Ive never lived close to my family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousin..) except my parents and one of my brothers. And Im only close with my immediate family and one of my aunts. Now that Im pregnant it seems like all the sudden my distant family is so interested in me and the baby (I know their only wondering about my baby) I kind of had a feeling that would happen and I really have no interest in talking to them about me or my child. I guess I was kind of offended a little bit that they had nothing to do with me until I got pregnant...Oh and the people who are interested in what im naming the baby, where im registered etc. they are the ones who have never sent a bday card, xmas present or anything. Anyone else had this happen?! Id love to hear other stories (or maybe im crazy!!)
thanks anyways!!
2007-09-05 04:19:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I wouldn't analyze it too much. Just give them the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps the fact that you are having a baby was a reminder to them that they don't know you well and should have kept in touch all this time. Maybe now they are trying to make up for it.
Whatever the reason, I would accept their gesture and be glad that you and your baby will be connected with more family members.
Accept the gifts and the curiosity with happiness and gratitude. Your baby will thank you for it!
2007-09-05 04:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is probably true that nothing brings a family together more than news about a new addition. I would try to take advantage of the new found interest and use it to develop a relationship with the distant family members. It may not be that they were not interested in you, it could be that they did not have a topic or commonality on which to approach you. The baby gives them a reason and opportunity to have something to talk to you about. I hope you use this to stay in touch with all your family. ( I presume that you also were not keeping in touch with them.) A baby is a much better excuse for a family to come together than a funeral - which is another event that can bring a family together after periods of distance.)
2007-09-05 04:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by PeteInNashville 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I come from a really large family and the same thing happens with us. when something big happens, they all want to be a part of it, but the rest of the time they could care less.
For example, my mother's side of the family has pretty much no contact with my family. To the point where they would call the house and sound shocked when he picked up the phone saying things like "oh, we didn't think you were still around" or "wow, you've lasted this long." [apparently they don't like my father.]... Then my dad had a heart attack. then they were all coming to the house and trying to help out.
I wanted to scream at them and tell them to just leave us alone. They didn't care when we were doing well, why the hell should they care when we're not.
I just hate how people will have nothing to do with each other til they want to be part of something or they think that they're going to get something out of it.
It's sooo sad.
2007-09-05 04:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been dealing with this from day one...but not really with my family. It's my hubby's family! From the time we got together, I was just that girl that shows up with Nelson. I was okay with that cuz he has a huge family and it's hard to keep everyone straight. But now they call and stop me when they see me and they're SO interested in everything! I felt ignored and now I feel like they still don't especially like me but I'm adding to their family so I'm cool now.
Most of thems till don't even know my name, but they know the baby's name!
2007-09-05 04:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shanny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them where you registered and when the gift comes send a thank you and when the baby comes send an announcment....but other than that I wouldnt invite them over or anything, they are not true family, but you should be a bit polite, plus it doesnt hurt for them to purchase the baby a gift!
2007-09-05 04:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by tll 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My opinion only here...try not to be offended.
Get over your hurt from your family in the past.
Take the attention and whatever gifts they offer to give. Make polite conversation about your baby and enjoy the attention. Babies do funny things to people...they make them happy.
enjoy it and try not to over think it...not like they WANT something from you.
2007-09-05 04:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by GayLF 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 22:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by dudderar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you may not like them but they are your family regardless and you could look at it this way...you may not benifit from the situation but your baby will!!!! Congrats!!!!
2007-09-05 04:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by LosersSuck 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my distant family is still distant...they couldn't care less and that suits me fine
2007-09-05 04:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋