My friends found out I was gay off of something I left on the computer and haven't talked to me in the past 2-3 weeks. I ate with them at lunch and now I have no idea who I'm going to eat with tomorrow. Probably going to end up eat by myself. They were my only friends and I'm really not that down about them not talking to me. I hate when people see me by myself and assume I'm sad and lonely. Usually out of sympathy they'll try to talk with me which annoys me.
What should I do so I don't stand out and people aren't feeling sorry for me or judging me?
Should I eat lunch in the bathroom stall or something?
See if I can talk to my guidance counselor the whole time?:P
Was thinking of joining the gsa network at my school, but my sister said it would be social suicide and students would tease me even more. I figured having at least a few friends, who wont ditch me, is better than having some who would ditch me over something that shouldn't matter to them.
So what's the best solution?
2007-09-05 07:27:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is obviously time to make some new friends. Before lunch arrange to eat with someone you meet earlier in the day.
As far as the GSA I say join it - - believe me it will not be social suicide - in fact it will put you in touch with people that are good people with good hearts. That is EXACTLY what the club is there to do - help you!
2007-09-05 07:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This amy sound cheesey but... a smile is contagous. Be positive and dress in colors... leave the drabs and blacks at home. When someone approaces you because "they feel sorry for you" talk to them instead of getting frusterated... who knows, an awesome friendship could be forged from that encounter. As for the "Gay Straight Alliance"... it may be social suicide... and it may not be... but, are there other members in the group? If there are then you may have a link to a social network that could help you better come to terms with your sexuality. That is what that group is there for.
I think your sister may be more concerned about it being "social suicide" for her because she may be worried that her social click will find out she has a gay brother. That will best for her to deal with and it is UNFAIR for her to put her social insecurities on your shoulders.
And as for your friends who stopped talking to you... leave them in the dust. Their negativity will do nothing but make you feel less than happy.
Seriously, check into the "GSA"
I wish you the best
P.S - Eat lunch in the cafeteria... you may sit alone but appear inviting and not cranky or sad... if you look pleasant and content, someone may sit with you and strike up a conversation.
2007-09-05 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is trite, but I'll say it anyway. Those who don't accept you as you are, aren't worth having as friends in the first place. This will mean a lot more once you're out of school. I know it seems meaningless to you right now. Even if you face social suicide, you should bond with other people who are gay. You don't want to aleinate yourself from everyone. Or maybe you do. It's your choice. But, don't think that by not joining the GSA network people won't know your sexuality.
2007-09-05 14:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give those people a second thought. I would just sit by myself and read a book or magazine and let them think it doesn't bother you at all. Stand tall and know who you are and be proud of it. Join any group you want to. I know it is hard to realize now because it seems so major...but after the four years in high school it does not matter what happened while you were there and those times you were embarrassed will seem so insignificant.
2007-09-05 14:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the pressure of the high school. But who cares what other people think? Do whatever you feel is good for you. Someone has found out that you are gay and does not want to talk to you? Big deal, you will find new friends in no time... Best solution is not to worry...
2007-09-05 14:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Beef Stroganoff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm..... Here's a thought: Why NOT talk to those people you think are feeling sorry for you? They may be trying to figure out a way to be friends and think you are trying to push them away as "inferior".
2007-09-05 14:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no wise words, I just wish you all the luck, because it sounds like you need it.
My heart truly goes out to you.
2007-09-05 15:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋