My son is a very talented athelete. It just comes natually to him. We have had several people tell us that what our son does at 10 years old on the football field can not be taught that they just have to have it and he does! But he has the worst attitude and it is getting in the way of his ability to play. He started this year playing running back on offense and tight end on defense, and was the best on the team when he would give it his all. But if something does not go right and he gets tackled or misses a tackle you can just hang it up. It's like he just throws in the towel. Now he has been replaced in the running back position. I have talked to my son several times telling him we just want him to have fun, that we don't expect him him to be perfect we just expect him to be dedicated. What can I say to my son to make him realize that this bad attitude is not getting him anywhere.
2007-09-05 05:33:12 · 7 answers · asked by crystalt 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
my bad on the tight end, he does not play that on defense that is what he got moved to on offense.
2007-09-05 05:52:53 · update #1
If he has a favorite athlete try finding a video or something of them making a mistake. Boys are insanely competitive no matter what you do, and his being a perfectionist will make it very difficult, but perhaps if you can show him that even a professional that he idolizes screws up occasionally he might decide to let up on himself. good luck!
2007-09-05 05:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that this is the only place in life he reacts this way. He has to learn some character and integrity. I like the intensity but the quitting is troublesome. Seek some professional advise on working with him to correct his attitude. This will effect every aspect of his life: school work, jobs, relationships, other sports. Call a sports psychologist or just a psychologist to see why he reacts the way he does. This is a serious character flaw and could make his life difficult if not corrected. Kids like this quit sports by age 13 and typically get involved in the wrong crowds. He can change, don't give up. Good luck.
2007-09-05 06:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by funnyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep encouraging him, try to show a good attitude when something bad happens to you and encourage him to keep a good attitude so that after he gets tackled he can get right back up and get them right back!
My boyfriend has a younger brother who is 16 who is just like that and always has been. He really loves football though and he has changed with his attitude a lot, he is a sophomore and he is starting on varsity most of the time and staying in the game and when he gets down, he gets back up and gets right back up and goes after them. (by the rules you know) Sounds like your son is a great athlete, best wishes!
2007-09-05 05:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dandelion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell your son that tight end is not a defensive position. That's probably why the coach is pissed. The coach sends out the defense, and there goes your son like a jack-a-ninny! No, boy! Get back here! We don't have tight ends on D!!!!!
2007-09-05 05:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son a little like my son was. Just thinking out load here. With my son I fianlly figured out that he was very good in sports but did not feel comfortable in team sports were he is comparing himself to the other players. He went thru football, baseball soccer. I was a swimmer in high school so I suggested for him to go out for the swim team. Well it turned out that he was feeling the same way on the swim team. So I tried something different. I told him instead of being worried about beating others that his goal should be "beat himself". To beat "his" fastest time , to compare himself to himself. As it turned out he beat himself so many times that it made him the captain of the team in the coming years and he coached the new comers in that matter. btw. he took his team to state championships :)
2007-09-05 10:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he over analyzes and lacks confidence due to that.
try martial arts.. it helped me... as did learning to play the guitar.
2007-09-05 05:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try complimenting him on other things hes good at. good luck
2007-09-05 05:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋