How to live with this kind of marriage?Cant allow blue films.I dont want divorce him as I love him.?
We are married fro 6months now. Ours si a love marriage. He lied for everything and cheated me.He gave me nothing from time of marriage.He showed me imaginary married life and world to me before marrying me.He doesnt earn he has no home so My parents supported us and gave a home to live. I am from very rich and high class family with masters in education. I started working also and he takes all my money and spends it of.He has never given me anything but knows how to take it from me. He made me sell my gold and ask money from my parents all the time coz i love him.He smokes, watches blue films, tv and playing cards and snookers on yahoo.he enjoys his life. He slaps me on my face if I argue.I love him and I am suffering. His family left him never supported him financially also at time we got married. My parents are my strenght.But now he is cheating and lying to me and meeting his family and giving them my money if they ask.Which is not accepted by me. Please advice.
2007-09-05 04:24:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents are financially sound but I dont want them to be troubled by me more and get dishartened. I always pretend to be happy before my parents and others for all the curse he brings to my life.He just picks and drops me to work.I want to get settled and earn a little so that I can eat sleep and live happily alone. I am making myself strong by searching for a best job.But i always die for his kindness and want him to realize and live.If he doesnt fight and argue with me one day I feel i lived my married life successfully today.I have made funda of my life to live as it comes and daily hurt my self more. Give me more advices as per what suggests my life better and how?
2007-09-05 04:56:31 · update #1
This is abuse. I can't believe your parents are not helping you kick this guy out. I'm sorry, but what part of this do you love? They physical abuse (slapping), the stealing, the cheating, the smoking? Let me guess you are in love with him because he is a liar.
Honey, if you let him treat you like this now after 6 months of marriage then how is ti going to be in a year or two or five. With a masters in education, you have to see, "woman, get your fat *** in here with a beer and make the bed because Bamby is coming over to do me right like you know you can't" coming.
You have been duped real bad. Find someone who really cares about you and tell them this story...they will help you get away. Look for womens shelters...they help with this sort of thing.
Turn this sick love you have into getting mad.
2007-09-05 04:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sway 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should divorce him and then get yourself into counseling. He's a lazy, good-for-nothing freeloader who is using you for your money. It is NEVER EVER okay to hit your spouse and you should kick him out of your parents' house NOW.
It sounds like you're lucky enough to have a good support system and don't even need him to be happy. you're better off without him and he's a fool for cheating on you and treating you poorly. He seems to think that once you got married, that you would be stuck with him but that's not the case. Get an annulment if it's only been 6 months.
2007-09-05 04:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you dont have decision power, you need to build confidence in your self, You are young and educated so You dont need a fake LOVE, you need a friend a real friend whom u can discussed this all matter at any time, these type of person are hungry for money and lust, they dont care the next person, But u Loved him, so if you have a power that you can change him go ahead, try it but make some rules like how long and why you want to change him, make some dead line and after that convience your heart that you can live without him and always remember his bad attitude..Good Luck
2007-09-05 04:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Muhammad Nasir 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him.
WHAT exactly do you love about him?
You claim to come from a "...very rich and high class family with masters in education.", yet it is clear that you are lacking something (besides "spell-check"), and it is something that money can't buy: common sense.
Here's my take on what limited and one-sided information you offer:
Get the hell out of that so-called "love marriage".
Love does NOT mean lying, hitting, hurting and if this is going on after only six months, well honey, you need help in understanding that you are being used and abused.
Get a divorce, learn from your mistakes, take a crash course in marriage counseling and self-help.
Time to discover that despite your family background, you are ill-prepared to face the real world of abusive people.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-09-05 04:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way to get rid of it DIVORCE thought you don't like the idea.
But look... Man like this doesn't change.. Lier and irresponsible.
He lied to you from the beginning surely till the end.
After all the bad things he had done to you, He can still slapped you.
First slapped....2nd Bad....3rd WORSE.
People like this doesn't deserve to love. Because they them selves doesn't know how to Love.
We jump into a relationship because we wanted to be happy not sad. Trust not cheating. Caring not hurting.
You're still young, beautiful and have full life ahead of you.
Why don't you move on.
There's still a lot of good guys and I'm sure there is one destine for you coz you are a good person.
God speed.
2007-09-05 04:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say,you love him.But he does not love you nothing.Think what kind of future you have living with him: nothing,not future at all.you have 2 way out about this situation.One is: ask your parents help to solve this problem,then together your parents and you can talk seriously with him.His behaviour is wrong at all.He can not live in that way,being married.If he is single,who cares what he is doing.But now he has a serious responsibility: take care about you and your future.Second way out: if he does not change,divorce is the only way out.Love is mutual.A marriage will be forever,when both love each other,one another.But in this case is clear: that he does not love you indeed,he does not respect you;and he does not respect your family and himself.Think good.Good luck.You can not stuck with that kind of man all your life.Talk with him.
2007-09-05 04:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce Him... Your Marriage is predicated on A Lie. He Does no longer something The Bible Says is estimated of A Husband And He Beats On You... Kick Him To The decrease With purely the garments On His returned considering He does not Have something.
2016-10-10 00:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by newmans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thrilled you will not be teaching my grandchildren. Your masters in education was perhaps purchased for you by your "very rich and high class family"?
delusion de·lu·sion
Pronunciation: di-'lü-zh&n, dE-
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Late Latin delusion-, delusio, from deludere
1 : the act of deluding : the state of being deluded
2 a : something that is falsely or delusively believed or propagated b : a persistent false psychotic belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary; also : the abnormal state marked by such beliefs
- de·lu·sion·al /-'lüzh-n&l, -'lü-zh&-n&l/ adjective
- de·lu·sion·ary /-zh&-"ner-E/ adjective
2007-09-05 04:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. Stay with your parents, where you can be safe from him for a while. Tell him to get away from you. You do not deserve the cheating a slapping. He is taking your money while he is doing this! LEAVE!! Get a better life with someone better than him...
THIS IS NOT LOVE!!
You will thank yourself in the end when you are more happy without him...
2007-09-05 04:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by brandym8099 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what a blue film is.
This guy is a jerk. You should leave him now. If he has been lying to you and you can prove it, you could even get him for fraud. Trust me I stuck with a dishonest man for five years- they never change no matter how much you love them. you will just be miserable and he will keep doing his thing with no regard to you. End it now before you have children. Then you will never have to talk to him again.
For someone with a Masters in Education - your Grammar is terrible.
2007-09-05 04:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋