been cheated on?your story..?

Question

i was cheated on and i would like to hear other peoples stories.i want to know how they got over that person and how it turned out for them.thanks! just going through this and wanted to see if there were other people out there who went through this and i can get some strength from.

Answer 1

I was dating a private in the U.S. Army and we had been together off an on for about two years before he was deployed. We talked about getting married when he came home and where we'd live, what our opinions were on how many children we would have, what kind of school they'd go to etc. The whole year he was deployed to Iraq was hell but I was faithful for every minute of it- he got his interpreter to get him a cell phone and called several times a week. I would send weekly care packages with letters and other goodies and necessities. Then he came home on mid tour leave for about 2 and 1/2 weeks and it was wonderful- we spent almost every minute together and then the last night he was home before he had to go back to Iraq he sat me down and told me that the times we weren't together while he had been there he had been with his ex and that they had decided to get back together. He left the next morning and I cried myself to sleep for about a week and haven't spoken to him since. I sent him one last care package that had all of his things in there that he had given to me with a letter telling him that even though I was hurt that I didn't have any hard feelings.
That next week I met my current husband and we took things very slowly and started out as friends and it blossomed into a wonderful relationship.
The most important thing that helped me to get through it was having friends around who cared about me and keeping myself busy.

Answer 2

Yes I was cheated on after 12 years of marriage and 4 kids. In April my husband ( he works out of state..home 2 weeks, at work 2 weeks) told me he had been cheating on me for the past year. I had just had our 4th baby and my baby was one week old when he told me. I was so devastated. I never ever thought he would do something like this to me. I felt like someone had died. I decided to forgive him and try to work things out. Things I thought were going well. The kids and I were traveling with him during the summer and enjoying it. He seemed like he was happy and it was great. He then had to work in the state above the state he had been cheating. Well, he apparently called the woman he was cheating on me with again and AGAIN cheated. He called me up 2 weeks ago and told me that he had done it again and wasnt coming back home to me and the kids. He had decided to live with her. Im still sick about it and cant understand how he could do that, but needless to say we are now getting a divorce. It wont be easy getting over it, but I can say right now I am feeling good about things and know the kids and I can make it. I have lots of people I talk to and that makes me feel better. Im glad I found out he is the person he is. Even though things are stressful I am looking forward to starting a new life. Im so sorry you are having to go through this. I know it hurts, but I promise things will get better for you and you will begin to feel better. It just takes time.

Answer 3

I was married for almost 16 years & my wife cheated once with a NFL player during that time & I forgave her. We have 3 beautiful children & I wanted my family to be like the one my parents had. The only thing is both the husband & wife have to want that happiness. She went through a mid-life crisis & decided she wanted to go out night clubbing all weekend & not pay any attention to me & the children. Eventually I found out she went away to Vegas with this man & I spoke to him & he denied his involvement but he implicated others. He ended up on a local news special on taking money from women & supporting his lifestyle. I'm sure she gave some of our money to him & worse for her she slept with him & he has herpes. He also took sexual pictures of her on his cell phone & I've never seen them but I know people that have. Needless to say she's my ex-wife & unfortunetly she has legal physical custody of these kids she didn't want to spend time with when she was out clubbing every night. Thanks to our outstanding legal system that says fathers don't get squat when it comes to kids when a woman isn't a drug addict.

The positive out of this is that the Lord must have been looking down on me & believed I deserved something better. A women came into my life that I knew in High School & she is everything my ex isn't. As the old saying goes one man's trash is another man's treasure. I thank my current girlfriends husband for not seeing the treasure he had in front of him & my ex for not realizing that the grass isn't greener. If these two morons would have stepped up to the plate I wouldn't have found what looks like my soulmate!!!

One thing to tell you is if you've been cheated on it is going to hurt but the sooner you rebound & realize there are good people in this world that want the same things that you do & if that person you were with doesn't want to go in the same direction you do then let them go. You don't need someone holding you back!!!!

Answer 4

I got married and cheated on my wife for 18 years and one day I got a girl pregnant.
She had the baby and I pay child support and my son is grown now and in college and as for his Mother, My wife....were still together and I don't cheat anymore.

Now after reading what I just posted here ask yourself...what would you do if your husband cheated on you?

My wife married me for life no matter what I did. She is a strong woman and she deserves all of me and that is why I stopped cheating.

My story is true and by the way my daughter just turned 18 from an affair I had years back.
I paid for it believe me I did, but that was a mistake I don;t live to regret because my daughter is very beautiful and wants to go to college as well.
So I have to put her through college too now.
So you see no matter what I did wrong I made up for it.

My wife and I are going on a cruise hopefully after the hurricanes calm down.

Answer 5

i found out in the beginning of july that my hubby was "talking" to another woman. i didn't even know that if had been going on for months before i found out. it started toward the end of my pregnancy and after i delivered. it ended because i confronted him about it and told him that if anything like this ever happened again that i would leave and take the kids with me. it's hard. some days are good and some days are bad. the thing that helped me that most was to know that i don't have to get over it right away. i can take all the time i want to. it's going to take a while. some days i'm so pissed that i just want to kill him. other days i can't even kiss him because it kills me to wonder if he would rather it be her. we are starting marriage counseling in a few days. i'm hoping that helps. as far as i know he never slept with her, but the emotional affair was bad enough.

Answer 6

I was doing my husbands laundry, and was emptying his pockets, found a scuzzy strippers business card with her phone number written on the back. That was enough for me, I didn't even want to hear his lame excuses. I immediately packed up all his crap into black plastic trash bags and put them on the lawn, and changed the locks on the apartment. I also had the phone number changed to an unlisted number.
This was about twenty years ago, and I still kind of cringe when I go through my new husbands pockets when doing the laundry.

Answer 7

Yes, my husband cheated on me twice when we were engaged, but I never found out unitl we had already been married for 4 yrs. so now I am still trying to get over it because I feel as if our vows were in vain. It's very hard because I have been nothing, but faithful to him and continue to be. Quite honestly I am no longer attracted to him because of it. I just don't want to irrationally divorce him. It's been a year since I found out and I want to be sure that divorce will not be a mistake especially since we have a daughter. I myself am struggling. My advice to you is if you are not married, dump em don't ever enter a marriage like that. If you are married weigh out the pros and cons and see if you can overcome it.

Answer 8

that isn't any longer particularly humorous... in spite of the undeniable fact that that's the only cheating tale I even have... Age sixteen. I met a guy, he grew to alter into my first boyfriend and my previous flame... He replaced into just about 18 and going into the Air tension. It became right into a LDR. speedy forward. January this 300 and sixty 5 days. we've been at the same time for 8 months while he needs to take a "injury" because of the fact "my mothers and fathers do in contrast to him." This replaced into precise earlier he'd be shifting to the state next to me (finally!) Which meant a lot much less distance... nicely, for the time of the 1st week of February i ultimately have been given to the backside of it. the real reason he broke up with me... because of the fact he "wasn't reliable adequate for me" I asked, "why? What on the earth could make you no longer reliable adequate?" "i'm gonna be a dad," replaced into his reaction. So yeah. My first relationship replaced into hell on me and my coronary heart. Love + distance + cheating = a good purchase of soreness. yet i'm surviving. and that i'm greater for it. ___Funny adequate?___

Answer 9

Yes she did and I knew it lying in an ER after being poisoned. When I got out and began to recover I asked her why I had to go to the hospital and she confessed and ran off with her new bf and I feel sorry for what he's gotten himself into. It was her decission and I was willing to forgive her, but I will never forget.

Answer 10

I caught my ex first lying to me, that was the red flag and I should have dumped him then. After, 6 months it all came out, he stood me up on New Years Eve. But he cheated on his ex with me, then me with this new girl and now I think he cheated with another. I'm so lucky to be with my husband, he's a giver and I'm a giver. It works! All my other relationships they were takers and I foolishly gave too much.