My mom says I dont have to lie to her but every times I ask she says no so what am I supposed to do?

Question

And please dont say wait til I move out bacause I cant wait that long! Thank you in advance

Everytime I ask her about anything I want to do get on myspace go to a after school game go to a party anything in dat section of having fun. So when I sneak and go or get on myspace or just do it without even asking she gets mad and says you dont have to lie to me but when i do ask and try to be honest i already know what my answer is so why waste my breathe I'm trying to do the right thing but there has got to be another way than this

Answer 1

Every time you ask her what? Your question isn't clear.

Answer 2

you need to understand first that your mom is not trying to suck the fun out of your youth, she is just trying to protect you. myspace is a dangerous tool if teens (i don't kno how old you are but figure u to be @ tween-teen age) are not taught internet etiquette. i have seen so many young people on myspace put their real names on the internet with pics of them (often naked, or half dressed), their hometown up, cursing on the page, the school they attend, chatting with other teens they don't kno, giving out their phone numbers. never using any discretion as to the danger of child molesters and murderers out their waiting to entice children. what i suggest to do is:
1. get some info off the internet about internet etiquette, and internet safety. print this info out and take it to your mom(she will be so impressed with your maturity on this matter),
sit down and discuss all the points with her, let her talk and voice her concerns..
2. SHOW her your myspace page (go pull off anything questionable so that she will respect you and your page).
3. put your computer in a public place in the house, so that she can feel like she is watching you and you are not hiding anything.
parties are great too but also dangerous. if they are well chaperoned they can be great. but lets be honest how many parties are well chaperoned. kids your age frown on that and often lie so that you can drink alcohol, do drugs, have sex or make-out, and plenty other bad decisions. me personally, i luv parties, great social outlet, but they are not all safe. so when wanting to go to a party,
1. don't tell your mom at the last minute.
2. tell her exactly where the party is (exact address), and do not lie
3. tell her who's hosting the party, their age, how you know them, who their parents are, will the parents be there
4. give her the # to party parents house, and LET her call them( if they are hosting a party they should expect parents to be calling for info)
5. take other responsible friends with you, if u don't have any make some new friends (that's how i got to go out when i was young, i hung out with the 'good' crowd)
6. call to check in during the night
7.ALWAYS MAKE CURFEW!! (NO EXCEPTIONS)

sounds like you and your mom have some trust issues, you said urself that u have lied to her repeatedly. she is in lock-down mode right now, because u appear to be disobedient, and untrustworthy. change ur behavior and ur approach and she will change hers

Answer 3

I have a 17 year old daughter.............when she lies to us we can't trust her...........thus we have to say NO. If you keep lying you are going to get NO as an answer. It's what you call a catch 22. To build trust you must tell the truth....even if it gets you into trouble. But you're building trust. If you build trust eventually she's going to say yes. It may take time so be patient.

Answer 4

communicate is the best way sit down with her and talk and keep it calm. that is how you find out and work things out talking.

Answer 5

I can't realy answer this one because there's nothing written about what she's saying no for or to...