..which i was always led to believe was a horrible thing..
it doesnt put me off wanting to have sex with him too much but its always in the back of my mind that his manly parts are unclean..
.. iv only been with him for a week.. and really like him, but as time goes on i am finding it hard to want to be with him sexually..
should i tell him to get the chop or is it too soon?
2007-09-05 08:37:58 · 33 answers · asked by Beautiful - 6 in Health ➔ Men's Health
i dont mean to offend anyone.. and sorry to anyone if i have..
..iv been pysical with him for 1 week but i have known him longer than that.
We do have sex and it truly didnt bother me until he wanted oral.. he was the 1st person i have been with who didnt get the chop so felt abit strange ..Especially when i had friends in my ear who have been with guys with foreskin..and them saying how horrible it is.
.. i just wanted some of your opinons so that i dont have a bias view point on this subject.
2007-09-05 08:58:55 · update #1
There is absolutely no way that you should suggest that he cut off a part of his penis!!!!! (I bet you didn't think of it that way)
You should share your thoughts and feelings with him. Tell him that you have never seen an uncirc. penis, and that you are a little scared because you don't know.
Open lines of communication will help you both get through this problem, not immature prejudices.
Uncircumsized men are not dirty, they just have more skin on the end. He has had the thing long enough to know how to keep it clean!!!!
Good luck!
2007-09-05 08:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not being circumcised. IN FACT, most places around the world do not circumcise baby males. His parts are still clean (as long as he showers regularly), so you don't have anything to worry about. If you asked him to "get the chop" he won't because he has been this way his whole life, and he'd probably be offended. If you really want to talk about it with him, just tell him you've never seen an uncircumcised penis before, and he will probably tell you it is natural. Remember HE WAS BORN THAT WAY, AS ARE ALL MALES. How would you like it of someone asked you to cut off a piece of your skin "down there"? Don't worry, it's not "un-clean". If you do decide to have sex with him, it's ok, you won't even notice the difference.
2007-09-05 08:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by brigadoon 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Circumcision has nothing to do with being clean or unclean, that is a personal hygiene issue. It is performed because it is a cultural tradition. Circumcision was originally performed on both boys and girls (yes girls--later on this) to make masturbation and sex less desirable at least and painful (for girls) at worst. The truth is that the reason to be circumcised has changed so many times that this original reason is lost.
The facts show that most uncut guys are more sensitive than their cut counterparts, and many women actually like the feel of being with a man who is uncut more.
As far as telling your bf of 1 week to get the chop....I do not believe it up to you to demand this.... If you are not circumcised, you would be considered unclean in many parts of the world. It is ironic that boys are expected to be circumcised as a normal course of action in many countries, but the thought of circumcising females is unheard of. In fact the term for female circumcision is commonly called genital mutilation....how is circumcision not mutilation in either case and why should young boys be mutilated to stay in vogue with the times?
Circumcision is very painful, may lead to deformations, scaring and infection. It is surgery...and has the same risks as any other surgery.
If you find it hard to be with him, then find someone else or educate yourself to what circumcision is all about and make an informed decision to what you are going to ask your boyfriend to go through. Here are a couple of links for additional information.
2007-09-05 09:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mad Embalmer From the North 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry you are even aware of the penis situation after only one week. This behavior in itself puts you at risk for more things than he could give you. Please be careful. ALWAYS use protection. Remember men love a challenge. As far as the circumcision, or lack of, it doesn't have to mean unclean. Hopefully he is aware of the need to keep it clean. This could be a religious choice that his parents made. I would certainly wait at least 6 mo. before I was bold enough to suggest to anyone what I think they should do to their body. He may just drop you like a bad habit. If he is not clean there will be an odor you won't have to be close to know. You can always suggest a shower for the two of you first until you know his hygeine practices.
2007-09-05 08:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being really stupid and ignorant and bitchy. There is NOTHING unclean about a NATURAL penis. Does this guy wash? Provided he washes under the foreskin every day, it is not going to be dirtier than a circumcised one.
In fact, would you be physical with a circumcised guy who didn't wash? I'm guessing no.
DON'T ask him to get circumcised, that is insane and ridiculous. He will probably enjoy sex much less, and for at least a month he will be completely out of action in that department. And you hardly know him! But hey, maybe do it, maybe he'll see how shallow you are and leave you because you evidently don't deserve him.
Why don't you get rid of your silly immature inhibitions. I'm sorry you were brought up that way but you should take this opportunity to get rid of your stereotypes. If you like the guy, AND he showers (like everybody should), then his penis shouldn't matter.
Most women prefer uncircumcised men - sorry you think a surgically altered penis is the norm - have a look at http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com
Also, how do you know how he feels about your labia or your bits? Did you know womens' parts are often considered dirty or ugly? But has he asked you to have labiaplasty?
2007-09-05 15:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is unbelievable. I have never heard or read a more ridiculous question.
No you don't ask him to chop anything off. It doesn't matter how long you have been with him. What would you do if he said that you should be circumcised also. You know they still do that in different countries around the world. Whoever told you that the uncircumcised penis is unclean is totally wrong.
2007-09-05 12:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Racer20 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So your boy friend has not been circumcised that possibly applies to fifty per cent of the men in the country.
Providing they are particular about their personal hygiene and pull back the fore skin and wash penis when in the shower then there is not any problem.
It is a good idea if you know that you are going to have oral sex with your boy friend that you both wash the respective areas so that you are both fresh and clean , then there should be no problem I would never expect a woman to perform fellatio if I had not washed first and visa versa.
2007-09-05 11:04:48 · answer #7 · answered by john h 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being circumsized is not unclean. It is a religious ritual that jews take part in. The average guy does not even do it in other countries I don't know why so many people do here in the US. The creator of man put that piece of flesh there for a reason.. Who are we to change it. Besides if he does get circumsized it will ruin the sensitivity and he would no longer enjoy sex.
2007-09-05 08:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kristian K 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness it is too soon! What business do you have telling a man to alter his genitalia for you? Millions of men in the world are uncircumcised, and it does not make them unclean, unless they themselves just don't have good hygiene in general. Does he otherwise take care of himself? Then don't make him feel horrible by implying that he is unclean down there. For what it is worth, many men who have been circumcised as adults report that it radically reduces the level of sensation they have during intercourse, while the difference in numbers related to infection and cancer are fairly miniscule. We are all built differently, and if his way of being different doesn't suit you, move on without telling him so and thereby making him self conscious. If you realize that he truly takes care of himself, then do a little reading and enjoy what he has to offer.
2007-09-05 08:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by JLM 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to dump his flexible sausage skin for you after just a week. If you love getting oral and don't return the favor, don't expect it in return. Kind of like when i guy meets a gorgous skinny women only to find out she has roast beef curtains. We do what's neccessary to please her, so earn your keep. As long as it's clean, there's nothing wrong. If you find cheese, ask him for the crackers.
2007-09-06 06:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋