See, he lives in another town and we spend time on the internet and phone talking. We used to be very much in love but I screwed it up on purpose because I was so young. What does it mean now when he says he wants to see me, then in another email he says there is nothing between us, then in yet another he says the sky is the limit when talking about us meeting face to face again. He's only been divorced about 6 months from a woman he married on the rebound--he says If I hadn't have broke things off with him, he would have never gone through this. Sometimes he acts as if he wants to care about me and sometimes he acts as if he is mad at me still. Any advice? I really love him and I always have but I was young and stupid when I was with him before. Any advice on what to do, or how to show him I truly care would be greatly appreciated.
2007-09-05 03:49:54 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he's not sure about his feelings. Or either he still have feelings for the other woman.
He probably got disappointed with whatever you say you did because you were young...now you just need to tell him: I love you and I really want this to work but please stop playing games with my heart and just tell me what you REALLY want.
The worst thing you can hear is: I dont want/love you anymore or I need some space...if he says either of those then you need to move on and stop having a hope.
Good luck. I hope it works out.
2007-09-05 03:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by bloodymary24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says if you hadn't broken things off with him, he would have never gone through this. I don't think you were the one at the alter saying 'I do'. This man is really insecure and wants to blame you and others for decisions he made. I think you are worth more than being his punching bag. I would dump him. Sounds like you know how to love but he doesn't even know how to love himself yet. A rule of mine, once I leave a man I never go back. I did this one time and ended up divorcing him 17 years later. I should followed my heart the first time.
2007-09-05 11:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Vicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If I hadn't broke things off with him, he would have never gone through this."
Seems like he is blaming you for the stupid things happened to him.... Is it he the one who decide on his life?
My goodness what kind of a man is that? Irresponsible.
You sounds like you are more mature than him.
If you decide to go back to him... be ready on those qualms.
Yeah, he still mad at you which is not the correct first step to build a relationship.
Why don't you look for another?
There are still a lot of good guys and I'm sure there is one destine for you.
Good luck.
2007-09-05 11:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are nothing but a chance for this guy to get lucky.
I know that hurts but because of the guilt trip and playing both sides of your emotions he thinks he can get lucky.
Think about the fact that you are now the rebound!
2007-09-05 11:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by Walkerfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has issues. My advise: Leave it alone for a while, do not contact him, by phone, email, messenger, snail mail. Nothing! See just how long it will take him to contact you. If it is a short amount of time, (a couple of days) then you'll know he really is interested. If it is a couple of weeks or more. Then you'll know -FORGET about him.
2007-09-05 11:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Maxine PantherFan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is jumping back and forth. One minute he wants you and then the next he is unsure. Give it time and do not rush anything what is meant to be will be. Good luck!
2007-09-05 10:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by whisper2ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm maybe your not the only on line woman he talks too...
2007-09-05 10:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look...this guy mite jus want you for sex....so you better be careful...if you really care...jus tell him
2007-09-05 10:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by cookiecracker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋