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Question

my husband got got rid of his snake but wants a pitbull now im 5 months pregnant he just don't understand and all he does is call me names and ignores me what im trying to tell him we dont need anything like that right now he wants everything his way im stuck and i don't know what to do help

Answer 1

Put your foot down and tell him no way is he getting a pit bull when a baby is due.

He sounds very young and immature.

Answer 2

Wake him up in the middle of the night 2 or 3 times a night for the next week and when he's all tiffy...remind him that that's the type of sleep he will be getting soon and that is how you feel right now. You have enough to deal with, with having a baby on the way...then tell him you two can sit down and discuss a child-friendly puppy when the baby is about a year old. I have 3 kids, so I consider my advice sound. Your husband sounds like a jerk and his choice in pets is very customary of the over-macho control freak type. If you can't get him to quit calling you names and disrespecting you, you need to make a choice for you and your child. You can only be the victim for so long...you have a responsibility to pt your foot down.

Answer 3

Tell him that this is a marriage, and he needs to compromise on something. I would get online, and print all of the articles about pitbull attacks (especially those involving children) and tell him you'd be glad to get a puppy...just not a pitbull (or any other aggressive dog). Tell him that you don't feel comfortable owning an aggressive dog with a baby on the way. If he is going to make a good dad, he will understand and make the right decision.

Answer 4

If you've go cable or satellite, look for a show called "The Dog Whisperer" - Cesar Milano, I think, he may also have books out. Cesar loves pit bulls, and demonstrates that when they are properly disciplined and trained, they make great pets.

From what you say, I don't know that your husband has the right personality to handle a Pit properly. Abuse is abuse, whether it is verbal [name calling] or physical [hitting, choking, etc]. My advice is that you get yourself into counseling ASAP - even if you can only afford to go to Al-Anon family [Alcoholics Anonymous affiliate] or call some of the domestic abuse lines in your area. From my experience, the abuse only gets worse over time, and the addition of a new baby can also move it up a notch or two.

Good luck - and get help now, before you have to worry about protecting a new baby.

Answer 5

Well I don't know how long you all have been married, or you age, but I would think that your husband, needs to take how and what you think, as important,to both of you.. Your in put to how you think on things should be part of the relationship.. I am sure that he loves you and he just needs to think about what you are feeling, and think about it for a little, he will understand you cause he wants to be with you.. Work together like tell him when the baby is old enough then you can talk again about getting the dog..

Answer 6

Pit bulls are not very good especially the fact that you will have a baby in the house soon, pit bulls have a thing called lock jaw and when they bit they cant unlock their jaw sometimes. A good dog to have in the house if he wants a big dog is either a golden retriever or a boxer, as far as i know they are good with children and since your going to have a baby soon you shouldnt be spending money on a dog because you need for your time to be in the baby not wasting money, if you want a pit bull i would really wait a while

Answer 7

Your husband sounds very selfish...and if he's already starting this and you are pregnant, you are going to have problems for years to come. There may be a very easy way to get around this....if you rent your house or apartment, call and ask the land lord if they allow Pit Bulls....9 times out of 10 the answer is NO!! It may not be as easy if you own your house, but some "neighborhoods" and some cities have banned Pit Bulls in the city limits...so call your chamber of commerce and do some checking...You may be able to win this one!

Answer 8

I want to say that pits aren't always bad. If you get them as puppies they can be great dogs. However, I don't think right now is a good time for you to take on added stress. I got a new dog when I was pregnant and it made me brew ak out in hives. You never know how new stresses will be handled by your body. You should check your husband on all the name calling. If you have family...gain support from them. Girl Power, little Mama!!

Answer 9

Every relationship should be a two way street - where the wants and needs of both people are met and considered with equal importance.

If he got rid of the snake to alleviate concerns or wants of yours ... then perhaps its your turn to compromise? He obviously has a strong desire/need for a pet. If its the pit bull you object to - would you consider a different breed? Or another type of pet?

If your concern is the added responsibility of a pet, perhaps recommend a lower stress pet such as a fish or cat.

Good luck!

Answer 10

No disrespect but you hear horror stories about dogs in general and young kids let alone a pitbull and a baby.
Surely he can understand that.......
Please dont think that im being rude but thats really unfair of him.
You have enough to deal with whilst being pregnant (ive just had a baby 10wks ago n i have a 6yr old) without having to listen to what sounds like childsplay.
If you havent already try and tell him to wait til the baby is a bit older and see what happens.
Good luck

Answer 11

Your husband is mean and a bully, he sounds like a child that is mad because he can't have his way.. If you don't feel comfortable with that being around at this time he should consider your feelings. I wouldn't what the kind of stuff around me either if I was pregnant of not, but especially with a baby coming. HECK NO! I wouldn't want to be dinner and those things turn on their owners sometimes. It becomes a safety issue. Tell him that you will leave or he will have to leave.