social, dances, any community gathering and tried to find a mate. If that has not worked, try taking vitamin supplements until someone comes along. Good Luck and best wishes.
2007-09-05 19:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by 'Old & Cudley' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some help like the other posters said. If you know other moms with small kids, maybe you could take turns watching them. Teach the kids to help. They will be learning to be responsible. You need some time to yourself. If Mom is not happy, no one is happy.
2007-09-05 19:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by knowyourself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well pace your chores. you can wash dishes while load of clothes are in washer. take some nutritional shortcuts on dinner. even if you make several dishes on weekend. and freeze them. how old are kids.. can you take turns with them to read... while you and other one relax and listen, set up play dates in neighborhood.. so that while you are doing chores your children can be elsewhere..and return favor with another mom sometime.
2007-09-05 19:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You thought things were going to be easy? Heck it is barely doable when you have a husband. There is a reason why it takes two to make a baby...because it takes two to raise one. (The only true single mom is one who was artificially inseminated. You are probably divorces, unwed or widowed)
2007-09-05 19:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋