when I had it I had it for all the wrong reasons, and I regret it a lot last month I found out I was pregnant again, but they said it was an "early pregnancy" and I lost it like a week later. I am only 21 is my body to messed up to keep another baby?
2007-09-05 06:14:51 · 19 answers · asked by niecy_2o04 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Please ignore the ignorant and judgmental comments. I'm 38, had an abortion at 18 and I don't regret it at all. It was the hardest decision I ever made. I wasn't healthy and I was extremely poor at the time. At 21 I was ready, I became pregnant again, I was deeply in love but lost the baby at 4 months. It was pretty devastating and destroyed the relationship. At 23 I had a beautiful healthy daughter, she's now 14 and I love her more than anything. Her dad and I aren't together anymore but he's a great dad and loves her just as much.
Don't let people tell you you're a bad person for having an abortion. If you're feeling really sad about it I would suggest making a small memorial, with drawings or paintings representing how you feel about it. When I had the abortion I cried so hard and asked the soul of the baby to come back when the time was right.
In answer to your question: IF there weren't any complications during the abortion (which the doctor would have told you about) you should be okay. Just make absolutely sure it's what you want. And make sure the potential father wants it too! Things change a lot when the baby comes and you find out what you're made of. Make sure you're with someone who will stick by you and the baby, okay? Good luck and good health to you...
EDIT: What's up with all the thumbs down? C'mon: this question isn't about whether or not someone should have an abortion, but whether or not she can get pregnant now. Geez.
2007-09-05 07:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by contrarycrow 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Ok first of all if ya'll dont want a baby then why do you keep having UNPROTECTED SEX??? Multilple abortions so close together could cause trouble. I am not saying it will just that it could.. Why people dont think of this kind of stuff before having sex is beyond me.. My husband and I was barely dating when I became pregnant with my daughter.. We kept her "abortion is NOT a choice for me".. Anyway she is the best thing that ever happened to us. We have been married 2 years now and expecting baby #2.. If she does decide to go thru with killing another baby.. Then do something to keep this from happening again.. These innocent lifes arent being asked to be made that was ya'll decision when you decided not to protect against a pregnancy.....
2016-05-17 09:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to have another one after being pregnant twice already? I'd wait a while before atempting to try again. I had an abortion back in October of 2002 and 4 months later I was pregnant again with my son, he'll be 4 next month. If your taking any kind of medication maybe they are affecting your body. I would go to the dr and get things checked out to be on the safe side and get a heads up before trying again. How far along were you when you had the abortion?
2007-09-05 06:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be abortions to messed up things to your body...but if you only had an abortion 5 months ago you probably are not ready for a baby yet ....wait a year or so.....give your body time to heal from the abortion.....
2007-09-05 06:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by It's a Girl!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I would say try to heal first - you haven't healed completely from the abortion and are already trying. You need to heal from the inside and from the emotional trauma of having an abortion. Once you are truly ready and have examined the fact of why you got one in the first place and why do you want one now and are you emotionaly, financially, physically, and spiritually ready for a baby then seek to have one especially if you're doing with a man who will be there for the child and yourself and especially if you have husband.
2007-09-05 06:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by justaboutpeace 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well im pro-life but i do know several women who have had this procedure done. one went on to have two more healthy pregnancies and the other two couldnt get pregnant again. the abortion caused fertility problems later on for them. another one is just having alot of trouble staying pregnant. im not one of those people who are going to try and push my beliefs on you but i do hope next time you research the risks and effects of anything you decide to do. i would call a womens health clinic and ask them the possibilities and maybe to a check on the doctor who performed your abortion. the two women i know had a doctor who wasnt very educated and now they cant have babies. i wish you the best of luck in the future. just do some research and call a few OB/Gyns and ask them for their opinion.
2007-09-05 06:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by mrs middleton 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun you only had an abortion 5 months ago. You do not seem emotionally or mentally sound enough to be trying to conceive. I mean that in respect and concern. Stop trying to have a child out of guilt and take time to get your head and feelings straight. Do your future child a favor and talk to somebody first and take care of you first.
2007-09-05 06:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by black_cat0814 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to get pregnant again. The pregnancy you lost last month, there may have been something wrong with the embryo. Just keep trying. Most couples will conceive within 6 months, if it takes more than a year you may want to consider a fertility specialist. Good luck to you.
2007-09-05 06:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sorry but I would have to agree with Ashby. If you wanted a baby then you wouldn't have aborted 5 months ago. Some people on here have been trying for years to have a baby unsucessfully and it's real slap in the face to them.
2007-09-05 06:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by bunnyfriend 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I too think you're rushing things in all respects, physically, emotionally, etc. Slow down. Take precautions not to get pregnant for at least a year, then re-evaluate.
2007-09-05 06:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by lillilou 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋