That they are that low and no matter what is said to them as far as compliments and such......they can't pull themselves out of the low self-esteem bucket?
2007-09-05 08:16:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not referring to myself......someone else........
2007-09-05 08:19:57 · update #1
Honestly, I believe that some people are their own worst enemies. It really doesn't matter what is said to you by others. What you think of yourself counts most. So, if you're having a difficult time finding your worth, then it's time to stop and ask yourself why. Why don't you think you're fantastic? I am a married mom of two. I have actually been told that I'm not that fantastic. But you know what? I don't give a rip what anyone else thinks of me. I am the way I am. My husband, children, family and friends all think that is just fine. Life is the way it is...I will go out on a limb here and say you are just fine the way you are. You just need to work on saying that everytime you pass a mirror, and intentionally look in one from time to time and say that as well.
If you say it enough, you're bound to believe it! Don't EVER let anyone tell you different!
2007-09-05 08:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They can gain self-esteem. It will take the patience and emotional support of a few loving friends. You have to keep gently and sincerely complimenting them when appropriate. They have so far to go that progress won't immediately be apparent. But, don't give up. Continue to give them love and continue to boost their confidence. They will pull out of it.
The problem is that the strong people around the person with low self-esteem usually don't have the patience and committment that it takes to help this person heal. When the strong people walk away, the emotionally weak person falls to the bottom of the self-esteem bucket again feeling more alone than ever.
2007-09-05 15:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lady, it really up to the person. Who you think you are and what you let affect you is totally and with out a doubt all between your ears. If there is someone in your life telling you that your not worth anything get rid of them. If there is a problem in your life face it head on and fix it. The less problems you have and the less negative people that you associate with the better off you will be. Avoid temptation and have a strong will and Strong faith. If you look in control and strong to everyone else you will eventually see it yourself. Above all never let anyone use you, it's like taking 2 steps back. Take care of you. Later
2007-09-05 15:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Gilly137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they're suffering from some mental condition, for example, severe depression. It's just no use saying to someone who's depressed (I'm talking about clinical depression here, not the depression we all have from time to time on days when nothing goes right, or over a longer period when we've suffered a bereavement, or a relationship has broken up) "For goodness sake! pull yourself together!" because they simply can't.
If you are talking about a friend, and she's just not responding at all to any nice things you do for her or say to her, it may be that she is clinically depressed, in which case she needs to see a doctor and probably to take medication.
But there are also people who are not suffering from any medical condition, but who are just so self-absorbed and spend so much of their time thinking about their faults and failings and weaknesses that these take over their lives and they haven't room for anything else. There's nothing medically or psychologically wrong with them, they're just far too focused on themselves. They're extremely difficult to befriend, because most of those who try sooner or later become so exhausted with trying to get them to enjoy activities, or to look at the positive things in their lives that they give up and move on.
For anyone in this situation, only they can make the necessary change. That requires primarily that they stop thinking about themselves all the time, and by an exercise of their will make a determined effort to focus on things and people and activities outside their own lives. Nobody can make the decision for them, and nobody can do it for them. The determination to change their outlook has to come from them.
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2007-09-05 15:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of us just don't take to compliments, even though what the person is saying may be true; some of us always think lesser of ourselves. Sad...... but true. How do you build a persons confidence; is the question. When you figure it out let the rest of us know. Actually, I would try small innuendos, "Good job honey" or "Wow you look nice!" "You clean up nice." maybe that may lead them to think....Hey I'm not so bad. Good luck ;)
2007-09-06 07:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Beano 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it actually is you or someone else, in order for anyone to improve themselves that peoson must want to improve. When a person has low self esteem it indicates to me that they are not recognizing the fact that we (all human beings) are a beautiful people. Sometimes we are surrounded by shallow people who place much value on personal gain or power or material possisions. To me those kind are not beneficial to getting to know that we as individuals are important to one another. More so we are important to ourselves. Get them to know that they are beautiful and loved. Get them to know that they are loved by those they may not be in direct contact with and by those they can not see. Help them to use that love to love themselves. Whatever you do, if you commit to this for them, don't you give up on them...just love that person and encourage them to grow...take care...
2007-09-05 16:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ezel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had experiences from my wife like this. some people simply tend to think negatively, just as there are people who think positively all the time. If you compliment these folks, they think you are doing it just to make them smile, and that you don't mean it, then they take that feeling and start thinking they are pathetic that people would try to say nice things to them just to cheer them up, and the downward spiral continues.
I accept my wife for who she is, but that kind of thinking is a huge deterrent to effective communication. One day these people will finally realize they are worth something, but to me, i don't get why they don't see anybody trying to help as a buffer to their self confidence...at least they are important enough for somebody to try. I'm sure there are tons of lonely souls out there who don't even have that.
2007-09-05 15:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is always a point where someone can get back. It will take a lot of work on their part and maybe even some help from a dr, but I'm sure it can be done.
2007-09-05 15:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by tas8099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-esteem is a gift and the only one who can give it to you is yourself.*No matter what others say or do, its up to the individual to create for themselves their own sense of self-esteem and self worth.* No one is ever 100% positive, but one has to guard or fight of the negatives coming from other people or situations and circumstances outside one's self.*
2007-09-05 16:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Working out helps.
2007-09-05 15:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋