I saw my ex and we were together for five years and i havent seen him in five because i re married but now i saw him all the old feeling came up is that normal i love my husband but i cant stop thinking about him
2007-09-05 07:52:04 · 26 answers · asked by A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes that's perfectly normal. The old feelings came back because you haven't seen him in a while which means you probably hadn't been thinking of him...just wait because you're thinking of him now and you'll start remembering the reasons he became an ex...
2007-09-05 08:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, you shared a very very important part of your life with this man, feelings wont go away just yet. Also, as women we tend to reminisce on a lot of the positive stuff because we've had time to heal, and almost forget about the bad stuff that has happened. However, if you start seeing yourself becoming more distant and negative with your current beau then it is a possibility that you are allowing your ex to get in between you. In order to help yourself out, answer these questions:
1.) Why did I leave him/ or he leave me?
2.) Do I want to go through all the heart ache and pain again, if it doesn't work out?
3.) Has he moved on?
4.) Does he care for me the same way I care for him?
5.) Has he changed?
6.) Have I changed? If so in which way and why?
7.) Why did I marry the man I'm with now?
8.) What are the significant differences about both men?
Remember, not everyone is perfect, but if your man treats you like a woman, and cares for you, and he's not bad looking and not bad with the physical stuff, and he makes you truly happy then you made the right choice and your ex is just a good memory.
2007-09-05 08:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Om... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are addicted to a complicated relationship. When you were still with your ex husband you look for a guy other than him (maybe to have some thrill) story runs all over your commone friends until it reach to your ex husband as a result your marriage with him was so bad then. You need a little break from the day to day fight with him so you need to end the dramatic story you started with you being the winner so you marry the other guy. Now as you with your other guy becomes your husband now you want to feel the thrill again so you think that you are in love again with your ex husband.
Girl how old are you? Get mature please there is more thrill in taking care of your kids and being a mature woman than being a woman who go from one guy to another hmm at your age too bad.
2007-09-05 08:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by julea_brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal, but really do you still love him? I don't think so. I had a similar thing happen to me, I was married for 10 years, and then divorced, I didn't see my ex for 3 yrs, then all of a sudden saw him. We went out to eat and dance, he told me that he stilled loved me and could never forget me, (we were both single at the time) then we went to bed, my idea i wanted to see if I still had it, witch i did, but not him, I could never love him the way i did when we were married, not possible. I still love him his the father of my daughter, but a love like a brother kinda way. My advice to you is that if your happilly married, don't ruin it with your ex, his not worth it, if he was you would probably still be with him....GOOD LUCK.
2007-09-05 08:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jess F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As there is no easy way!!!!He was a great love and I am sorry to say there is a part of him in your heart and If you have children that is a great bond.I too love my stbx and he will be a part of my heart.It is natural hun.Just remember you have a new life now and the past is the past.Dont do anything to harm your husband.
2007-09-05 07:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it's normal to think of ANYONE you've spent several years with... The only time that would be a problem for you is IF YOU FORGET WHY you two are no longer together...
2007-09-05 07:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have old feelings resurface like that. You spent a good chunk of your time with him and at one time you must have really loved him.
I wouldn't worry about it, as long as you don't act on your thoughts.
2007-09-05 07:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just nostalgia... given you're re -married... why waste your time. Instead of thinking about the good, think about what pushed you to divorce and why you married someone else.
No good will come of you keeping up false dreams and hopes of your ex.
Get it over... sooner rather than later, or you'll have two exes!
good luck!
2007-09-05 07:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is part of your history which you can never erase. You both definitely share a loving and happy moment together and not so good moments to gether. Each time you see him, you will be reminded of the good and bad times together. It is normal unless you want to pursue a relationship with him again.
2007-09-05 07:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to have feelings for an ex, what is important is what you do about them. Remeber that you are dovrced for a reason. Good Luck to you!!
2007-09-05 08:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋