i need serious advice.?

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dancer girly
S I nedd serious advice.?
i need advice. what should i do with about this...(plzzz read)

i just started middle school and everything is going wrong with my friends. there is this girl named tanya and she is really nice but she became friends with the wrong ppl.

the ppl she became friends with are preppy and idiots. there is this girl named jessica someone who tore me apart in 2nd grade. she stabbed me in the back and i just have hated her ever since. tanya knew about this and doesnt care. i know when jessica finds a new girl and becomes bff with someone her tanya is gonna get seriously hurt.

ive triends taking with her alone but she justed doesnt listen. i dont want to even bother with her anymore but then again she is one of my friends and i cant let that happen, :[

Answer 1

the best way to speak to ur frnd abt this matter is over the telphone. she will listen to u for sure. even if she does not listen to u first talk to her patiently. ialso had the same experience as u but i did the same thing.

Answer 2

2nd grade is light years away. People do grow, but perhaps not very much by middle school.
Tanya is apparently a "social climber" trying to get some self-esteem through reflected status by hanging out with these preppies. At least she isn't hanging out with the gel-heads. Tanya will learn her lessons at her own pace, and so will Jessica. Users can't hang onto friends.

Move on and make use of all opportunities to make new friends. Join some clubs or sports at school where you can socialize.

Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.