i am 22 years old muslim guy living in usa and this girl she is soon turning 22 living in bangladesh. we really love each other, but our situation brought us somewhere , that we cant even imagine now what to do. she is getting married iwth someone else in less than one week. i dont know right now what to do. we talked yesterday and i think thats the last time probably we can talked. she tried to explain her parents but they didnt listen to her, because everything was set with the other guy. i dont know what to do. we talked yesterday and she was crying badly. telling me everyone has been invited, everyone knows now that she is getting married to someone. and if something happens, such as if we elope it will hurt her parents and its involve with their respect as well, but she cant live without me thats for sure, plz guys tell me what can i do. since we cant contact anymore, and even if i go to bangladesh , just by me what can i do. god plz tell me, plz give me ur best thoughts,
2007-09-05 09:57:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It doesn't sound like there is much you CAN do. If she is not willing to go against her parents and they have arranged this, then I don't see a way out of it.
You guys would have to go against the family or let this relationship go and move on with your life. :(
I'm sorry.
2007-09-05 10:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If going to Bangladesh is out of the question and you can no longer have any contact with her, what else is there? You have to move on friend. Sorry...I know this is not what you wanted to hear, but you're up against some powerful forces. Circumstance is your worst enemy right now, but there's no way to change it that quickly (less than a week) that doesn't involve you going there physically and stopping the marriage. Love too is powerful; for the moment I suppose you could take solace from the thought that she's out there wondering the same thing...what to do. As for dying...well you've been dying since the day you were born.
2007-09-05 10:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry for your situation but it doesn't sound like there is much you can do. I don't know all the stipulations around the arranged marriages in that culture, but if they are like any other the only thing that can end it is death. I would try moving on and just forgetting about her. Good luck with it, worst case scenario you could make a movie.
2007-09-05 10:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Grumble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude! this should be in a movie. yeah man that's a tuff one. I say that if you love her and you can't live without her and she feels the same way. GO GET HER!! I don't know the laws or anything but you got to do what your heart tells you. you will never regret it, no matter the outcome. I moved to another state for love once and it was great at the beggining but it soon went down hill. I will never regret it though. I have my first child from this adventure. love is great!!! but don't let it consume you intirely. be strong and know that god has a plan for us all. follow yours.
2007-09-05 10:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really feel she is the one, you will regret it if you don't go and at least try to talk to her face to face. It's up to her to decide whether to go through the wedding or not. But you can at least let her know that you're willing to be with her.
By the way, what are you offering her? Marriage, stability? If she moves here will she have opportunities for education, work, etc?
Just make sure that you've truly considered her overall well-being.
2007-09-05 10:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Mimsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry iknow this isn't helping you but i guess you msut jsut forget her. its sad that you found her and now shes gone. but its best for all involved with such a terrible thing to happen. you can find love just keep opened to it and stay in the country you are no that is ok and you will mend take care
2007-09-08 17:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry man but it sounds like a hopeless situation. Love conquers all but if your living in different countries and shes getting married and everything is already set, then there's really nothing you can do about it. I say you have to forget her and move on.
2007-09-05 10:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 22:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by venturino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fly there and sneak away. There is no way to break up the wedding without upsetting her parents. She has tried. Its time for you two to just run away together and start a new life and hope that one day her parents will understand
2007-09-05 10:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by MonkeyMama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand how difficult it is for you, but the only thing that I can tell you is that if she is your destiny you will be together, but if she is not, then... trust me I know, maybe you're both meant to be with someone else, not together, maybe there is another one waiting for you, you never know what will Gpd plan for you. You can't do anything, except fight for her, but at the end if you lose, that means that was meant to happen, you couldn't have escaped it.
2007-09-05 10:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by LG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋