Why is it that we connect with some people and not connect with others?

Question

Why do you think certain people are in our lives and have stayed in our lives while others that we met we have no continuation and it was not destined to be I thought we have free will in these matters????

Answer 1

We connect with people we have mostly in common with. People who understand our hearts more, or most probably have the same type of activities like ours; when our desires all match and fit for a stronger, lasting bond.
Some people just "drop by" our lives,..'tickle our fantasy' for a moment or so; share with us a dream or two; then ease out from our door leaving only fond memories. This only proves that sometimes, despite our best will, things don't happen the way we want them to. There's a much bigger force out there that is in control of everything. And we could but ask and pray that everything would turn out right...with His approval.

Answer 2

Assuming that all wish to be connected is a possible source of the difficulty. Many are unable to be alone, ever. The experience of being alone can be so challenging for some that they will never have the experience. This is also why rejection, abandonment, shunning and solitary confinement are such effective punishments for those people. A government, religion, community, etc. can all wield great power on those who cannot tolerate being alone.

I'm fine with people. I'm fine alone.

Answer 3

There are just some people that when we meet I recognize them. We may not even have that much of our outer selves in common, but something deep inside recognizes something in them, & from the onset it feels like I have always known them. There are others that as I have changed & grown begin to see this "something" in them also. Then there are others that are in my life for the long haul, while others just a short gig. I do believe we form ties of sorts that go beyond what has happen in our present memories as well as experience what feels like brand new relationships. Although I do believe that there are hard lines of probability we do have free will of how we react & action taken or not taken, so no thing is wrote in stone. In times of terrible pain special people have been sent to walk with me or lead me out of the forest. It is just the nature of what we are to each other.

Answer 4

I call this patterns of destiny. As a proud agnostic, I do not subscribe to one religious or mythological belief. To me, these are answers found only within the self upon reflection and consideration. I question all that is presented throughout history as being subjective to the people involved with the recording of such and the historical context in which it is placed. As such, I do not subscribe to traditional concepts of destiny as we are so trained to believe in (ie the meaning of a higher determination) or other synonymus forms of divine intervention. I do believe, however, that all events must hold some purpose. Duty need not originate from an external source if it is the mandate of one's personal beliefs, and I believe it is the duty of sentient beings such as ourselves to find the patterns of meaning in all things, in all the events we endure, the people we meet, the losses and gains, the large and the small. In this concept, it is not the "why" that matters, as asking "why" repeatedly can be cognitively satisfying but often provides cognition for cognition's sake. Rather, why not ask "how", in how do these people impact my life, what lessons can I learn from their behaviors and ideas and what lessons have I taught them in return. The "why"s are often undeterminable, and as the experience often has past for individuals no longer in our lives it becomes a rather moot point as the time has past (whether or not we choose to pursue the relationship), and understanding the "how"s give vibrance and color to the experience, and help us to not live in ignorance of our own lives.

And perhaps my study of cognitive-behavioral psychology has killed my belief in or care for free-will.

Answer 5

They have experiences and purpose in common and this is not limited by the time in one of your life times. The proof is all around, some people you just connect with, others not. Like the poles of two magnets and all the variety of attraction repulsion in between. Why is it like this? Well if it were not the sun would not shine! As well as light it is a massive magnet machine.

http://www.windows.ucar.edu/tour/link=/sun/sun_magnetic_field.html

But you know some stars are just so strong not much can escape them.

Answer 6

I don't believe in destiny because of free will but I do believe that we cannot connect with everyone we meet simply by design. Personality conflicts, religion, politics, physical attraction, education and the list goes on.

Answer 7

i would put it down to destiny,some individuals are mean,t to meet, to connect with each other.a higher reason involved,to become really great friends or maybe lovers.we control our lives to a certain point but there are all ways forces at work.molding our lives a certain way i believe.we never know what is around the corner.until we are face to face with a new stranger,a new door opened to love.

Answer 8

it could be anything from shared interests and hobbies to shared experiences. for example, have you ever had a friend that you share nothing that interests you both? and yet you love to hang around with them to talk? and then when you meet them outside the school , there is not much to talk about, because you're usually talking about school, teachers, classmates. i do, and i think sharing experiences with someone can definitely make you connected. another example is your family. you may not have similar interests but you all like to talk about that time when jimmy squirted a noodle out of his nose at the restaurant. ok, bad example. do you know what i mean?

Answer 9

Everything happens for a reason. Some people come in to our lives to help us get through something, then they leave, thats just how life is.

Answer 10

Like-mindedness.