i have this friend all summer she treated me like crap i would call and ask if she wanted to go shopping i even invited her 2 my birthday party and she was all mean now todays the first day of school and she comes up all sorry and asks me to forgive her should i?
2007-09-05 09:12:42 · 30 answers · asked by jenna z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
forgive her than tell her you cant be friends!!
2007-09-05 09:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by notyochic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is those sorts of things that happen while in our school days and you will see the same when you leave school and work. I will not put too much on it. The fact that you need to ask this question means that you do have some feelings of her. So why make it hard on yourself. Give her another chance and see how it goes but this time, do it in such a way that you are indifferent - not that you do not forgive her but try to be less than enthusiastic. Sometimes, like games people do play, they put up a show when someone is showing more interest in them and then they give up the play when things cool now. Its just a game or ritual human beings play. Try it.
2007-09-05 09:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Huang W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats mean that she did that to you. I'd say forgive her, but don't rely on her as a really good friend. If she can't be friends with you during the summer, what makes the school year different. If she is treating you like a "school" friend then she doesn't deserve you as a "year round" friend. Still be nice to her and treat her well, just don't depend on having a solid friendship with her.
2007-09-05 09:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by lauren s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the saying goes, we are capable in willing of forgiving but the lesson is not forgetting. treat her like you would want to be treated with that being said let her know in a nice and respectful way how you felt. ask her why did she treat you in such a manner. Remember people go through things in never tell what's really wrong!
2007-09-05 09:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by heyjojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO, not until she can show you how SORRY she really is!!!! She cant just blow you off or treat you like S**T all summer & expect you to become friends again on the first day of school...she needs to give you a better reason that just "sorry"....there is no reason for any of that...I wouldnt take that from any of my friend(s)
2007-09-05 09:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by **annie anytime** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is so short to have grudges I would forgive her and then just have fun everything is not about her its about what are you doing and maybe she made excuses because she was having a rough summer I have a friend who only talks to me on Sundays and I have come to the place where I don't care I just don't answer if I am busy then I don't stop what I am doing and eventually we will talk when she realizes it I would do the same thing and talk to her and tell her how you feel and then move on
2007-09-05 09:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and be the bigger person. I suggest for you to express your feelings to her though. Just to let her know she's hurt your feelings and go from there. The next she does it to you again...then , maybe she really as close to you as you think she is. You could still be friends but probably not as close if it happens again. Talk to her. You won't be able to forgive if you don't express yourself to her.
2007-09-05 09:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by ods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well resolve that ask her y she was bein mean 2 u all summer get 2 the bottum of it, she might have been goin threw alot or had a boyfriend i don't know the situation, but if its reasonale get forgive but u'll never forget what she put u threw
2007-09-05 09:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Drippn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, i would ask her why she treated me like crap. maybe she had a bad summer. maybe something bad happened to her. but whatever the case, try to see it from her perspective. last year i had this friend that treated me the same way. he though he was my friend even though i hated him. but this year he's a lot nicer and we sort of just forgot about it and we're friends again. hope this helps.
2007-09-05 09:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to have unnecessary enemies. Give her another chance...perhaps she really wants to make it work. If she does it again, however, cut the tie with her then. But give it a shot for now. She may have just needed the time to figure herself out.
2007-09-05 09:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask for an explanation. She owes you one. There's no excuse; (unless it's REALLY good); for treating you that way and then expecting everything to be great again. Ask her why, and if you deem her answer good enough, forgive.
2007-09-05 09:16:30 · answer #11 · answered by blazin_mamma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋