in turn lead to infidelity?Since you don't know what you're missing and aren't happy with what you've got aren't you even more likely to stray than if you had something to compare your spouse's performance to?I'm really glad than I didn't wait and "shopped around" so to say before settling down.Why anyone would willigly deprive themselves of one f the best things in life is beyond me.
2007-09-05 04:27:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Waiting or not waiting is not the answer to a satisfying sex life.
Communication, love, respect, patience, and much learning together.... over time, is your greatest asset to a satisfying sex life.
Your focus is off. It's not about timing, it's about loving, and "taking the time".
Hopefully, you'll get over this instant gratification bit, and learn how to love your spouse, and enter that satisfying arena.
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2007-09-05 04:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it does not mean that at all. Sex, though awesome, is only a small part of a relationship. And in truth sex with a regular, loving partner can be way more satisfying than not. A marriage is based upon learning and growing together in all aspects. Besides if you think making a committment to spend your life with a great person is willingly depriving themselves then you aren't worth a second look let alone a marriage proposal. Go play with yourself, it apparently is the only thing you do know.
2007-09-05 04:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by ultimatefitnesswithchristie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you are right if sex is all you want from a marriage. There are so many other aspects to a successful marriage. I know for a fact that shopping around can land you with STD's which you may pass on to the one you eventually marry. My wife is the only sex partner I've ever had. I guess I found the best right away and didn't have to shop around.
2007-09-05 04:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or...you could look at it this way. It is a chance for you to learn what you like, with someone you love. Who cares what everyone else is doing. My wife and I were both Virgins, and in the ten years we have been married, it has only gotten better. My thought is that sex creates a bond, and if you change partners, the bond is broken. Then then next time you have sex, a weaker bond is formed, until all that you can do is crave the next time that bond is whole for a few seconds. Pretty poor way to live, if you ask me. (again, just my thoughts and feelings on the subject.)
2007-09-05 04:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure, as I haven't met many people that have waited to ask about this. However, the idea is, that sex is better with someone you truly care about and love. If you spend time getting to know someone in a relationship without jumping into having sex, you will truly get to know them better becasue sex gives us a false sence of emotional intimacy early on and makes us feel like we are in love already. By waiting, you will know that your love for them is not based on sex and that your love for them is real. When you get married to them, your sex/love life should be even better.
2007-09-05 04:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, in case you're relatively in love with that person. The intercourse often is the main suitable b/c yall are into one yet another. intercourse has gotten so puffed up those days and that is by no capacity relatively approximately gratifying that person to the utmost. that is approximately getting a bounce-off those days. I even have been waiting and that i consistently pay attention questions like this. yet i've got been with my significant different for 2yrs now and that i understand while that day comes, it will be good as a results of fact i understand what he likes and pick so i'll supply it to him. in basic terms such as you are able to understand what your female likes, you provide it to her so she would be able to be chuffed. there is not any longer something distinctive on in case you purely wait till you're married. you need to discover that person, study them. i've got had many possibilities to sleep with individuals in spite of the fact that it could have been in basic terms intercourse and that i'm no longer into that. you need to relatively love someone previously intercourse. "think of previously you communicate" Nesha!
2016-10-18 00:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why some people are overly proud of having waited til marriage. Sex is a part of adult life, and it's a big part of a marriage. If you're not sexually satisfied, it will lead to other problems. Yeah, test drive before you buy. What's wrong with that? If you're an adult about it, you'll be careful and responsible.
2007-09-05 04:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's your first clue... "shopping around"????
If you had waited until you were married, you would'nt know any other than your spouse. You would grow & explore together. There would be nobody else to "compare" to.
Oye... people amaze me.
Living together & premarital sex increases the odds of divorce by 75%
2007-09-05 05:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I think that it's ridicoulous.. It's better to have sex to know what you will be dealing with for the rest of your life. I do not want to wait to find out that this individual does not satisfy me and I end up cheating and being call a whore.
2007-09-05 04:40:32 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people don't believe in sex before marriage.. get a grip. do things YOUR way, and let the rest of the world do things their way.
meanwhile, when people get married and never had sex before, im sure they do just fine and explore and experiment.
sex isn't everything, btw... i suppose you'll figure that out someday.
2007-09-05 04:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋