why is people gay, because they choose to be? or because they were born? and if they were born taht way, so can we say being gay is a desease or a problem? and what causes them to be born gay, i dont want to have a gay son, help, i dont want to have a gay son, what can i do to nto have one, i want a son, with a beatiful wife, and a family. not being aroudn with a man, so answer these questions, why are people hay, because they were born taht way, or they choose to be, and so if they were born taht way, they wasnt suppose to born gay, so its a problem? and what can i do so that i dont have a gay son? and whoever is gay, how do your parenst think about you, for being gay, they accept it or not?
2007-09-05 06:57:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi, Fernando,
Homosexuality is a bad choice. While we are born with a sexual drive that comes on strong during puberty, this drive is not very selective. Men can be aroused by women, men, children, voices on the phone, pictures, and certainly by themselves. God designed sexuality for marriage. To prepare for marriage, we have to say no to many sexual temptations.
Homosexuality is still pretty uncommon, and so it is not very likely your future son would choose homosexuality. You can help him make good choices by making a good marriage, loving your wife faithfully for the rest of your life, and keeping your romance with her alive. Too, you can give him good counsel by telling him that no one is born homosexual, that fleeting feelings are normal, and that he needs to make good sexual choices.
2007-09-05 07:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce 7 · 6⤊ 5⤋
My, what a lot of questions!
1. No, being gay is not a problem. The problem is the bigotted people.
2. There is no "suppose to be born" this or that way. You get what you get. Girl or boy or inbetween-ish. Straight or gay or bisexual.
3. Parents of any kid will always wish their kid was "just like everyone else" - or better. Parents with left-handed kids wish their kids were right handed just because "being the same" makes it easier for them. But, again, you get what you get.
4. The parents will accept it or not, as their thinking dictates. Think of it as the stages a person goes through when someone dies (denial.....etc....acceptance). It works kind of that way.
2007-09-05 07:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You can't do anything about it.
It seems to depend on genetics and conditions in the womb. You can't really do anything about either of those. Perhaps trying to avoid artificial chemicals in your environment you could lower your risk for all sorts of bad things, but not for homosexuality specifically. Some ingredients in plastics mimic human hormones and can mess folk up. So go for organic.
Actually, now that I think about it, the risk of a male being gay increases for each older brother he has. So have less kids and it is less likely one will be gay.
You could possibly define it as a genetic disease, I guess, but it is a bit like sickle-cell, I'd say, since it was an advantageous adaptation at some point. Any adaptation it has its benefits and pitfalls.
Chill it, yo. It isn't a big deal.
My parents are pretty okay with it. I think any problem they have with it is more situational, they are a bit wary of the bad experiences I may have because of my homosexuality, not of the homosexuality itself.
2007-09-05 07:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Blearg 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a lot of people think it is genetic. I DONT! I think it is a choice
jsut raise your child as best you know how. let the choice be theirs to make. Hopefully he will make a choice that makes you and him happy. But there really isnt anything you can do te ensure he grows up manly. You cant guarantee that your son wont be gay by the time he is 16 or 17. I would not make a big deal out of this since you have no control over his sexuality (whatever that turns out to be) I am not gay by the way.
2007-09-05 07:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by molly 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your question makes me realize how unfair life can be sometimes, while you as a potential parent are trying to choose what kind of son you want to have, who is giving a chance to your son what kind of parent he can have. You obviously don't want to have a gay son, but have you ask yourself if a gay son would like to have an ignorant man as parent?
2007-09-05 11:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by prolatino_master 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being gay is only a problem for those who don't, won't or can't accept it as a simple fact of nature.
If you don't want a gay child, then I suggest you refrain from having sex. That is the only failsafe way to ensure that nature won't hand you an unwanted surprise.
In the meantime, try to enjoy life a bit.
2007-09-05 07:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by HMFan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, Fernando. If you want to have children, you have to take your chances on whether you have boys or girls or both. And then you have to take your chances that maybe one in ten or so will be born gay, although it won't show up until their teens, probably. You also have to take your chances on whether they will like sports or art or music or writing or woodcraft or medicine, etc, etc. If you're lucky, none of them will have a serious birth defect that will cost you everything you have just to keep them alive, let alone keep them from enjoying being alive.
It's not about YOU and what YOU want. If that's your attitude from the start, then don't have kids. Go adopt a homeless teenager instead, one already grown so you know who and what they are. You'll both be happier.
2007-09-05 07:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You don't choose to be gay or str8, you can't choose to have a str8 son or not.. become smarter and maybe you'll have a straight boy.. Being gay is not a disease or problem, just like your stupidity is not a disease or problem, you were born that way just like gay people were born gay....
2007-09-05 14:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being gay. There is also nothing you can do to prevent your son from being gay. Nobody has a problem with me, I am a normal teenager, but gay.
2007-09-05 08:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by ҡʏʟɛ - ❄ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
to make a long story short, you're asking if people are born or choose to be gay and how can you not have a gay son?
well, we are born gay, there is tons of medical research going on and they are proving more and more without a doubt, that people are born gay. with all the ignorance and hatred in the world towards gays, TRUST ME, nobody would "choose" to be gay.
Secondly, there's absolutly NOTHING you can do if you have a son who turns out to be gay, except love him and accept him for who he is, not for whom he falls in love.
hope that helps
2007-09-05 07:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Brian S 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Of course my parents accept that I am gay. They know that God made me this way, and that there was no "choice" involved on my part.
Being LGBT (or straight) is not a disease or problem - being bigoted and spreading hatred is.
2007-09-05 08:32:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋