This spring I had a small breakdown and was diagnosed with Bipolar type 2. I was able to get help and get on the right meds (took awhile) and finally feel like I'm on the right track, however, during that time I seriously neglected my relationship of six years with my boyfriend. This summer we started to fight and then last week I found out he doesnt think I'm "the one" anymore. We have decided to try and work on things, because he says he just doesnt feel that special connection anymore, and he says he still respects me and thinks I'm a great person and doesnt want to throw the last six years out in the trash, but he wants to be absoloutely sure. Do relationships come back from this? Or am I just hoping for nothing? Im still deeply in love with him, and am starting to feel great again about my life after a big depression, I just dont want to drag on the inevitable.
Also, he's told me that he has feelings for a girl at work, 8 years younger, but he's not sure about those either.
2007-09-05 12:07:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I want to reassure you that things CAN come back from that. My husband and I were fighting all the time, barely spoke otherwise and at different times we were both ready for a divorce. We decided that we would 'start over' and go to marriage counseling. We have both been trying very hard and now our relationship is better than ever. And we have so much more respect for each other.
I hope you have a happy ending like I did. Good Luck!
2007-09-05 12:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has moved on already. If he has "feelings" for some other girl then he has given up on your relationship. Don't worry, you have a whole new world opening up before you. you are managing your disorder and are discovering more about yourself. I know because I was diagnosed with Bi-polar type 2 also. after the initial roller coaster of therapy and meds I am a new person.. and so are you. Find someone who appreciates you.
2007-09-05 12:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him see that you are better now and be yourself and he will determine that you are the ideal one for him. Stop fighting with him and change some things for the better and see better results in this relationship for yourself. Show more love than anger and the two of you work on doing things together will ignite some of the feelings back on track.
2007-09-05 12:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has feelings for someone else, or even thinks he does, let it go. if u try to make it work, chances are that it won't. trust me, i've been there.
if it wasn't for his feelings for this other girl, i'd say that things could definately work out. but unfortunately, if another girl's in the mix, ur only gonna end up hurt.
2007-09-05 12:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kristabella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the relationship can survive this but, i have to wonder about his so called feelings for another. you may still love him but are you willing to sit back and wait for his decision? you loved him while you were struggling but is he the same man now that you're on the right track?
2007-09-05 12:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has feelings for someone else that is bad. let him go and move on. You are happy and you can get through this and find someone else again that appriciates you.
2007-09-05 12:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by jeepiegurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has "feelings" for some other chick, game may be over for you.
2007-09-05 12:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a breather... you think you have been a lot.... he has been through a lot too.
2007-09-05 12:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋