I overheard my boyfriend of 2 years & his friends talking. No I was not eaves-dropping but we all work together & I over-heard them & they didn't know I was in the other room. So their talking about the lottery & what they would do with their money & his friend said I bet you could put Vanessa (me) in the parking lot and she could make that much money....as if that's not bad enough my boyfriend says I doubt it and they all started laughing, his friend said dang and I thought I was being cruel....then my boyfriend said I really hope she isn't in there (meaning the room I was in) but...I was and I heard it and I am hurt for one that he didn't take up for me when his friend said that then he said he doubt it...I took it as he doubt's I'd would be that good. I don't know...what does this mean? Do I have a right to be mad? We live together, therefore ride to work together, I am tempted when leaving today walking by their desk telling him I will be waiting in the parking lot to see
2007-09-05 09:20:52 · 19 answers · asked by Vanessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how much money I can make...just to show them all I heard them. What do you think I should do?
2007-09-05 09:21:05 · update #1
You should tell your bf that's he right, you wouldn't make that much in a parking lot because your not for sale.
I wouldn't make an issue over this with him because little boys think there big and bad until they grow up. He obviously has years a head of him before he reaches maturity.
2007-09-05 09:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by catlady 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I love your idea of saying you'll be waiting in the parking lot. Very witty. Let your guy know you heard the conversation and you aren't some dummy. But also, I do think he was probably just shooting the bull with his friends the way guys do, and probably didn't mean anything by it. I would be hurt too, but I would try not to be so sensitive because really, that's just the way guys talk dear. But you let him know you are wise to the conversation and maybe he will watch his mouth more next time.
2007-09-05 16:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are dumb..let's face it..Chances are he was offended by what his friends said and he was not sure how to reaact..I would tell him that you overheard and that is was really hurtful..I bet one of those "friends" thinks you are attractive..guys say dumb things I would confront him and then let it go..It is not worth it and u have to choose ur battles..BUT I would say the smart remark to the friend who made the comment the next time you are out..do it in front of the other people so u can embarrass him and u get the upper hand becasue they think you did not hear it..then they feel stupid and u call him out on it..If your man can't take up for you make a joke of it and then let it go!
2007-09-05 16:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by missmaybug 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I absolutely agree with 'IvyDale', only I would take it a step farther(if possible). I would take my sexiest (decent) outfit, even if you have to go out and buy one, to work with me(without him knowing), go to the bathroom right before time to go ...fix your make up, your hair, and change clothes. Then go by their desk! If you can, make sure your boss knows that you are playing a 'get even' joke on him, so you won't get into trouble. But, like 'IvyDale' said you can't be b*tchy to him about it afterwards and you MUST talk to him about how you feel. One thing is for sure...if you don't confront him about this and how it made you feel, it will eat you up inside, and your relationship is doomed somewhere down the line. Good Luck and be true to yourself!
2007-09-05 16:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch 22 baby....His friend was calling you a prostitute and your man said you wouldn't make that much as a prostitute. It was just guys being guys and slinging their ding-a-lings around in some battle of the macho wits. Definitely do not get all emotional in front of his friends. If you want to do what you said then that'd be fine, but smile and wink. And then when there is no one but you and him you can let him have it and tell him how hurt you are that he let his friends talk about you and not defend you or worse, say something even more worse about you.
2007-09-05 16:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I would definitely start the fire by saying you'll be in the parking lot "working". I'd love to be a fly on the wall...
Your boyfriend was probably only shooting off as apparently the other guy thinks you are cute and he wanted to tone it down, but GO FOR IT!
2007-09-05 16:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Cathy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys IQs tend to drop when they get into a group. I don't think he really meant it and was just trying to make the others laugh.
I think it would be funny if you said that to him as a joke and then it would also let him know that he needs to watch what he says. Later let him know that you know he was just joking but it still hurt you that he didn't stand up for you and then said something disparaging about you.
2007-09-06 00:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! You all work together too!?!? What a thoughtless and cruel thing to say! Whatever you do, do it outside of work so that you don't get fired. I don't think it would be entirely uncalled for to slap him once your in the parking lot actually. He doesn't deserve you!
2007-09-05 16:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Venessa.... i didn't quite get what u were trying to say.....but from what u wrote i think that ur bf's friend was telling ur bf to put u in the parking lot and guys wud pay loadz of cash just to spend a night with u....now that is BAD.....if ur bf really RESPECTED you, he wud have been so pissed off with that friend of his. But instead he just laughed with him! M sorry but that guy ur dating is such a jerk....no respect for women....
and u do have a right to be mad at him
2007-09-05 16:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by Angelina X 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be hilarious to walk by them and say that!! But if you take this approach, you can't be b*tchy to him about it afterwards... he will feel dumb enough being called out in front of his friends... But I would tell him that it hurt your feelings and it makes you feel like you're less than perfect to him. Let him know how it makes you feel but don't start an arguement. Good luck hun!
2007-09-05 16:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by IvyDale 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋