Help my in laws are ruining my marriage what should I do?

Question

all my in laws do is start trouble, they are a bunch of troublemakers what should I do to keep them away. they are ruining my marriage

Answer 1

bale!!!

if your partner isn't willing to kick them into touch, then move on...

Answer 2

You don't give any details so it's hard to answer...But, according to the Bible, when a man and woman are joined together they become as one. It also says that what God brings together let no man separate...Once the two of you married your obligations towards one another is most important. Your in-laws need to back off. If they are making your marriage difficult because of their butting in then I would firmly tell them to either back off or stay away period. You need to make sure your spouse is on the same page with you on this and both of you need to be firm. Tell your in-laws that if they choose to keep interfering with your marriage they are no longer welcome in your home until they can act like adults. Whenever they have contact with either one of you the subject of marriage or your partner is strictly off limits. Refuse to talk about either. You love your spouse, don't let anyone ruin that because they have a problem...Protect your marriage and look after the best interest of your partner. If you let them cause any kind of division between you two it only encourages them to push more...So put your foot down and tell them it stops, but do it in a kind way, don't get mad, don't let your temper flair, keep your cool and tell them how it is, either get on board or get off, the train is pulling out of the station... -- Good Luck!

Answer 3

Have a serious talk with your husband about the situation. They can't ruin your marriage if you guys dont let them. If your husband sees what is going on & has any consideration for you & your marriage, he will either have a talk with his parents or move away from them. My in laws were somewhat the same way & we ended up distancing ourselves from that entire family. We are much happier without them in our lives. Sometimes that is just the way it has to be!
Good luck :)

Answer 4

i was married to what i thought was the man of my dreams...we lived spitting distance from his mom and his sister...we was in the middle and his parents was on one side and on the other we had his crystal meth headed sister...but his dad would never stay at a job longer than 2 months and his mom would constantly want to borrow money that my husband would just give her and then she would then trun around and give it to her son-n-law and daughter cause they was to sorry to get off their *** and find a job to support their habit....we never had anything together,,,we couldn't do anything without asking or telling them first...his mom knew everything we did down to when we had sex,farted or what made us go at the bathroom...and in the middle of all this lie a, at the time a 6 and a 3 year old...until one day and i know this sounds unfair but one day i found some one who swept me off my feet and i took my kids and left from there...we are and have been in the middle of a divorce for a long year and a custody battle.....i was looking for away out and found it..maybe that was the wrong way to take but when talking with my husband about it would not get through to him i had no choice but to leave...my kids did not need to be in the middle of an crystal meth lab...which they lived spitting distance from..if that thing would have blew up it porbably would have hurt us all and killed my sister-n-law and her dumbass husband...but all i can tell u is try talking to him then seek couciling fro the both of u we never did that but it would have not mattered any way...but good luck to u and yours...

Answer 5

Move far away. Seriously, in-laws can devistate a marriage. Is your spouse too involved in the family drama to stand up to them? This is often the case with dysfunctional families.

I'd discuss it openly with him and be sure to emphasize that you don't hate his family, but that you feel it's doing to much harm to your marriage and especially to Him.

Then seriously, consider moving far enough away that you have control over how much they interfer in your life.

Answer 6

Have you talked to your husband about them? How does he feel? If he doesn't feel the same way then you have a problem. If your husband agrees you can make less time for them (Never be at home, don't talk on the phone much). If your husband doesn't agree you may have to make him make a choice and your marriage may be finished. Pray!

Answer 7

Stop letting them ruin things for you.

Set personal boundaries... if you don't know what these are, do a web search on SETTING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.

When others "ruin" things for us, it's because we let them.

Gather your dignity, act like a lady, and move on with your own life... just because others behave inappropriately, doesn't mean we have to get all stressed out over it... you can't control anyon'es actions but your own, hon.

take care

Answer 8

Going through this too, can't stand mine and they can't stand me, lol. The way we get through it is they don't come to my house and if they do they stay in their car and he goes and talks to them outside and he goes sees them at their house. On holidays he goes, I stay home till its time to go to mine and we all go (we all get along, at mine). I don't keep him away from his family but I don't go around them. Thats the only way we have found to keep peace between us and we've been together for 11 years. So good luck to you and I feel for you, sometimes I use to think if it was worth all this just to be with him, but its working out. When theres a will theres a way, this may not be for ya'll but something can be worked out if you both want to be together bad enough.

Answer 9

first of all thats why a mand leaves his home to get married and to become as one, if your inlaws are trying to ruin your marriage its because you are letting them. Just stay away from them as much as possible and try to work on your marriage with your husband.

best of luck

Answer 10

wow now this is something i know about and alot about on top of that.
my lin laws did that to me as well well they tryed but it did not work
thier is not much you can do just talk to your other half and see what they say and take it from their we moved far a way form my in laws and that helped us a lot and now we could not be happier why dont you move and way or just not talk to them

Answer 11

I agree. Move from them. Won't help if they are independantly wealthy and can follow you.

We tried to move and my in-laws followed.

Alternatively, have a talk with them. First, have a talk with your spouse and see if you two can come up with any ideas. After all, they are your spouse's parents.

Good luck