I lost my good job, then got another and it's going under so soon I will be out searching again. I can't even be happy about the fact that I live in paradise. My friend is suicidal; he has AIDS. My other friend is so depressed, he doesn't come to work anymore either. WTF is going on?
2007-09-05 08:55:13 · 19 answers · asked by shallytally 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
perhaps you are letting all your Friends problems weigh you down, you can still be a good Friend and be supportive if you don't worry about them constantly. you have your own life to live and your own problems to work out, if you concentrate on you FIRST then you will be in a much better place and feel happier then you will have so much more to give to other people because you will content with yourself.
good luck,
and remember you are the only one responsible 4 you happiness.
2007-09-05 09:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Nice Girl101 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's time you took the "bull by the horns" and started to take more control of your life....
Right now you should concentrate on the most important person: YOU. Visit your doctor and see if you are OK or if you need antidepressants for a while. Then start looking for another job...and take a break from those depressing friends of yours...!
(Remember: We can change no one except ourselves; and "misery loves company". )
Many times people who have problems prefer to be sad and miserable instead of having the guts to face their issues and to solve them; so be careful with the friends you surround yourself with! These people are definitively NOT helping you; so put some distance so you can feel better.
Work on yourself and don't let others make you feel guilty about this. We cannot give what we do not have- so take care of yourself now. Visit a therapist if necessary, too.
Good luck!
2007-09-05 16:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make our own happiness and our own paradise. It doesn't matter where you live or where you work, if you're negative or not very hopeful....that is what you're going to get. I recommend you watch the movie "The Secret" which has a basic message....negativity attracts negative. If you want something positive to happen, you have to think and act in a positive manner. Simple concept, but hard to implement.
As for your friends and their problems. You are in control of your own destiny and no one else's. While I think friendship and being there for people is important and can never deny that, the bottom line is that sometimes other people's problems are beyond anything that you can help correct. You can only help yourself.
Take care.
2007-09-05 16:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness come from within. Try to realize that everything happens for a reason. Everyday that you wake up is a blessing, some people around the world have far less than you, and are managing just fine w/o complaints. I sometimes think of my current state of affairs, and when I watch the news I see innocent children dying for no reason whatsoever around the world! The world is a F*ed up place. You can either let it eat you alive, or learn to live in it!
2007-09-05 16:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by mrsclh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
paradise? please, where is this? bc wherever we all are, we are subjected to a certainty of chaos in this world. the only way people can be happy is through themselves first. These things that are happening to you, are obviously effecting you. And it's gorgeous, that you have such a kind, sensitive heart to take note on what's going on. But now, these people need you. There is only so much a person can do-but all you need to do is listen. If you are unhappy with yourself, then you need to find out who you really are and why you are here. Life is about conquering all things, good and bad, and making life your own. Do not let life take a hold of you...you need to control it. Things are tough now, but they will get better, but remember, only if you want them too.
2007-09-05 16:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm my ex friend lost his 2 jobs in 1 month and he also lost his gf of 3 yrs. she had an abortion wit his kid so he became all depressed about it. he had a metal crisis and got thrown into jail for fighting wit his mom.. i recently just lost my job and i gotta admit..listening to his life stories and all the bullshit made me all depressed too..at some point of my life, i felt like i was going down his path.. i became depressed after losing my job and got a fight wit my gf...anyways things are a lot better for me now because i stopped caring too much..hanging out with depressed people won't do u any good. tell them to seek help and u go find some better people to be friend wit
2007-09-05 16:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking at all the negative things in your life and look at the positive things. So what you are going to have to look for another job. That sounds like the only problem YOU have. If only we were all so unfortunate to have your life I dont know what we would all do. Yes that was dripping with sarcasim if you didnt catch it. Im sure you dont have it that bad just be glad you arent homeless living on the streets or worse dead. Spend more time enjoying your life than complaining about it.
2007-09-05 16:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by ATM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is impossible to answer without understanding the source of all your issues, but on a macro-level, it sounds as if you first need to get yourself grounded, i.e., secure a steady job and get your finances in order. It's nearly impossible to help other people when you are in dire need of it yourself. Don't be afraid to talk to a counselor if your problems are larger than career/financial. Only by helping yourself can you help your friend. Also, regardless of what beliefs you hold, prayer is a very effective way to strengthening yourself.
2007-09-05 16:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Reece Judicata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is hard. Sometimes you can pull yourself out, and sometimes it takes the help of a professional. I'm in the same boat...I finally decided that maybe it's time for therapy. If you can't afford it (I can't) check at a church or if you're in college, usually there are free therapy sessions at the school. Good luck and remember that you're not alone.
2007-09-05 16:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by izzy's mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might be depressed too. You might want to see a counselor or mental health doctor to have it evaluated. If you are depressed, there are things you can do like exercise, spend time in natural daylight, make sure you do at least one of your favorite activities each day, spend time with happy people, and do things for people less fortunate than yourself - there are almost always people who are worse off, no matter how challenging our own situation might be. Find those folks and offer to help them. It helps get out of your own pain, at least temporarily.
2007-09-05 16:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by livingwell 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋