For the past year my boyfriend and I have had a long distance relationship. I live in TX and he lives in CA. We are ready to take the next step in our relationship. He wants to move to TX with me but not until March. I had surgery about 4 months ago, so my time limit to have children is closing in, so we want to be closer together so that we can work on getting pregnant. However, I've mentioned to my mom before that I want to move but she has let me know she doesnt approve. She believes that once I move, I will never come home. I have a very close relationship with her and just the thought of leaving her and my nephews breaks my heart, but I want to start my life also. I just dont know what to do anymore. How do I break it to her and my sisters. This is so hard my heart hurts!!!
2007-09-05 04:25:36 · 10 answers · asked by lorimtx2204 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If your boyfriend wants to move to TX in March why not wait? You are complicating things more. March is right around the corner. Why don't you start working on getting your boyfriend some sort of job in the midtime. Or get your place to live really nice. California is expensive and there are not many jobs there. Don't do it. It is not worthy.
2007-09-05 04:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
March isn't that far away...only 5 months.
However, if you are dead-set on moving, then just tell her that you've decided to go for a while. I think part of her disapproval IS the fact that you two share such a close relationship, but at some point in every person's life they MUST cut those apron stings...and this is your time. She may be mad, hurt, or whatever but I guarantee that she'll get over it. And tell her too that she's always welcome to come and visit while you're there.
2007-09-05 04:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to be sure this is what you really want to do. If after you thought long and hard about it and your decision is to move I say go for it. Just tell your family that this is something that you really want to do and regardless of how far away from them you are you will always keep in contact and visit as much as possible. I understand that it is and will be difficult at first but you must live your life. Your family will be just fine. It will just take them awhile to adjust. Good luck to you.
2007-09-05 04:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Applered24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be gentle sit her down and say that you and your boyfriend have been together for a while and you think he is the one and after the operation this could be your last chance to be a family so you are moving to ca to be with him and that you will always kepp her posted on whats hppening and if anything wet wrong you would come straight back
2007-09-05 04:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I think it's time to start living your life. Your mom loves you and she will get over you moving. She needs to understand that your an adult and you need to start your own family and what not. Thats the risk you take when having kids is one day they are gonna grow up and want their own lives.
2007-09-05 04:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by luveschvys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to tell her...maybe take your family and boyfriend out for dinner and tell them there. explain that you want to start a family . she should be joyous about having more grand children, and assure her that you will make effortst to visit as much as possible. if she is going to be upset, she is going to be upset...but this is your life. maybe once she sees how happy you are and that you DO come visit her, she will be more accepting. good luck
2007-09-05 04:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by creepout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them. It's YOUR life.. you can still communicate via email, phone, letters.
And perhaps you will be able to travel to visit them from time to time... it's not like you're moving to another planet, and sometimes we can get really good plane fares if we shop around.
do what makes YOU happy -- no one else is going to!
i wish you all the best! (i am also moving to california soon!! yay!)
2007-09-05 04:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd stay in TX, Cali is overrated AND way too strict on pollution controll.
2007-09-05 04:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by ccstangfan2 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Call for a sit down talk and tell them
2007-09-05 04:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your parents. Find someone in Texas. Good luck :)
2007-09-05 04:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋