Is something missing when your man doesnt cross the finish line?
2007-09-05 08:28:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess among a lot of women it might be. They think your lack or orgasm has something to do with them. I don't ever get upset about it. I know that it's not because he didn't want to, maybe he had things on his mind, was stressed out, tired, not feeling well, just not feeling up to par. i know him so well I can always tell when he fakes it, too. And I just say you could have been honest with me! I would have understood. Men aren't sexual robots.
2007-09-05 08:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kate J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably got upset that she couldn't satisfy you. I don't want to get slammed for saying this, but mainly the purpose of having sex is so the man will have an orgasm. Usually the woman has many orgasms during intercourse, and the sole purpose is not for just the guy to have pleasure, both are supposed to have pleasure. The thing is, some women can't have an orgasm. The sexual experience is usually over when the guy has an orgasm. Yes, there are some that do afterplay, but its not a common thing for a man to do. So, when the guy doesn't have an orgasm, the woman feels she failed the man.
Your wife may feel cheated in a way, she didn't bring her man pleasure.
2007-09-05 15:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by George P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From a woman's' point of view, I think it is a big deal cause it's much easier for a man to com than a woman. Especially when the wife is use to him cumming every time. She might be thinking,... Why not this time? Maybe she thinks that you didn't com cause you already came with someone else. Or now she feels inadequate.
A male friend told me a long time ago that it's all mind over matter. A man can make himself com whenever he wants. I don't know how true that is though.
If you want her to feel better about all of this. just sit her down & explaine what happened. Either you weren't into it & were just having sex to please her. Or, your day was too busy & you couldn't get the feeling going. Or, new meds. Whatever If your sex life is getting a bit too routine, now might be a good time to go shopping at the sex toy store togeather. Or a hotel room every now & then should do the trick. Just don't leave her with the feeling that it is her fault. cause 9 times out of 10, that's what she's thinking.
2007-09-05 16:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This has never happened to me....sometimes it has taken my bf a little longer than usual to reach orgasm when we do the dirty somewhere we 'could' get caught (we like trying it in unique places), but other than that he has always been good to go.
Maybe this guy is just stressed. Do you have kids? Do you always find yourselves sneaking to have sex? There could be alot of factors involved. Meds, stress, illness, etc. Has this happened more than once?
I could completely understand why she would be upset. If a guy can reach orgasim through mastrabating, but can't when having sex with his wife.....well, that is a bit of a blow to the self-esteem.
You need to have a talk and find out what's going on. Making love is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. This is a couple's time to bond and be close. If there are problems in the relationship...chances are it will show in the bedroom first.
2007-09-05 15:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by vixen312 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I very occasionally don't reach orgasm, usually because I had been drinking too much that evening, lol. It used to upset my wife, but she's taught herself not to worry about it. I convinced her that if it doesn't bother me, it shouldn't bother her. This is especially true since she is multi-orgasmic. If she has only two or three orgasms in a sexual encounter, it's been a slow night for her. She says her personal record is 9 orgasms in 20 minutes. So, as you can imagine, with a body that sexually responsive, how big a deal could it be that I didn't orgasm? Ah, I have been loving my sex life lately!
2007-09-05 15:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if it happens more than once in a while. And frankly, if she didn't offer to HELP you finish via a BJ or hand job, then she's got no one to blame but herself.
As for the emotional aspect, well.... women are raised to understand that if the wind blows right, a guy can get off...and when he can't it's "obviously" something to do with them as a person and/or a lover. She's just feeling a bit insecure and/or inadequate.
2007-09-05 15:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, not always -women may feel that a man can always have an orgasm and when they don't reach one they may feel that their husbands don't want to have sex with them or they are not physicaly turned on by them. so if you don't finish the line then go back and complete the game later that day!
2007-09-05 15:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It happens sometimes--not often but you may have been tired, or stressed out.
Did you enjoy yourself?
If it didn't bother you it sure shouldn't bothered her.
(Less Mess LOL)
Does she come every single time and if not do you get mad. Just because you didn't finish doesn't mean a thing to me.
The only time I'd have an issue is if you gave her a guilt trip for not finishing you off. Other then that--Thats life.
2007-09-05 15:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with racer 51 well said, short sweet to the point, some nights we have all about having crazy sex and others nights just not might be into it for what ever reason, change it up also try doing it some where else other then the bedroom, be creative
2007-09-05 15:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It hurts her feelings a bit to think she can't get you off, but they never put the shoe on the other foot.
Yeah they think we are all just animals who pop off a cookie every time.
Tell her just like she isn't in the mood or doesn't finish sometimes, the same holds true for you. Does it *have* to be about your orgasms? Can't we just cuddle? Is hers a porn film mentality or what?
it just shows she doesn't think you are human - just a beer drinking farting sex machine.
2007-09-05 15:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋