on how to regard on how we feel when we talk to people. understanding our underlining psychological needs and unconscious behaviour we do when in social; situations and how to break a chain of woman dominance and perverse needings to see other women in a perverse way. to understand how we feel about people.
2007-09-05 03:34:14 · 3 answers · asked by shadow 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Choice Theory
By: William Glasser
http://www.amazon.com/Choice-Theory-Psychology-Personal-Freedom/dp/0060930144
2007-09-05 03:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the late 70's through to the late 90's I was both a member of a variety of 'Encounter Groups' ~ and a student / group leader ....and your question sparked this line of thinking off.
Ideally (in my opinion), it would not harm you to seek out someone who could asses for you what your needs are ~ which might well be different from what you see them as ~ and perhaps offer you some guidance.
At its base simplest ....It is fine to have an understanding as to what is going on in the head of another (or even your own), and of how to react to another in given circumstances........
But, that is all academic AND it presupposes that in the IDEAL situation, the other person/s are going to cooperate with you are your mechanisms for dealing with situations ~ that they are going to be understanding of YOUR situation and thus help you through whatever it is you are encountering.
It's a pretty BIG area of human understanding / misunderstanding and errors .....and hence my suggestion at looking for some one-to-one guidance.
Look in your local Yellow Pages for help in the Local Area pages ~ as a starting point.
Good luck with it.
Sash.
2007-09-05 04:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to start with is therapy. These changes you look for can not be found in a "how-to" book. You're taking about alerting your thought patterns, breaking abusive cycles and finding a better path to live your life. There are man many books on psychology, but again, what you're asking for is not a magic spell. It takes time, patience, and dedication, as well as guidance from someone who is specialised in what you're looking for. I know that is not the answer you wanted, but that is the only way. Please, get help for yourself and do not allow your suffering to continue needlessly. The abuse and mistreatment you have suffered are causing you to think that, subconsciously, that is how things are, and they are not supposed to be that way. Please, get help for yourself, and please do not hurt yourself or anyone else, and do not give in to the mistreatment of others. You are aware of how badly it hurts and makes you feel, why would you wish to see someone else suffer the same? End the cycle and heal yourself.
2007-09-05 14:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋