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I asked a question about 15minutes ago if i shud get married you can go back and check....so this is the situation...I'm 20years old and she is 19.Im about to be a multi-millionare.I like her because she is very beautiful,honest,religous,and down to earth...she isnt a MUM or whateva u call them...We are both virgins.Ive never smoked,drinked,had a girlfriend never been on a date..she has had 1 BF but left him because he wanted to take that next step and wasnt serious and she told me she will only have sex with her husband...the thing is were both young and financially there will be no problem...we shudnt have any problems and drama right because the main reason forr drama,fighting and divorce in a marriage is money right?please let me know if i shud get married or not ever get married becasue since i was 16years old i told myself i will NEVER EVER get married but she has changed my mind...please let me know.thanks.

Answer 1

I think you should learn to spell first of all...

Take some of that money and put yourself through school.

AND NO money is not the "main" reason for divorce and drama and fighting...

I think immaturity is a bigger culprit...stupidity plays a part, so does insecurity...and so does jealousy...money is just another part of it. But it doesn't solve anything.

So basically...it sounds like to me...that you just want to marry her because that's the only way she'll let you get into her pants...and when you're done...she'll likely take half your money...

Learn from Brittney...Don't go make a ton of money, marry the first thing that comes along and then piss away your fortune.

Marriage is a big commitment that requires compromise and compassion....you sound way to young to be making such a big commitment.

Grow up, Get Educated, and Wait. When you're older, you'll be ready...right now...just be careful, have fun and don't join into any legal unions until you mature enough to deal with the consequences.

Congrats on the duckets.

Answer 2

Money is a big part of marital fights. It isn't the only one. Look on here and what do you see more than anything else. Sex. Sex is a huge problem in marriage. You two are going to wait for it. What happens when you two find out you have completely different sex drives? What happens when you want to get freaky and she doesn't or the other way around. Sexual compatibility is as important to a marriage as money, good communications, shared values, and everything else that goes into a great marriage.
Are you two compatible in those other area's? Do you agree on how many kids you would like to have and how you will go about discipline and what types of friends they can have?
Aside from all those other things. I think it is a mistake to get married before you are about 25. You are an adult but the fact is you are still growing up. We guys are like that. Your girl will be there at about 23.

Answer 3

You come across as quite young (or maybe it's just me getting old ;-) ), I'm very glad you have found someone that you think you want to marry. Money isn't the only thing to think about in a marriage, there are lots of other things to think about. Are you sure you know what you want in a partner? You haven't had much experience with other women (it sounds like) so how do you really know what you're looking for. I understand she has lots of good qualities, and maybe she is the one for you... but please make very sure that you have thought this through, it's a HUGE decision and I wouldn't want you figuring out 5 years from now that maybe you aren't that well suited for each other. Step back and try to look at the whole picture. And no, the main reason for fighting, drama and divorce isn't money...

Answer 4

I do not think that you should be in a hurry to get married. You two are really young still and there is no rush to tie the knot. I know that sex may be an issue....but if it is really true love.....everything else will wait.
So, No, I do not think that you should get married right now. I also think that you should maybe just have a long courting for the time being. You fail to mention how long the two of you have been dating.....that could play a very important role in decision making. Marriage is a life long commitment. Having a lot of money or having very little money can create the same problems in any relationship...just on opposite ends of the horizon. Please don't let money have any place in your relationship or in your decision for commitment. Talk it out....make sure that the two of you are on the same page. Seek marriage counseling and be truly honest ...this way you two can see a deeper side of one another. Best of luck......;.

Answer 5

If you're questioning whether you should get married and if this is the right person, then you probably shouldn't get married...just yet anyway. Give it some time. You both are very young and with age comes maturity and a better awareness of what you want out of life. Getting married is a big decision and if you're looking for answers to whether it is the right one, you may want to go to couples counseling or seek out assistance thru a church program. Those types of groups help couples discuss issues that may not have come up between the two people. It wouldn't hurt to make sure you are both on the same page and that you want similar things for your future.

Answer 6

If she has changed your mind then that is your answer... As for fights... there will be some, could be the way you and her do laundry different... who knows. It is going to happen, it happens to everyone that moves in together, sisters, friends, bf/gf, etc... It is just a fact, doesn't mean you don't love one another, doesn't mean you don't want to be married, you're both just different. As far as money goes, your fights will not be about not being able to pay the bills, but be smart. Get a decent job, live life like you don't have a whole lot of money, and be humble. That way you wont have the stress a couple years down the road of the choice between the lights or food on the table.

Answer 7

OK
we still don't believe your supposed soon t be millionaire status
but let's just go on the question asked
never get married
what is the purpose?
to have children?
you can have children outside of marriage?
for emotional security?
you can have that.. if you are so committed to that...
for financial security....?
now there is why women marry
so if they leave ( and at 50% ddivorce rate they do )
they have something to fall back on...your money...

so why get married
only she benefits
and to marry young is really foolish
as you have no concept of love much less marriage
divorce rates for 21 year old are 85%
as for pre nups
only if both of you have separate attorneys an the pre nup is well written
and even then I wouldn't marry?
what is she holding out if you never marry then she'll leave?
then let her leave
women are common and are easily replaceable
if you put them up on a pedestal then you sell you self short and say I am worth less than this women i worship
when you realize she is just human and you are as much as desirable to the opposite sex , then, and only then ( and it still a foolish choice.. ) get married..
but you never have explain WHY you want to get married?
re post with a valid argument..

Answer 8

So, in 4 years you went from never getting married to getting married. That should tell you something. You will change at least that much again over the next 4 years, as will she. Sometimes these things work out, but more often they do not. So, get engaged and make it a long engagement. In the meantime, get pre-marital counseling and learn about each other. Money is only one of MANY things that create problems in a marriage.

Answer 9

Only you can make that decision. You are both young, but I know lots of couples whom have married young and remained committed. Question is, are you emotionally mature to take care of your mate? Having money is a good thing but money won't keep you together. If you love her now, can you honestly say you will love her in 5 years? I think is a wonderful thing you both are virgins and that is the way it should be until you get married whether it is her or someone else. You just need to sit down and go over a list of what if's, wants for the future and make sure you are both in agreement.

Answer 10

she sounds like a great girl... why would you want to lose her.. well if she is a VIRGIN in 2007 and a lady who still find it important to have soo much respect for herself u never have to worry about her cheating on u and being cheated on is hardest thing in life a man can go through did u ever thought about that cheating is also the number 1 cause of divorce... having a faithful wife matter to me more than money

yes u should marry her for all the great reasons u say she is.., and as far as money goes... we are all about to become millionaire in a few months... I been waiting for a while now... u need to stay realistic and if you love her... and you feel happy being around her and she knows how to keep you happy without any sex then I just don't see why u should not be with her?