My husband has started walking in the afternoons. I could use some exercise myself so I thought that he would not mind if I tagged along, though he always would get up to go at times when I was in the middle of something - cooking, bathing, helping with homework. And then the times that I did get into my exercise attire, he made up some reason why he was not planning on walking that day. Anyway, one afternoon after he left, I glanced out the window and he and another woman were walking right in front of the house! I realized at that point why he was not enthusiastic about me walking with him. I let him know that I was not happy about it. They stopped walking together and he stopped walking completely. I tried to get him to walk with me but he says he is tired. Anyway, I told him he should start walking again and he went yesterday and came back and said that another woman neighbor asked if she could start walking with him. Should I be concerned that he does not want to walk with me?
2007-09-05 04:15:30 · 23 answers · asked by emily1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and I walk 5 miles every night. This is time for us to have some alone time while getting a much needed workout.
It sounds like your husband is using the time to get to know the neighbor and not you. You need to sit him down and explain that this situation makes you uncomfortable and you would like some time with him alone...no kids...no phone...only you two. If he evades that, then he has already built an emotional connection with the neighbor. Make sure when you are talking to him that you don't give him an ultimatium because he will rebel against it and push against you. Make sure you are gentle and quiet when discussing this with him to keep him from getting defensive. Don't accuse him of anything even though we both know he is a dog and is looking elsewhere. Accusations excalate into big fights and never accomplish the goal. No matter how innocent he states the situation is, make sure you help him understand that it is not okay and you have a right as his wife to feel that way.
2007-09-05 04:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by April K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be more ticked of than jealous. So he can walk with other women but not you? I could understand if he was walking by his self. We all need space and our own things to do, but he's not doing this alone. This seems very weird to me. I would tell him exactly how you feel about the situation. Ask him if he would like you walking around with other men. Maybe it's innocent, I don't know, only he knows that. But this is obviously a problem that needs to be addressed!
2007-09-05 04:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he was just walking by himself, I'd say that he just needs some space but if he's walking with other women and doesn't want to walk with you, that's fishy. I would seriously be concerned about this. You should ask him right out and don't let him avoid the question or make you think you're crazy. Why do you want to walk with other women but when i ask you to go, you're tired? And see a relationship counselor to work through this issue.
2007-09-05 04:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is kind of weird. Talk to your husband, there has to be some under lying reason why he's walking the block scoping out women! Let him know that you love him and that you want to walk with him but that you find it odd that he never has any energy when you're with him, but when another women come around he's all up for it. Tell him that he needs to figure out what he wants, either you or his freedom. Because it seems to me that he wants some excitement and is looking for an affair. Watch out, don't let this just drop.
2007-09-05 04:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is either ashame to be seen with you or he is having an affair, how can your husband decline walking with you only to tell you that another woman has asked if she could start walking with him, what happen to you?
you should be concerned he is not been fair here.
and why is he interested in walking with other women except you. You need to have a long talk with him.
2007-09-05 04:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by black&proud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you wrong for being jealous? No! Should you be concerned? I don't know. No offense, but your husband sounds somewhat emotionally immature. He may not be fully emotionally invested in your marriage, and I know that would concern me. However, you obviously know him better than me. Do you feel secure in your marriage? Do you believe his values are strong enough to overcome temptation if it's presented to him? If this is just a little harmless ego stroking, it's not a big deal. You're going to have to decide whether or not he's trustworthy.
2007-09-05 04:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be incorrect to generalize approximately this form of situation in any way, even although some all of us is silly adequate to do it, and much greater silly to specific their suggestions to end strangers whom they see strolling alongside the line with somebody of yet another race. purely forget approximately what human beings might think of and decide for a guy who has the excellent character and a powerful character and is eye-catching to you! wish you would be happy. There are proper human beings in each race, and each race has some who're grotesque. So what! we gained't help the faces and bodies we've been born with. In an prolonged-term relationship, the truly important situation is what they call "inner elegance," it is an argument of character (humor, cleverness, exciting to be with, etc.,) and character (=honesty, reliability, affection, being hardworking, empathy, etc).
2016-10-10 00:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by newmans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be steamed, yes. I wouldn't see anything wrong with him walking with neighbors if he were HONEST with you about it, like "hey hon, Lisa decided she wants to start walking, would you mind if she accompanied me?" But to keep it hidden and act all secerative about it makes it out to be something bigger than it is - and definitely makes it look like he's hiding something. I wouldn't jump the gun and say he's doing anything with these women, but maybe he's flattered by them and likes their company. Either way it's not very healthy for your relationship, and the fact that he won't go if you go along raises red flags for me. I would be very disappointed. Sit him down again and tell him exactly what you've told us, how he makes you feel unimportant and left out. Good luck.
2007-09-05 04:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes you should be concerned. I would be pissed if my husband were to allow another woman to walk with him but wouldn't want me tagging along and would find excuses to not walk with me....Not sure what is going on with him...but something is not right!
2007-09-05 04:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a little odd. Are you being jealous or is this really cause for concern? I'm not the jealous type but if my man didn't want me to get my exercise with him because he wanted to do so with another woman and wasn't forthcoming with such info...yeah I'd be bothered.
2007-09-05 04:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋