I think I just want it to be Daddy, Grandma, Auntie and Mommy (me). Did your M-I-L or F-I-L come? I'm really just curious to see what the average is here. Plus any helpful hints you've learned along the way. I'm kind of nervous about this because of all the peolpe who wanted to come to my first sonogram...the room was packed!
Also include the type of labor you had...long/short, water birth, vaginal/c-section, whatever. =-)
Thanks in advance!
2007-09-05 04:40:58 · 26 answers · asked by Shanny 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Too many people in the room for me! I had at least 6-7 people (nurses, docs and students) and my hubby and mom. Just make sure you tell your doc who you want in the room- I had to tell mine that NO students were to come in this time. No in-laws for me, too personal... if they haven't seen me down there before- they don't need to now! haha
I had a pretty easy labor- no pain meds at all. Went to a regular doctor appt and he told me I was on labor! Went to the hospital around noon and I was only 4 cm, I walked until about 5 ish when I started to actually feel the contractions and had my baby girl at 7:11 pm!
This one will be a c-section because of placenta pervia and diabetes and preeclampsia but hopefully just as joyful!
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
2007-09-05 05:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by JenSky413 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Shanny! Don't have personal experience yet, but here's what happened with my cousins and what we learned from it.
My cousin is part of a family that does EVERYTHING together -- and so when she gave birth to her daughter four years ago, in the room (along with the staff) were her mother, three siblings, husband and husband's parents. I understand that all they needed was a pizza for a party. After a long labor that went nowhere, she had to have an otherwise unplanned Caesarean because all that activity (no matter how much she loved the people in there) stressed her out and arrested her labor, making it very dangerous for the baby.
Two years later, her brother's wife learned from it and so they didn't tell anyone about her even going into labor until the baby was born. They had another baby last week (scheduled Caesaerean) and we were really surprised that they even told anyone what day it was for!
We're taking the middle tack -- just my husband and the doula (and me, of course). I may or may not have my mom there to say hi during early labor, but even that's iffy. My doctor's talking about induction and/or Caesarean due to a bunch of problems I've had along the way, so in the end it may be just my husband, the doula and of course the staff.
Keep in mind that although everyone wants to be a part of things, you have the power to say no. If you or your partner can't, have a doula or someone who can be your voice and play the bad guy. That's why there are pictures -- and, of course, all these people, I'm sure, will be happy to help you take care of your new baby after s/he is born!
Good luck. :-)
2007-09-05 04:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
During my last labor, it was Mommy and Daddy. No one else except for the 8 doctors, midwives, and volunteers, who came to discuss my case!!!
It was a complicated vaginal birth that took 17 hours.
When you decide who should be at the birth, take into account that births do not always go the way you planned them. For example, in one of my births, my water broke first. I was not allowed to get out of bed because the doctors were concerned that the cord might prolapse, and my husband had to bring me a bedpan several times. Do you want a lot of people there if YOU have to use a bedpan?
Also, if there is not enough time for an enema, you could potentially have a BM while pushing out the baby. Sorry to get down into these details, but I know people to whom this has happened. Would you want Grandma and Auntie in the room?
There are various unpleasantries that can occur, and it would be best to consider them now, before the birth.
Best of luck to you.
2007-09-05 04:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the daddy and me in the room with the birth of my son. I was induced and in labor for 7 hours and delivered him vaginally. Now, I'm 38 weeks with my daughter and think I'm only going to have my hubby in the room...my best friend wants to be there too, but I had an embarrassing incident with my first that I don't want anyone else to see lol. Ok, ok, I'll tell you :) Because I was induced, labor did not come natually, so I didn't get a chance to "clean my bowels" beforehand and they don't let you get up once you start getting pitocin. So, yea, needless to say all of that pushing pushed not just a baby out ;)
2007-09-05 04:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by jilly23810 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had my husband and a zillion Dr's and nurses! This Dr to deliver, this is a resident Dr., do you mind if Dr so and so watches the delivery, nursing rotation for the college this week, student nurse here, head nurse following student nurse, nurse on duty, oh oh- shift change, new nurse... Other than the people in white, my husband was the only one I wanted with me for the delivery. My MIL and Dad were out in the hall- I'm sure they heard everything, but weren't in with us. I found it to be more personal that way, just a special moment for my husband and I to share. I plan to do the same this time, too. I had a long 18 hour, induced labour, epidural at about 12 hours and delivered vaginally. Spent some time in the whirlpool bath to soothe contractions, but didn't have a water delivery.
Mom to 2, and 33 weeks for #3
2007-09-05 05:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by CW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well luckily the hospital we had our ultrasound in said only 1 person could attend it, which was my husband. With my first pregnancy I had a 26 hour labor that slowly progressed, at about 14 hours they gave me pitocin, which hurt like HELL. Those contractions were so terrible. I ended up getting an epidural for that one. The anesthesiologists who administered it were so awesome. They also gave me good pushing advice, in their words "pushing is like taking a big s.hit". They cracked me up and they were right, push like that. Ended up I pushed for only 25 mins with a small tear and ONLY my husband in the room. Only we made the baby, only we bring into the world. It was nice and calm.
With my second pregnancy my total labor only ended up being 13 hours, no inducer, no epidural. It was great, the pain was VERY manageable and I enjoyed having only my husband there again a lot more. It was much more intimate if I dare use that word for this kind of activity and we were both more in tune with each other and what was going on at that moment. I only pushed for 15 mins with this one and absolutely no repair. After that birth I would love to have more completely natural.
Hope something in there helps. Good luck.
2007-09-05 04:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by blanquettedeveau 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just my husband and my close friend. My in-laws didn't need to see that side of me. They were fine with seeing the baby after she was born. My mother is passed on and no way my dad was coming in...
It was going to just be my husband and I but I heard that if you labor is very long, you support may need a break so you should have a back-up. I got lucky and had a very short quick vaginal birth.
I believe with a c-section only you and one other is allowed in since it is a surgical deal, but check with your hospital.
2007-09-05 05:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by buggerhead 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a scheduled c section so everyone was in my pre op room, but only my husband was allowed in the surgery room...of course they had already put in my catherder before my in laws arrived so that wasnt a big deal....then in the recovery room only my mom, husband, and sister came in the rest went to look at the baby in the nursery.....
In my sisters room she just had my mom and her husband in there (she had a reg vaginal birth) I wanted to be in there, but she didnt wanted too crowded and I respected her decision of course it was stated that if my mother couldnt make it (she lives about 1hr 1/2 away) then i would be the other one in the room.....it took her from about 5pm to 5 am to have my nephew...i got there around 8 or 9pm and stayed the whole time......very long and i had to work the next day so i was very tired!
2007-09-05 04:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by tll 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband is in the military, and for both of our deliveries we have been stationed away from family. My first birth was a vaginal, with epidural. It sucked. I couldn't feel anything to push, couldn't control my pushing, and ended up giving myself a 3rd degree tear. Our son was 8lbs 14 oz, 21 1/2 in long. Another issue I had with his birth is that he was posterior(face up presentation). That made pushing even harder because the largest part of his head was trying to be born first. So that delivery it was me, my husband, the nurse, a med student, and my midwife.
Fast forward 21 months, and I was back in the hospital. LOL That delivery was a drug and intervention free birth, and AMAZING. From the time my water broke to me birthing our 2nd son was not even 5 hours; with inly 3 hours of really feeling contractions. I used the tub to labor in(planned on a water birth but that didn't happen), then got out and pushed for not even five minutes and birthed baby #2. He was 8lbs 5oz and 20 1/4in long. For that birth it was me, the husband, my doula(also BF), midwife, and nurse.
2007-09-05 04:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer_elaine83 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just read thru the hospital booklet last night and they said you could have up to 4 people in the room. I intend to have my Mother, the Father, and two friends or one friend and my little sister, not sure yet. I intend to have a vaginal birth.
I have a friend who had a vaginal birth and her mother, her father, the father, and I were all in the room. It was pretty quick once everything got started.
I think it is all about what you are comfortable with.
2007-09-05 06:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kali's Mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋