He is very clever -- the only time he could possiblly be cheating is during the day when he is doing "field work"; he is a Project Manager and has to visit all the work sites. He has two cell phones (the second one is suppose to be for his project field work - but I have no access); I use to have access to the other cell phone details, but recently haven't been able to access them. Then there is the computer - I am an above average user and I work partly from home. Routinely I have to clean the house computer and I find things he has attempted to conceal (i.e. his profile with statements regarding our personal sex life); saved profiles of women 1/2 his age; and fore a most of 2006 and part of 2007 he had to work late the same night each week. Make me wonder about the annual trips for 3-5 days two times a year.
2007-09-05 03:46:46 · 15 answers · asked by TEXAS LADY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to your gut, honey.
All that adds up in a nasty way.
I would suggest marriage counseling, and failing that, consider divorce.
2007-09-05 03:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife doesn't give a **** WHERE I stick it at this point. Is that the same thing as forgiveness? Regarding my ability to forgive infidelity...If I felt loved, but that my partner had merely succumbed to a momentary temptation, I think I could forgive that once. I've done it before, even though it was more than a momentary temptation. But if a partner were to do that three times or more, at that point I'd consider it more of a habit than a lapse. And that would probably be the end of that relationship. That being said, people don't really know how they're going to act in those types of situations until they're faced with the reality of it. Giving someone up whom you've become quite attached to can be difficult, and also, feelings of betrayal may be stronger than one might expect.
2016-05-17 08:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is to catch him red-handed. If you think he is cheating then no matter what you find you are going to construe it in your head that he is cheating. I am not telling you to spy on him or hire a private detective or anything either though. Just love him, talk to him and do your best for him without compromising yourself any. The simple fact is that if a man or woman wants to cheat...they are going to. More than likely it has nothing to do with you at all but simple satisfaction.
2007-09-05 03:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy a key logger program to track his key movements on the computer. When you are with him, and he uses his cell phone to access VM see if you can figure out what numbers he is pushing to access. These two things are inexpensive and can't be noticed. I hate to be sneaky, however if I thought my husband were cheating, I would go to any length to find out. Sorry you feel this way...I wish you happiness.
2007-09-05 03:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have gathered quite a lot circumstantial evidence against your hubby. The first step is to open the lines of communication with him. Don't kick the door in and accuse him blindly, sit down with him and talk, calmly. Find out if there is something wrong with your relationship. Find out what there is that you can do to help.
2007-09-05 04:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by sumfin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Tennessee, but I would pick a day and follow him too and just see whats going on. Try to get car he won't recognize and a disguise and walla follow him, hide and watch. I know a few women who did this and caught them every time.
2007-09-08 20:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by celinallll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The smell! When he comes home late one night start going down on him to give him oral! If he is cheating he probably wont let you do it, BUT if he does you can smell the other lady or the rubber/latex smell from the condom on his penis! Not the most fun way but it is tried and true!
2007-09-05 03:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the more important question to ask would be -
so what if you really find out the truth, what are you going to do?
basically when there is no trust in a relationship, it sounds like putting a full-stop sooner or later.
2007-09-05 04:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on you have lost trust in him for a reason. If he is hiding phone records and such there is something going on.
2007-09-05 03:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's treating you the same as always, leave him alone!
if he is treating you real bad..... then you are just looking for an excuse to end it....
you are asking for trouble.... STOP IT!
2007-09-05 05:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋