My husband just got me my own Xbox Live account so we could play against each other. Well now when i play everyone knows that I am a Girl so a ton of guys keep requesting to be my friend. My husband is way mad, but i dont think he should be cause i decline all there requests. Do you think he has the right to be upset?? What should i do?
2007-09-05 04:10:33 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you everyone. I let My husband Read all Your Responses and he Realized that he was Being Silly and that he Is glad that I am spending Time with him and His friends on HALO2. HE said that as long as I keep Denying the Requests then he will just be flattered that guys want to be my friend.
2007-09-05 05:08:40 · update #1
We are in our 40's and play PS2 all of the time for all of the people who think adults shouldn't play games together....anyhow..this isn't your fault...is there anyway that you can change your profile to say you are a man....? Don't know if it is possible, sounds like a solution though.
2007-09-05 04:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up. If you're declining the guys requests then what's the problem? That's like having a My Space account. You will get tons of friends requests from men, but you just block or decline that person. Big deal. You cannot control what other people do.
2007-09-05 04:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off -- mad props to the hubblybubbly for getting you a Live account and including you in his activity. Second, jealousy isn't pretty and can add undue stress on a relationship, so! Make sure you're not encouraging the guys, or maybe even set your gender to neutral or whatever. Hubby probably shouldn't be *very* mad unless there's a deeper reason. If you're declining the requests, then you're fine. Keep in mind, they have the "right" to get upset about anything they want, just like you do. Be a sweetheart and thank him for playing with you and just massage his ego a bit, he'll get over it. (And if he doesn't, you're screwed.)
2007-09-05 04:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are denying the requests? Then I don't see what the problem is. It sounds like your husband may be jealous or insecure. Explain to him that you are denying the requests. Reassure him that you are married to him and love him! If he still freaks out about it, then he needs to work on his insecurities because from the way you make it sound, you aren't doing anything wrong.
2007-09-05 04:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that could cause mistrust or potential strife within a marraige is important enough to be put on the highest pedastal.
You are the one who can change this. It's not a wrong or right issue, it's a "marrital" issue, and your husband is supreme in your life. Not games, not fun, not superflous entertainment.
Put yourself in the other shoe. If he put himself in situations that girls would start flirting with him, though he never said "yes", how would that make you feel?
Continue your justifications for fun like you are, and I would almost suggest putting that Xbox on ebay to get it out of your marriage. If you can't even be responsible enough to incorporate some fun AND be mature in your marriage, you certainly are not up to the responsibility of more important matters.
Be careful you don't make yourself, your fun, your seemingly innocent entertainment more important to you than your own marriage.
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2007-09-05 04:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kind of ridiculous that he's getting mad when he was the one that got you the account! He had to have known that this would happen and it's not like you're flirting and accepting their requests. You can't stop guys from friending you so if your husband is mad, it's his issue, not yours.
2007-09-05 04:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rita F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just jealous just laugh it off. And that's good that you decline the requests from these guys because it would only add fuel to the fire. Your husband will get over it.
2007-09-05 04:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to love doin that. I'd sign into xbox live and have my gf talk into the mic. Id get sooooo many friend requests. Your husband shouldn't be jealous of lonely boys on Xbox Live.
2007-09-05 04:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is how I would want my wife to answer that:
"Honey, you have nothing to worry about. I am so uninterested in these "friend requests", that I'll "peel this mofo's cap back with my sniper rifle." Hopefully, you'll be playing Gears of War or Halo.
I would be proud to watch my wife frag these men that "keep requesting to be my friend."
2007-09-05 04:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Toby D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he just has a very jelous personality, but I don't think it's right for him to be mad over it if you decline there requests
2007-09-05 04:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by wingedstrider 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋