and how do you get your husband to understand the yearning?
2007-09-05 07:08:39 · 8 answers · asked by Chickenfarmer 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
We made a sound decision that was best for our family....size of house, finances, time, future....that doesn't mean I wouldn't ideally like more, but we are reasonable people with a plan!
2007-09-05 07:14:37 · update #1
Aww Jackal, you're just upset 'cause your sperm up and left due to your rotting insides....
2007-09-05 07:16:00 · update #2
My insides are fine, thanks, we just don't want to contribute to overpopulation, too bad your mom didn't....
2007-09-05 07:53:55 · update #3
Alright for those wondering, I love children and have always wanted them (not a knock against other women who don't)....it's just as natural to have that feeling as it is not to have that feeling. As for it being a neurosis to want more? well, the desire to have children helps keep humanity going.
2007-09-05 07:56:01 · update #4
wow, I have hobbies and interests, I play music, read, garden and yes my two children are very happy and well taken care of....can't I ask for advice without being chastized? I am not having more, but I do yearn for more...I am asking how to get over that feeling!
2007-09-05 08:50:13 · update #5
Thanks, Teeleecee....I appreciate the compassion and logic....I'll will try to remember why we decided not to have anymore and go from there!
2007-09-05 09:01:39 · update #6
adoption and fostering is great and I don't view those children as broken....I have worked with many children in the past in a mentoring program, so that would be a great alternative....like I said, I am done actually having children and we can't afford any more mouths to feed
2007-09-05 13:04:55 · update #7
Good god people can be cruel. In any case, that yearning is natural--it's like a part of you wants to feel that surge of endorphins again, feel that baby growing inside you, see that newborn looking at you for the first time. There's nothing wrong with that. My friend is over the child-bearing age, and is feeling it very acutely now that she's about to have a hysterectomy. Maybe it's a sense of that part of life is over and what's next? For some, it's an identity thing...and that the choice is no longer one that's there for them. I know I would have liked another child (I have one) but the choice was made, and that's that. There is still a little part of me that says hey, why not? But I'm not going to do it for several reasons. I definitely hear what you're saying, and totally understand the desire. I'm not sure your husband would understand the way a woman would because he hasn't felt that life inside of him. The only thing I can say is that this feeling will lessen and you'll move on to other things. Once in a while, it will pop up when you least expect it, but it will pass. You've made your decision and you need to feel good about that, rather than focusing on what you've chosen not to have. But, if it gets to the point where it's distracting from everything else in life, you and your husband may need to revisit that decision. Best wishes to you.
2007-09-05 08:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Use other family and friends infants. Borrow them for a day and give back. That is the best way to get having another baby out of the picture.
2007-09-05 14:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by lilac27 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you adopt or foster parent? There are so many kids who are desperate for loving, stable homes.
Oh wait; my mistake. These children are 'disposable' aka 'damaged goods'.
Broken.
2007-09-05 19:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider finding another outlet for your excess energy, which I imagine you have if you can handle another child. Find a time-consuming hobby or even a job if you can.
2007-09-05 16:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, nature has already decided that I can't have any more children (I'm in my late 40s) so I don't spend time thinking about it.
2007-09-05 16:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a hobbie, lady. Are all of your children happy? I come from a big family and I know personally my parents neglected several of them because several caused negative attention to get their attention. So, I think you better emphasize upbring those already here instead of adding to your own personal needs.
2007-09-05 15:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by anaise 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am enjoying my freedom too much to want to go through that again. Wait and enjoy your grandchildren.
2007-09-05 15:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your done with having children then why do you yearn for more? I don't understand.
2007-09-05 14:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋