HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DiVORCED?PLEASE ONLY DIVORCED PEOPLE!?

Question

Ok.This is a continuing from my previous 2 other questions.Now my question is that if you have been divorced,what was the reason,how old were you when u got married and how long did the marraige last?A quick summary of my other 2 questions..Im 20 and she is 19.Im about to be a millionare and i love her and she says yes she would marry me also.We are both virgins,strict about crossing the line when it comes to religion,were not THAT religous but we no when not to cross the line.I want to know that what was the main reason for your divorce because i am about to be a millionare and we love each other and we are young.Thanks.

Answer 1

i can tell by the wording of you question that you could care less about divorce or why divorced. you just want every one to think your a millionaire. oh sorry fixing to be a millionaire......p.s when you get all that money the first thing you should do is take a spelling class.

Answer 2

The main thing was infidelity, which led to verbal, mental, and physical abuse throughout 25 years nothing so much in the beginning, but by the 25th anniversary, the marriage fell apart for the reasons mentioned plus mixing alcoholism with it all. Men change their minds during their 'change of life' which is the late 30's and early 40's. Illness on his part kept us going, until I could no longer stand the mixture of alcohol and abuse. He lost his job, I worked throughout the years trying to salvage the marriage and keep up a front for the children and for the rest of the world, which did not work. I left when the children went their own ways in marriage or career changes that mean that they could care for themselves. He became ill again and begged forgiveness. We are still together today, he is ill all the time and I take care of him the best I can and now I am too old to work any more or change anything in my life. We were married too young and we did not have the same values nor goals in life. I feel that my life has been wasted, but I know no other way and it is too late to change anything now. How about this for all of 60 years?

Answer 3

I guess the lack of money is also one problem that can make people go their own separate ways, but the opposite is true, because too much of it and a lack of maturity won't be particularly helpful either.
Obviously if you're so worried about it, you should consult a solicitor and have some proper prenuptial agreements made.
But,it takes two to make a marriage successful, whereas, to spoil it, just a lack of effort is enough: lack of communication, taking each other for granted; in laws interference; physical or psychological abuse; cheating; lying; well, any addiction which makes everyday life a misery for the other partner... the list isn't exhaustive.
Usually it's a combination of problems that will push someone into making the decision of wanting a divorce.
It sounds like you're not quite ready to go into that marriage. Not because you're asking about divorce, as I think it's good to be pro-active, but money and possibly trust seem to be big issues to you.
Good luck.

Answer 4

First of all, GET A PRENUP! I double very seriously that you are going to become a millionaire though. Most people who say that, don't. If you were, then a great majority of people would have already told you to get a prenup, and to wait. Maybe you just need confirmation of what your family is already telling you.

I was 20 when I got married. I was divorced at 25. This is not to say it won't work. But if you are getting married to "escape" something or to "complete" yourself, then you need to rethink this.

Make your money first. You probably will live to be at least 80-90 years old, unless you are obese. (Then you will live to be about 30-35 years old and really need to hurry your life up and make wreckless decisions.) And a year or two of being "betrothed" will not hurt you. There is no rush. Be sure she has "made" something of herself and is not there for the "free ride."

Does "she" have her education and career in place? Probably not. Wait for her to do that. You can "live together" first. But make her pay her way. Unless you are just a sucker that loves to give his money away. Soon you will have children and be "legally trapped". Alimony is a very confining heartache.

There is no guarantee that a relationship will work out. But over time, the ugly head of greed will rear its head. I guarantee it. You need to control that time for now.

Answer 5

Okay ..I was married at 18 divorced by 22..all relationships and divorce are of course circumstantial..you are young Man slow it down..who cares about money..I would suggest a prenuptial aggreement though if they love you they will do it!!Anyway..if you are a virgin and you want to get married great but remember all relationships go through tough times and if ou have not expierenced life and you haven't then you might be rushing things. How long have you been with this person? How long have you known them? I would not RUSH anything..it always sounds fun and great but take it slow.You meet someone you are in the honeymoon phase and you are all in love with them..relationships take ALOT of work and that is why people divorce. Sometimes things are not right. I got married to an older man and it was a bad thing becasue he was not a nice man he was abusive plus he was a fake from the beginning. I can tell you it takes lots of communication and understanding and sometimes you have to compromise things you don't want to.Don't rush it.I am with someone whom I love to pieces but it has taken alot of work to be with him and it has only been 2 years..take your time.Get to know them at their worst and then decide if that is something you can deal with the res of your life.

Answer 6

I was 17 and he was 18, he had nothing and we attempted to build a life together but I was doing all the work. The marriage lasted 7 years and we have one son. No we weren't virgins but very physically attracted to one another but then he began CHEATING, taking money and ruining my credit to please these other women. Let me put a bug in your ear " it's fine that you are on the same level but when you have no experience and the only experience you get is with the one person you marry, then that makes for BIIIIIGGGG trouble when something new comes along". Meaning, antone can come along at any time and make either of you question what you have or how you're feeling especially if that person knows how to please.

Answer 7

I was married for 28 years then divorced.
Two lessons: Money is NEVER a guarantee that all will be well. In fact, it can cause more problems than it solves.
#2: There is NEVER just one reason for a failed relationship. That's why we need counseling when things begin to go wrong. It gets very complicated and each party is too close to the situation to be objective.
Good luck.

Answer 8

I'm 36 and I got married 8 years ago and I got divorced because my ex was not responsible and wanted to live a single life, while being married. This does not mean that is going to happen to you. some people get married and divorced and some people live happily ever after. Go into your marriage thinking this will be your happily ever after not waiting for the other shoe to drop. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 9

I have been divorced 3 times

the first lasted 2 yrs. my husband would not work and support the family

the second lasted 1.5 yrs. my husband wanted to critisize everything and when he was unemployed, would do nothing all day except watch t.v.

the third lasted 6 months. when my husband thought I was a punchingbag, I let him know I knew how to fight back

I am crrently in a marraige with a man who understands mutual respect and consideration.

you two may be young, but my parents have been married 48 yrs and were younger. there are always rules to a marraige.
....always listen to each other
....always remember to say I LOVE YOU
....share equally, marraige is a partnership, the yours, mine, and ours thing always causes problems

best of luck to both of you...

Answer 10

Right now is too young to be getting married with you two. Neither of you are mature enough to take that step yet. Money has nothing to do with it unless you are afraid that she will divorce you and take half of what ever money you are supposedly to receive. There are many divorces for many different reasons. If you have to ask all of this, then you are not ready to be married. Some reasons include, financial problems, another lover, fighting, abuse, jealousy, falling out of love with your spouse....the list goes on and on.