Why do women like men who call them derogitory names?

Question

Or why are they attracted to men who are more likely to mistreat them, and put them down? Should I become more like them? Is it an age thing, or are womens brains just smaller and not capable of determining negative associations? hmmm...? Maybe I'll just call them B@#$hes and Hoes...?

I don't believe that women have smaller brains...that was more of a dig at the situation. And I can't generalize on all women; however, it seems harder and harder to find women women who have their **** together these days. It seems that I do meet a lot of women which I'm attracted too, that are in or attracted to really bad situations. They saying is "he who waits reaps the rewards" ; however, anyway you break it down, the rewards are nothing more then the remains of the initial product. And I'm tired of the remains, so...hmmmm...

Answer 1

because their fathers abused them by insulting them their whole life. They feel deep inside that they need to sexually please their asshole fathers. They become attracted to assholes!
Stay away from these women. They can't love you. You can be their friend, and probably that's what they need, but they can't love you.

Answer 2

Many answers here, but most of the intelligent ones are basically saying the same thing: a woman's self-confidence and security is directly related to how she will react to derogatory insults from a man. If she has none, then a negative comment from someone she is attracted to will only serve to put him on a pedestal while she tries to please him. If she is a confident, secure woman, she immediately realizes these derogatory comments are just pathetic attempts by an extremely insecure male to get the attention of someone he wants to control. Unfortunately, it works sometimes. I guess you'll have to figure out what kind of woman you ultimately want to be with, and how you'll go about pursuing that woman...as a gentleman or as a d*&k.

Answer 3

yeah, why not be the type of low life scum that acts this way toward women? If you arent, keep it up, you're better than that.

Also this is a pretty broad generalization. Not all women like this, I have NEVER tolerated it! I refuse to ever tolerate it, and I know many women who dont.

Dont be a jerk, its tough when dating. I used to think all men were cheating dogs, I was a virgin and not letting them grope my body so I got cheated on a lot. Then I met my fiance, and he was just the breath of fresh air I needed. He was willing to wait, and was so patient with me. Which is why we're engaged today. Have patience, and faith, which is hard to do sometimes, and look within. Perhaps there is something about you or your tastes in women that brings this type of "woman" into your life.

Answer 4

That's a very good question. There is a small branch of psychology dedicated to this study. Why do women return to abusive husbands? Why are women attracted to the serious 'bad boy' type of guy?
Its all about insecurity and poor self esteem. More than likely they were raised watching their mom's treated like this, so they think its the norm.
It makes me sick not only that women are treated like this, but that women deliberately put themselves into such a relationship. I've heard black men refer to their significant others as 'bitches' as in "Hey, this my *****, (insert name)"

It offends even be, and I'm not a woman OR black.

Answer 5

That's just what some women like. A lot of women like to date the "bad boys" and then wonder why they are mistreated by them. I will agree that "bad boys" are appealing in many ways but you have to able to weight the positives of that type of person with the negatives. In my opinion, the negative vastly out-weights the positives. You also have to remember that women often call themselves derogatory names. I have heard many women say things like "I'm the baddest *****!" You can't expect women like that to not date disrespectful men because they seem to be comfortable with disrespecting themselves. It is definitely sad to see women demean themselves, even to the point where you have almost not blame men who do it.

Answer 6

You are wrong, most women are not attracted to that, some just are stupid at times. If you treat women with respect now, continue to do so, If you think there brain is smaller, maybe that is the real problem with you finding one.

Answer 7

NOT THIS WOMAN!

wow, first off you are respectful to women and that is a good thing. a very good thing.
from what you said i would only guess that the women you are attracterd to have been seriously hurt in the past and are used to being called those things, and being treated this way.
in my opinion, that is all they know and that is what they are comfortable with because it is familiar. does that make sense? it is the only attention they have gotten.
if you have one woman in mind, then keep showing her respect. she will someday see that respect feels much better then being put down.
do not start disprespecting women. you have a quality that takes years for others to learn. respect.

Answer 8

Totally don't agree with you, cannot generalize that characteristic to all women. Majority of women would not accept that. If you want to argue this is a women thing, then why are there men who likes to be mistreated too?

Answer 9

Oh geez - you're one of THOSE. :)

I am not really sure what the deal is. I think a lot of Women grew up with poor or no father figure who was there to model how a Man should treat a Women. We learn that we are supposed to be treated like crap, so we're more comfortable with that - then when Men are sweet and caring like it sounds like you are. Hang in there!

Answer 10

Sounds like your well on your way to being a jerk. If you can't figure out that woman who like to be called names and mistreated are dysfunctional, than there is no hope for you. Go ahead, call them names. You will get what you give.

Answer 11

I don;t think that is true. Sometimes women tend to go for these men b/c they dont know how to choose a good partner. Most women want a nice guy. I think you should start hanging out with girls with higher self esteems, they will go for a guy like you- over a jerk. BUT I KNOW ITS TRUE- nice guys finish last.