2007-09-05 08:50:02 · 28 answers · asked by Raghavendra R 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
... with that attitude it would be best to buy a dog, as you are not looking for a true partnership, but somebody who blindly obeys you... and you would play the master role.
Do you think, that you can own a person?
Don´t you think it´s pretty hard for somebody to move into a strange household and suddenly have to cope with perfect strangers??
You and your family members should at least treat her like a full family member and appreciate her and not trying to turn her into yours and your families personal slave.
What to you want? A wife without any opinion, somebody without personality?
Well, as I told you, go and buy a dog...
2007-09-11 22:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rulse that the girl after marriage should compulsorily shift to the boys house. Alternatively they can shift to the work place of either of them. But as per Indian culture, after marriage the girl belongs to her husbands house, and they shift to that house. Now time is changing and people are forcing anything on the newly weds. Wise boys and girls love their in laws and see all of them in the same manner. If at all they shift, there is again no rule that the girl should listen to whatever the boy or his parents say. She can listern to everything and select whatever she feels good. Todays girls have grown big and they know what to accept and what to reject.
2007-09-10 23:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by JP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if the boy is a stupid, evil or cruel fellow, he can ask his wife to eat sh|t and she should eat sh|t?
Or he asks her to shut up when he brings another woman home and commits sin she should shut up?
Do you want a wife, or a slave-maid? If you want a slave-maid you can go to any of the slums in India and buy a girl off any of the families there, desperate to earn a few rupees.
But that is shameful.
But you will burn in hell for it, or be reincarnated into a pig or something.
God gives you life and responsibility as a man to look after, love and protect your wife, not treat her like a dog.
Jenova.
2007-09-11 15:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jenova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong, to make a marriage work you should both be equal, you gave a life long commitment to her and her to you and you both went into it together, that basically means whats yours in mine and what is mine is yours, how did you get this girl to marry you in the first place with an attitude like that, your marriage isn't going to work, I can tell you that now! I feel sorry for your wife who has to put up with that kind of treatment.
2007-09-09 11:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Boo Boo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She is not a slave to listen to all that her husband says. She is family member of the house and has equal right. She should be treated at par to all the other members of the family. In fact she should be given more leniency as she has left her parents house and shifted to your house.
2007-09-06 21:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by BOND_BOND2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be in trouble after marriage....
Don't have these kinds of preassumptions, life is more different than what you imagine
No one has to obey to anyone in marriage. Both have to adjust with each other. Everyone has freedom to express themselves.
However if a girl is a guy who is elder to her, he should listen to the elder as a mark of respect. But it cannot be demanded.
2007-09-10 21:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at first. But after she's comfortable, then she's apart of that family, so she should be treated as a member, and her opinions, needs, and wants should be valued and taken into consideration. After all, u guys are gonna be married forever, so just to have a harmonious union and to show ur kids how to make a successful marriage, u compromise. And listen to one another.
2007-09-05 17:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO NO NO. you need to work together. A couple should find a way for each person to "lead" the family, as it were, like the man with finances and the female with how the home is decorated.
2007-09-05 08:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by wazup_dude2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. They (boy & girl) should listen to each other and agree on agreeables. The wisdom lies in agreeing to disagree on disagreeables in a very graceful manner.
Take Care...
2007-09-05 20:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Salaam Alaykum, Your dad could desire to be persuaded against a "freshy" back domicile if inshallah he can and pray on your dua's maybe this love is extra acceptable than somebody miles away. i'll maintain you and him in my dua's i understand custom could be a complicated component on your dad to break yet be vigilant in asking on your dua's ..AllahSWT knows maximum suitable could he soften your fathers heart and open his suggestions. Sister i could somewhat see my daughter with a guy she loves and chuffed than a stranger from a similar village as muy father that she would be able to despise. Walaykum Salaam
2016-10-18 01:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋