should i write her back?

Question

My gf of 2 years dumped be on Friday for a guy she had not even met yet (through myspace). SHe said I was always good to her, but she was thinking of something different. I sort of instigated this break up too (thats what I keep telling myself). Anyway, we didn't talk for a few days, but then on Sunday I wrote to her saying that breaking up was hard and I didn't want her to leave, but I was going to let her go. She said she met the guy and "everything is good thus far." So I didn't write back for a few days, and today I get an email from her just asking me how things are going, how my new book is, etc. She also told me that she still hasn't found a job and she is excited/nervous about going to Vegas this weekend. Should I not write back to make her wonder or should I be nice and write back? What would be my best option if I sincerely want to work things out? She will know that I "Read" the email..because you can check that on myspace. I don't want her to think I don't care, but I also

don't want her to think I "need" her. She moved this other guy to her number 1 friend on myspace lol and me to number 2...but if you click on "view more pics" she still has the photo album of us together.

Answer 1

You can write back to her right away, if that's what you really feel like doing. But if she says she wants you back, that's probably because things didn't work out with the new guy. Most likely she'll be out the door once she finds someone she really likes. I'm sorry to break this to you, but at the prospect of meeting someone new, she seemed quite in a hurry to break up with you. Why? Because she doesn't care for you that much.
If you guys get back together, I'm afraid she'll use you only while waiting for "something different". Or maybe she only wants you two to be "friends". If you can handle that, then: good luck! :)

Answer 2

its not a game of tag, its childish to want to hurt her by making her "wonder" about you because she hurt you. Better to think a little about what you want. It seems a little superficial that she is already in a relationship w/someone else after spending 2 years with you. If you spent all this time with her and really have a bond of friendship under all the relationship drama then write her back in the same style she is writing you, it seems like the "small talk" is what will work for your history right now (ie asking about books and telling you her weekend plans) and it allows you time to step back and grieve for the relationship so you can move forward in finding someone who is right for you. So stop trying to play the mind games cause in the end you might be the one who ends up losing it all

Answer 3

well it's obvious that she still cares about u in some sort of way. Especially if she still has ur pictures up on he page. Well, I learned something about relationships yesterday: If you truely want something to work and to make it better, never give up...There is not such thing as failure if you keep trying. If she is the one you really need and want, don't give up...And that means that yes you should right back to her. If u do decide to write back to her, make sure to ask her some questions so u know she will reply. Do not lie to her and just let her know how u feel. Just don't give up....U will know if it was really not meant to be. good luck!

Answer 4

I think I'd just keep my distance from her and let her make up her mind. I think you'd be playing into her 'game' if you kept in touch while she was seeing this other guy. Plus, how would you feel if she was still talking to other guy while YOU were her #1?? Step back. Maybe just let her know that you'll be "out of the picture" until she's free again to see you only. It's just making it easy on her to be able to have both of you adoring her. That's just not right. She needs to make up her mind if it's him or you.

Answer 5

man.. this chapter is closed for now in my opinion... I don't know the two of you so I can't make more than a guess based on my own experiences... but I would reply with something short.. then not contact her again for at least 6 months.. probably more like a year.. then ... if in the future your paths cross... maybe you can make it work out next time... but the trust has already been blown... it's time to move on for now.

Answer 6

Personally I would stop playing adolescent games and just be honest and upfront. If you want to respond to her emails, do it. If you don't, don't. If you can't work this out on your own without input from total strangers on the internet, your problem might be in that area.