How should I handle my cheating fiancee?

Question

He is currently married, which makes me think once we get married, he will cheat on me. Plus he's only promised 18-48 months which I find sad since we've adopted 2 Ugandan children. He said normally he would make me sign a 4 year contract, but being that I'm a dancer, he doesn't truly trust me. He is always going out of town on "business" meetings and sometimes comes home without pants. Plus he always goes to baseball games with his buddy AJ. I think AJ is a woman. I'm heartbroken. The first time I laid eyes on him at a Spaghetti cook off in Texas, I knew he was the one for me. The only negative thing I can find about him is his love for Hannah Montana. Not that there is anything wrong with her, because she plays the guitar you know, but he forces it me and the kids. Its like everything we do as a family is based around Hannah Montana and how great she is. He is a 34 year old construction worker, so I find it odd. Also, I think his friend Buff has a crush on me. I'm so confused, help!

Answer 1

This is so great. It's gotta be my most favorite soap opera ever. You'll have to think up a name for it.

Answer 2

Personally, I think the fact that I have a wife should show you that I AM able to make a commitment to you. I have a history of making promises!

My friend AJ gives me a work out. I need it for my problems with my lower back and groin. I thought you were okay with that.

Isn't it wicked cool how Hannah Montana plays the guitar? She is so gnarly.

Buff?? That bastard!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I am a beliver what comes around goes around! Know what you want and understand why you want it. Now is your findings fair and honest? Cheating always ends up in people getting hurt - sometimes for a life time! Generally what a person gives is what they receive - either through a short run or in the long run! If you have kids and you cheat, what is this telling your kids?

Answer 4

"DUH!!! I could have had a V8" If you are even dating a married man you are out of your wits. When will the 'immature girls and women' out there 'grow up' and face some very serious truth. " IF HE IS CHEATING ON HIS OWN WIFE WITH WITH YOU... DUH, WHY DO YOU EVEN QUESTION THAT HE WILL BE 'MISTER GOODY TWO SHOES' WITH YOU?"

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Here is why. Sin comes from within! Sin is not what you do. Sin is who you are. You are either a SINNER or you are RIGHTEOUS. The Bible says you CANNOT serve two masters. You cannot be good and bad at the same time because it is the nature of man that you are really dealing with. Things beget themselves either on the 'good' side or the 'bad' side. Once you start the ball rolling, it gets easier and easier to continue it. One drink leads to two. One fix leads to two. One affair leads to two. Unless you come clean for good. But if the person is in the process of having an affair.... with you... or anyone else, they will get tired of you someday and cheat. AND even if they don't, YOU will 'ALWAYS WONDER' because you know deep inside that they were unfaithful with their wife with you and you will always question them doing the same thing when you become their wife. GET SMART AND DUMP HIM and, GET EVEN SMARTER AND COME CLEAN YOURSELF. Why do you want to belittle yourself by being the 'adultress' in the first place? Don't put a mark on your personality be becoming the 'woman' who is responsible for ending someones marriage. It will haunt you for the rest of your life once you 'wake up to reality'.

Answer 5

get rid of him before it gets worse hun.
this isn't really going anywhere.
and the hannah montana thing.... well i know a 22 yr old man who masturbates to her. odd... isn't it? it doesn't even look like she's gone through puberty yet. ewwyy.

you guys have to have communication and talk to eachother and be commited or else you are both wasting your time.

Answer 6

This sounds truly confusing...I'd quit 'handling' him and start over alone until I grew up enough to recognize a chaotic mess like this. And if I ever ran into another mess like this one, and let myself get involved, I'd give up forever.

Answer 7

If ya making this up, you shd write a book. If ya not, your life is sh*t babe, too much DRAMA. I ll just pack my bag and leave the country to some beautiful beach destination if Im you. I hate dramas.

Answer 8

Shes your spouse, each little thing hapns for a reason, have you ever long previous to marriage counsoling ? i think of youre puzzled, im sorry yet i think of your daughter is stable adequate reason to artwork it out w ur "spouse" i will empithize ive been separated fr my companion earlier and we desperate to artwork issues out, im so happy we did we arent suitable yet we are studying as we pass alongside. stable luck to u :)

Answer 9

no offence but I think you should forget him......cuz like what you said that Hannah Montana thing? he is forcing you to do what you don't like...if he really loves you then he will understand you......is he your first love? well....there is a saying "your first love not your truest love" everytime you're inlove it's normal to feel that "he is the one..." but for me ...............you should forget him.....it's for your own good.....

Answer 10

Hire a private deactivate, to get pics and vid or him, cheating, show it to him, get a divorce and get everything you can, even the hair off his hair.